Several months ago, when Ben went hunting, or fishing, or something manly- whatever, in Florida, he found himself about done at the end of day 2-out-of-3.   Later in the evening when he was standing around this world class resort with a martini in his hand, yucking it up with all the other swells, […]

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  • Elaine Ambrose - Thanks for taking us along! And, I didn’t need to dress up or wear heels.ReplyCancel

  • Leanne@crestingthehill - wayyyyyy out of my league but still very impressive! Well done on becoming one of the rich and not-so-famous :) ~ LeanneReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - I’ll take rich over famous any day of the week! Ha!ReplyCancel

  • Mari Collier - Gorgeous! A life I will never know. That ceiling is heavenly.ReplyCancel

  • Sue - This is so cool that husband hitched a ride home in a private jet. This is why you are truely our Queen of blogland.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Hahahahaaa….. if it were only true Sue!ReplyCancel

  I’d like to take a minute to impart my ignorance wisdom about the current state of affairs insofar as the American Politico landscape is shaping-up. (I sound smart already don’t I?)   As much as I revere the American Constitution during election season (Twelfth Amendment) the electing of a President seems like an exercise […]

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  • Tammy - I think that Trump’s popularity says a LOT more about America’s disgust with our current reps. Congressmen, Senators, the peeps in the White House, are not held in trust by the American people. How can you blame them? It’s more about disliking who is there and wanting someone who is strong enough to get them out. Trump has some pretty valid ideas. But his constituents often run in the same arena as bigots. Take a look at the diversity of his supporters in his audiences. You will be hard pressed to find any. When you have one of his tried and true supporters ignorantly spouting off to an esteemed long time reporter (and citizen of the U.S.) of Univision to “get out of my country”, you have to wonder who Trump is pandering to. Yes, he is entertaining. But he is also volatile, narcissistic, ego driven and would benefit greatly from anger management. Not exactly Presidential material. Trump has built his platform bashing China, all the while building his clothing empire on the backs of Chinese child laborers. It makes one wonder about his priorities. The jury is still out, and America has not yet spoken. It will be very interesting to see what unfolds. Very interesting indeed.ReplyCancel

    • SunbonnetSmart - http://www.usatoday.com/story/opinion/2015/07/26/donald-trump-hispanics-mexico-latinos-republican-voters/30697991/

      Indeed, a new poll of GOP primary voters in Nevada by One America News Network shows Trump in first place among Hispanics. He was the choice of 27.7% of respondents overall. But, among Hispanics, the figure jumped to 31.4%. That showing did not escape Trump, who mentions the poll often.

      There are at least three reasons that Trump is likely to make a decent showing with Hispanic voters:

      What’s the Republican alternative? Will Hispanics flock in droves to Mike Huckabee, Scott Walker, Carly Fiorina, Ben Carson, or much of the rest of the GOP presidential field? Not likely. Only two of the other 15 “also rans” could get in Trump’s way with Hispanics in the GOP primaries: Marco Rubio and Jeb Bush. And instead of speaking forthrightly about issues such as immigration, the Floridians often seem cautious and reserved in their comments as if they’re afraid of alienating white people. Here’s a warning to them, and politicians everywhere: When you flinch, Hispanics notice.

      Trump’s immigration hard line is not a deal killer with all Hispanics, many of whom want stricter border security. More than half of all Border Patrol agents — about 52% — are Hispanic. Moreover, the closer you get to the border, the more likely you are to find Hispanics who worry about the issue that Trump brought to light: the alleged criminal element coming across the border. That was true in Arizona, where a controversial immigration law requiring police to check the legal status of anyone with whom they came in contact found pockets of support among those who lived on the front lines.

      Hispanics are just like other Americans. And why not? In New Mexico and Arizona, some trace their family histories back seven or eight generations. Thus what appeals to many other people about Trump also appeals to them. Hispanics have been deceived and manipulated by both parties. And they’re hungry for a candidate who says what he thinks, doesn’t back down, hammers the news media, and doesn’t sugarcoat differences with opponents. Apart from substance, Trump will get points for his style which — during a hot summer — seems as refreshing as a cool breeze.

      Hispanics for Trump? Oh yeah. Get ready. That’s a thing.ReplyCancel

      • Cheryl - Wow. Let me read through this……… Okay. So here goes, I agree with you on EVERYTHING. I think as for Republicans and the Hispanic vote- they (the Hispanic voting block) are concerned with jobs and not immigration- at least the ones that CAN vote b/c they are citizens. They very likely are also concerned with illegal workers doing a job they’d like to be paid above the board for. Everyone has been deceived by both parties and almost everyone is fed-up. It’s an isolated individual that believes that long arrived multi-generational families, like many of Hispanic roots in our SW are NOT fed-up as well— with the immigration deluge. The Donald (and whatever chord he’s hitting) is a wake-up call for Washington. Thanks for stopping by and leaving such an awesome comment! XXOOReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - In response: 1) Yes- fed-up, 2)no trust- check, 3)4)5) When he says he loves diversity, I think he’s talking more about who he hires in the ‘field’ and I mean field- like with grass, 6) best ticket in town, 7)complex personality 8)hypocritical and YES- it’s VERY interesting!ReplyCancel

      • Cheryl - Tammy- this response was for you my Dear. DOn;t know why it didn;t take right under the stream.ReplyCancel

  • Anita Dzirne-Irlen - Cheryl, I don’t think I agree with a lot (lot lot) you say, but I enjoy reading it. Actually, sometimes I don’t know if you’re just kidding around? I do think it’s awesome that you even tackled this Donald subject. You have more b—s than me, for sure. One thing, about the U.S. being top dog. We no longer are. Especially economically, especially in terms of respect. Very many smart men and women have stated over the past 20 years or so, we are in decline, for now anyway. Maybe it’s time to stop beating our chests about it and do something! That, I think we can agree on. :)ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - I just had to write ‘something’ about this- tongue-in-cheek or foot-in-mouth, but I’m so happy you took the time to leave your thoughtful comment. Yes-I think we could agree on much. *wink*ReplyCancel

  • Kathleen O'Donnell - Anyone who uses the word “Politico” is right in my book! I’m so disgusted with our political landscape (hey that was smart) that I consider it all theater. It says a lot about us that our choices are a dishonest cheat (everyone has amnesia all of a sudden about Hilary Clinton) and a PT Barnum buffoon. I might vote for whoever amuses me the most (The Donald is already winning) or, like my hubs, write myself in. I rooted for Mitt because I’d hoped for a polygamist with several first ladies. Alas, he wasn’t one. But, I agree Cheryl. Trump is doing something right whether we want to admit it or not. He is who he is with no apologies and from a human perspective people respond to it.ReplyCancel

  • Robin Talbott - Hello there, Cheryl! With fond memories of sitting next to you at BlogHer 15, I am delighted to read your post about Donald Trump and his latest venture as a Presidential Candidate. As a business woman, I have followed The Donald and his career since he first came to prominence. I read his book, “The Art of the Deal,” within weeks of its first release and remember its year-long place on the NYT Best Seller List. I have read the same book several times since then, and buy copies from eBay to give to business newbies.

    I am totally behind Mr. Trump’s run for the White House and am encouraging everyone I meet to beware of media spin on his words and wisdom. I have found, over and over, when I go to the original documents and YouTube videos, the discrepancies of what is actually said and what is reported are alarming.

    There is no finer Presidential hopeful at this time. Being from Maryland, I was behind local hero Dr. Ben Carson, until Mr. Trump entered the race. Now, I believe a Trump/Carson ticket would be a gift, and the nation will recognize it as such. Indeed, it is already happening, thank goodness.

    A man of Donald Trump’s fine character and commanding deportment are long overdue for the leading of our nation, against moneyed interests who exploit average citizens. Donald Trump is the only one who can get off the porch and run with the big dogs. Trust him. He has my vote.

    And, about his comments? It’s time to ruffle feathers of the status quo. “Gee, Donald! Is that all you got?” Bring it on. I’ll take honest language over backroom deals anyday. #TRUMP2016 #MakeAmericaGreatAgainReplyCancel

  • Carol Cassara - You raise some interesting points. Obviously, the electorate is pissed at the status quo, but I’m concerned about the risk of the Donald getting elected because people are not thinking. People respond to his celebrity and his narrow view of the world, in my opinion. He is not wise, he is not a savvy businessman (I know more about this than I can say) and he would make a terrible president. He is, however, a cautionary tale, just like the ridiculous Tea Party was. I was in Maui the past week, absent from the craziness of the real world. Now that i’m home I’m ready to go back to the islands and not think about this stuff.ReplyCancel

  • UP - This is awesome.
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    • Cheryl - Aaahh shucks. Just a little diddy I pulled out of my sleeve.ReplyCancel

  • Sue - I’m for The Donald and hope he makes it and fear he may not. I like that he is doing it for love of country and not to make a name for himself or to go down in history to have a good policy and get a pat on the back from the good ol boys, I say we need someone in there to lasso both side of congress and make them do the work they were elected to do instead of planning vacations and counting their stacks of money from special interest groups. And anyway, what is the difference between Donald getting mad at things said against him and nipping it in the bud and the media owned by demos not letting anything said against Obama be told in the news? Nothing! So good for the goose, good for the gander.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - You perfectly express the frustration that MOST of America is feeling. I also, enjoy it when he nipps the media in their bud. HahahaaaReplyCancel

  • Roz Warren - As a progressive radical feminist liberal democrat, I read this with interest. I think that Trump’s biggest selling point is that voters may not agree with him, but we believe that he’s telling us the truth. I only wish the same could be said about Hillary. (But I’m still going to vote for her,)ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Hillary Hillary Hillary. She’s the kind of gal that wrote in her Kindergarten dream journal her desire to be President, and yet… she has a BIG problem at this point in the game. She may not be the nominee if Biden jumps in.ReplyCancel

  • KB Cash - Your keenest point is “Has our societal push for being PC in Every. Damn. Way. actually created a void of self worth?”

    Recent studies have shown the PC approach, giving of undeserved praise, actually results in lower self esteem. It is being regarded by some as the cause of the general self-loathing of society. Sheep are fascinated by the wolf, he is danger, but he is so much like a protector from the boredom of the flock.ReplyCancel

  • Mari Collier - Let’s see if I can remember this word from the 1840’s. Bloviate, yep that is it. Donald Trump is bloviating bombast. You are right about several things. The economy is not great. Too many people are hurting and loosing their economic footing. The world thinks we are now a bunch of diplomatic wimps like people in Europe. The people have been bombarded with insults when they dare say what they think. No one really believes that they would stand up and say a person has a right to say something that they disagree with the premise or conclusion. Remember this paraphrase: I may not agree with you, but I defend to the death your right to say it. Okay I’ll quit frothing.ReplyCancel

  • Christine Carter - Oh this is just golden. I just love how you write, Cheryl!! You crack me up, and always have such a good brilliant wit about you- that I know there are nuggets of wisdom and intellect that make me nod… and squint my eyes a bit in deep thought. It’s a mess- Trump is kind of freaking me OUT with the stats… how our country could even keep him IN the polls let alone on TOP of the polls chills me to my bones,(I shudder just considering the sick notion that a man like that could possibly be the leader of our country) and your points are definitely on target in so many ways…

    This country is so far off it’s axis, there IS no stable ground to stand on… In any political arena.ReplyCancel

      Husbands. Remember when all it took to get your way was a come-hither look?   Well, it turns out they actually have their own agendas.   Why didn’t someone tell me? I believed all those Clairol commercials….   Fast forward 33 years and you actually have to know something about how marriage survives […]

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  • Mari Collier - That works for you. Mine was a tad different, but you’ll have to read my blogs for that. Why would a smart lady like you believe a commercial. LOL Not buying that one.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - When I was kid, Marie, when I was a KID I believed every commercial on TV! And in magazines! Aahhhhhh youth.ReplyCancel

  • Lisa at Grandma's Briefs - So very true on so many. THIS is the one I love best (and hits it on the head on my 33-year marriage): “Agree with him and then do what you want. He’s not really paying attention.”

    He’s more of a clean freak then I am, though, so that’s no problem. The cooking? Sheesh! I believe I’d have a heart attack if he actually cooked something. Still working on that one all these decades later.

    Great post, as always. 😀ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Thanks Lisa. Is the attention span thing ‘men’ or just OUR men? I’m thinking the chromosomes. My son, who was raised by me, is the same way as his father. God Bless his fiancée.ReplyCancel

  • Carol Cassara - Devious, girl. YOu are devious. and amusing. But maybe not to him. No, not to him.ReplyCancel

  • Rebecca Forstadt Olkowski - OMG! All so true. I just live with a guy but it’s still the same. I have to remember not to mention “We have to talk” or he will lock himself immediately in his office. Luckily, I have my own bathroom so I don’t have to worry about the toilet paper. His bathroom is a toxic waste dump. Love this.ReplyCancel

  • Helene Cohen Bludman - Haha! My husband is OCD and God forbid I leave something out and not put away. He swoops in to remedy that.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - We’d live very well together. HahahaaaReplyCancel

  • Cathy Steffanci Sikorski - Oh these are so wonderful. I guess since I’m only married 30 years, I didn’t get this far. And by the way, I’m going to dump the junk drawer just so he’s so freakin’ busy all day he stays out of my hair. Retirement, ugh! Nobody asked me if he could retire!ReplyCancel

  • Doreen McGettigan - I am so grateful that I have been blessed with a husband that does not need any of these BUT I have a few son-in-laws that might benefit. Definitely sharing with my daughters.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - It’s best to start right right at the beginning. That way your daughters will have plenty of time to add their own ‘hacks’ to the list. HahahaaaReplyCancel

  • Tam Warner Minton - Funny. But I have to admit…I’m glad it does not apply to my husband, or we’d be divorced for sure.ReplyCancel

  • Mary La Fornara Gutierrez - Oh how this made me laugh! I love the “wins”.ReplyCancel

  • Rena McDaniel - I have used quite a few of these tricks especially telling them things during football. I save the worst for home team games. It always works. That and getting out of a horrible party flirt with him for 10 seconds and you’ll be out of there in minutes works every. single. time.! Hilarious Cheryl as usual!ReplyCancel

  • Julie Sullivan Frueh - Absolutely outstanding. Genius. We just hit 25 years so I bow to your wisdom.ReplyCancel

Spring was in the air. The future seemed limitless. Anything was possible– we were in Love… LoveLoveLove.   Aahhhh Youth.   At the beginning it’s all heat and being bullet proof – together.   Then comes children and it’s about stamina and making time.   Then, it’s about hoping your kids don’t screw-up too badly […]

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  • Tam Warner Minton - Ha! We put everything we have into our families…then poof! It’s over, and all you hear about are the mistakes you made. Ugh.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - I once told my kids that if they needed therapy not to tell me about it. There is NOTHING i can do to change the past. Suck it up. HahaaaReplyCancel

  • Kimba - I’ve actually taken up fishing. And the Hubs even goes to a few estate sales with me. Yeah, it’s weird.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - So weird. I hardly recognize myself anymore. In what universe would we have EVER fished? I guess it’s the JOURNEY even if it takes you down back roads. HA!ReplyCancel

  • David Stillwell - God. I see I am not the only one who misses a rock hard pensis with plenty of girth and ample lengh… backed by the gumption that you are going to take this like a man.ReplyCancel

  • Ellen Dolgen - I love the way to write….you are hilarious and always so accurate!ReplyCancel

  • Eve Gaal - Ha! My husband snored when I met him and I love every minute! 23 years later, I wish he’d snore more but now he is an insomniac walking around and reading books in the middle of the night!ReplyCancel

  • Leanne@crestingthehill - that’s a lovely photo of you fishing in your waders 😉 besides that, congrats on producing children that make decisions without running home to mum (altho’ a little bit of advice giving would be nice!) and my husband snores too (and it’s not romantic!) ~ LeanneReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Yes- that will be me. Naked in the river. As for the kid’s- they’re fabulous and are fully aware of their father’s night time ritual. They won’t even sleep in the room next to us! Hahahaahaaaaaaa Life. Full of surprises……ReplyCancel

  • Roshni AaMom - So much to look forward to! This is why I read your posts!! 😀ReplyCancel

  • Carol Cassara - Lordy, lordy, girl, I hear you. Loud and clear! Sooo loud! LOLReplyCancel

  • Dorothy Salvatori - Oh Yeah!ReplyCancel

  • Rena McDaniel - Can you speak up a little I can’t hear you for the snoring going on beside me! Yeah, I definitely get it!ReplyCancel

  • Renee - I have an 11 year old with medical and learning challenges, a 17 year old choosing colleges based on vacation style reasoning (weather, beach access, cut guys, parties and fun) and a 21 year-old with an Ivy league college education that is graduating in May 2016 with no clue on job or further education plans but know her boyfriends job offer in engineering with major money and exciting future is cool except for the NJ location that she thought would be California with option to move in and join the fun ride). So the husband is committed to a bead/mustache in 3 colors of grey, black, brown (I did not sign up for the college professor look) and is into working a lot, whisky and addicted to video games and his phone (not me). And James Franco pug is the best behaved kid a at teen (age 2). Oh and my mom is 92 and a half with aides who help her and call to complain about her like who is paying who to bring comfort and service to someone with memory and health issues? Oy big time life so I would love to have the fishing trips and chill time but yes snoring zzz husband my life too with a lot of WTF moments from family. Hey it’s all about work in progress and letting go of expectations or attachments to stuff or thinking that is unrealistic or crazy.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Renee- you are my hero. Plates get full at our age. I just wish I didn’t have to do the dishes. I’d rather eat out. ps: I LOVE your blog.ReplyCancel

  • Abby - Hi Cheryl,
    I want to sip Champagne with a carriage boy too and at caviar from the Red Sea. I mean we’re THAT old? I’m sure our husbands wouldn’t notice:) You nailed it as usual!
    xx AbbyReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - They probably wouldn’t notice- until they needed something, like ‘We’re out of chips again, Cheryl!’ Oiy vey.ReplyCancel

  • Tammy - There’s a carriage boy? Damn. I missed that part. Caviar too? Cleary I got short changed. It was a tough transition for me, I won’t lie. There were tears and lots of confused anxiety. Once I got the swing of the empty nest, I never looked back. I love seeing my kidlet and her amazing husband. Visits are never often enough and always too short. But…here’s the good part…life turned out to be pretty damn awesome. Still…wouldn’t have minded a carriage boy…just saying!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Yes. A woman needs her ‘boys’. Carriage- or otherwise. I keep mine on retainer- and they style my hair. You’ve gotta take it where you can find it!ReplyCancel

  • Chloe Jeffreys - I’ve heard of pool boys but not carriage boys. I’ll start keeping my eye out.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Oh yes- and produce boys, and inventory stock boys, and the boy that delivers the paper. They’re all around. I flirt with all of them. It’s a gift- though probably not for them. Ha!ReplyCancel

  • Gary Sidley - I love your style of writing. And as a 56-year-old man, partnered by my wife for 34 years, and having fathered two children now aged 21 & 24, I can identify with your lament. However, in our case our interests are becoming more similar e.g. 10 years ago, she even developed a love for football (a sport she used to loathe).ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - She’s pulling your leg. No woman actually likes football. *wink*ReplyCancel

    When I was a little girl, and we went to visit my grandparents, there would often times, be in attendance, my grandfather’s sisters- Mae, Gertrude and Irene.   They dressed in long dark dresses, had heavy stockings on, sensible shoes, their hair pinned up, and smelled of rose water.   I especially loved […]

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  • Carollynn - I love stories about crazy relatives. My current relatives are boring in comparison.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - I’ve got a carpet bag full of them. That photo above is the actual photo taken of Flossie!ReplyCancel

  • Alison F. - There was some movie or T.V. show where they talked about how “we don’t put our crazy folk up in the attic. We set them out on the front porch for everyone to see.” I’m trying to follow that rule now in my life – as you get older, you find out more and more interesting things about your family (and the bonus round one you get when you get married). Nobody set their hair with chicken bones in mine though, I don’t believe . . .ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Yes- in the past I think those attics were full. Now, the front porch, or, here in New Orleans, on every street corner. Oh boy….ReplyCancel

  • Carol Cassara - Wow. Sounds like you come by it honestly–no WONDER you ended up in NOLA!!! 😉ReplyCancel

  • Leanne@crestingthehill - so exciting to have so many crazies in the family history! (I think that photo of Flossie was after she had her teeth out) anyway I think my family waited for the current generation to bring out the idiots (my brothers are referred to as “wankers” and are quite proud of the title) *sigh*
    I’m the white sheep of the family….ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Yes it was! Taken a few years before she died. It took them 20something years to finally get around to taking her ID photo. The transcripts from her time in the Insane Asylum are amazing.ReplyCancel

  • Mari Collier - Now they would prescribe something for the epilepsy and probably would have had the other under control. All families have “weird,” but I’m from the Midwest. Even when the tale is outstanding others in the family object to it being printed as others do not know. We live a long time.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Yes, she would have been diagnosed and properly treated, but they were country folk with no means. I’m from the Midwest too! Ohio. Most of my ‘people’ are gone though- so I can tell the tales.ReplyCancel

  • Estelle Sobel Erasmus - Wow. And you are the sane one! That’s why I have no desire to mess around in geneology:)ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - I’m the sanest person I know! But I LOVE the crazies. Living vicariously I suppose! HahahaaaReplyCancel

  • Rena McDaniel - Love the story Cheryl as I have a lot of crazies in my own family. They say you can definitely tell people from the South. In the north they hide their crazies down here we dress them up and sit them on the front porch. Southerners are proud of their crazies! I’m wondering if you are still getting the shit storm from your last post. I’ve been cussed out on Twitter two days in a row haha!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Thanks Rena! As for the #shitstorm, people have backed off ’cause I carry a big stick- you bash me- I bash back. But I’m cute when I do it. HAhahaaaaReplyCancel

  • Sue - Gads Cheryl, I love this stuff. Your family history story is amazing. You’re making me want to resign up with Ancestry again. My grandmother’s name was Gertrude too. We never were allowed to ask about her siblings as they were all off limits. Now when Grandfather (we called him Papa) died, his sister could not bear it and killed herself which was hidden from us for many years for obvious reasons.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - What????? Why would your grandfather’s sister kill herself over his death??? Tell me more!!!ReplyCancel

  • David Stillwell - That’s nothing… I cannot even disclose the time my cousins broke in to the funeral home to steal their fathers ashes and replace them with ashes from the BBQ… All that so their step mother would not have his ashes… She still has that urn of BBA ashes and mourns over it….ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - People are sooooooo intense. And she never found out I assume?ReplyCancel

  • RasmaSandra - That is some colorful history. I remember when I married my first husband with the inclusion of his family I called all of us the Addams Family. If anyone had really resembled Morticia and Gomez it would have been perfect. Glad at least you got to find out some things.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - And they say the cream always raises to the top- not so much sometimes! HahahaaReplyCancel

  • Diane Tolley - Oh, wow! We’ve researched our families back to the fifteen hundreds.. All disgustingly boring. Why do you have all the luck?ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - For the most part nothing in ours is half this interesting.ReplyCancel

  • Roshni AaMom - Wow!! Difficult for me to summon up any other reaction to this story!!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - It was thrilling to find a new bit of family history. I’m still hunting for more.ReplyCancel

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