The Abortion of Sisterhood

     OK People.
     I’ve had it.
     I know that this blog is usually ‘Pleasant’ and hopefully funny, and maybe just a tad interesting, but I’ve just HAD IT!
     With the woman’s RIGHT TO CHOOSE conversation (not really much of a conversation, more like a Sunday Sermon).
     I’ve been holding back for far too long.
     I’m ready to BLOW (stand back).

     NO ONE is PRO Abortion. NO ONE!!! 
     Not even the women who suffer them, and I mean ‘suffer’ because it is NEVER an easy decision. EVER!

     I really don’t think most men should have a say in this. Yes, they are part of the equation but they are not the person with whom the consequences fall on. 

     Abortions SHOULD NOT be allowed in late term, even mid-term, unless a medical issue is present. If you can’t make up your mind until your pregnancy is ‘kicking’ has ‘eyelashes’, and can ‘smile’- then, guess what- your gonna be a Mommy.

     Does ANYONE really think that by outlawing legal abortions it will stop abortions from being performed? 

     The decision to have an abortion is a MORAL one- and should be kept private- like all MORALS should.
     The ETHICS are in our application of the law.

     And, lets just say Roe v. Wade is overturned. 
     That would mean that to implement the law, women who have ABORTIONS would be criminally charged with murder? And Tried? And incarcerated? 
     We would have a law with which only one gender is liable?

     In addition to this, I just LOVELOVELOVE the women who preach/run/seek election by attempting to remove MY choice and think they have a bully pulpit because they have a vagina. PS: Men are really thanking you for being their mouthpiece… and chattel.
     I actually had a girlfriend, who was a devout Catholic (disclosure: I was raised Catholic) that told me she would vote to have my ‘Right to Choice’ revoked because she knew what Jesus really expected from me.
     I told her I’d settle with him in person, thank you very much.
     She said, she loved me too much to let me drown in my sins.
     I said it was time for us to swim in different pools.
     Why, oh why, are women often times each other’s worst enemies?

     So, here’s the thing women: This is a personal decision. We are being used as political hockey pucks. Men don’t actually care much about this issue, but they thank their lucky stars that women are at each others throats over it. It affords an emotional platform with which to hitch their wagon to, but my wagon is private…

and yours should be too.

  • Terrye - If she really was your friend, she would support you regardless of your decision. And I agree, it’s a personal issue and no one has the right to muck about in it. I was also raised Catholic.ReplyCancel

    • A Pleasant House - Holy Crap Terrye- you got here quick! and thank God for it. Tomorrow will bring, I hope, a lot of conversation. It wasn’t necessarily MY decision- just the right of any woman to choice. No one is free until everyone is free- and all women need to consider the role this topic plays in the political arena- which overwhelmingly elects men to office. Thanks for giving me the courage to write about this my friend!ReplyCancel

    • Terrye - My pleasure, girlfriend. Yep, you’ll probably get points of views from all over the map. I think too few women are afraid to run for office because of the ‘good ole boy’ club that runs most of politics. And it’s easier for media and a majority of the public to pick on women in politics – they are turning their backs on their families, they don’t have the backbone like their male counterparts, or if they do show backbone, then they are branded as being a bitch.

      I respect you even more for being bold enough to put your opinion out there and to stand by it. That, my friend, takes guts. 😉ReplyCancel

  • kblakecash - There is much I agree and disagree with in this article.

    I will start by saying that generalities are handy when you’re in a hurry, but indeed there are some people who are “pro-abortion”. Prominent members of NOW have stated that abortion is a positive experience and every woman should have at least one. I had a friend who actually used abortion as birth control (NO, I never had sex with her) and during one year had three abortions.

    I believe that abortion is a political football (or hockey puck) used to divide the population, the same way race and religious beliefs are used. Many of the “divisive issues” of the day are manufactured issues, with perhaps seventy percent of the population in the center with the remaining thirty percent at the extremes. By creating the impression that it is an “us against them” situation, the “you’re either for us or against us” extremists cleave the population into two camps.

    Outlawing abortions will not end abortions, but it will certainly reduce them. Unfortunately, illegal abortions are unlikely to be early or safe. Had obtaining an abortion been more difficult than obtaining birth control, my ex friend would have either used birth control or had a child. She had abortions because it was her easiest option.

    Much like laws against prostitution, it does not need to be one sex that is criminally charged. In the same way that arresting “johns”, publicizing their names and confiscating their cars can reduce prostitution in a neighborhood, incarcerating the abortionist would be more effective than prosecuting the clients. Each crime has to be approached in a manor that reduces its occurrence.

    As a man, I DO care about the issue. I care that our society is so uptight that it can’t openly discuss issues that have any connection to sex without losing track of ethics and becoming lost in a fog of hormones. This is not a male/female issue, it is a life/death issue. If we could discuss the topic openly, there could be more understanding for those who have had to make the “choice”, more compassion for those who have struggled with the decision, less stigma, and perhaps a thoughtful, intelligent understanding of sexual responsibility among both sexes.

    I don’t expect it to happen in my lifetime, but I do expect it to happen.ReplyCancel

    • A Pleasant House - Thanks for stopping by my friend. Shall we discuss?
      1. I was not in a hurry and don’t believe I used any generalities.
      2. NOW sucks and the evidence is in the pudding- or in this case- their Pro-Abortion stance. Regrettable and outrageous.
      3. Anyone, ANYONE, who has three abortions in a life time is an idiot- I don’t find your friends defense that she used it as birth control because it wqs more accessible as a reasonable conclusion.
      4. I’m not talking about criminalizing the Doctors who perform them- legally- but the men who impregnate these woman. That’s what I mean when I say ‘consequences’.
      5. I’m not saying men don’t care about this issue- just not in the same way.
      So that’s it. I’m glad you chimed in. It wouldn’t be a thoughtful conversation w/o you.

  • Cathy - It IS very much a personal decision – and for most an agonizing one. Women should not have to endure worrying they may be arrested or scorned at as well.

    Your friend? She was never your friend at all. Not with an attitude like that.

    You are brave in writing this post. I loudly applaud you.

    P.S. Women are, unfortunately, many times each other’s enemies. Lines are drawn in other areas of our lives with each other as well. When they are, I run as fast as hell the other way. Give me honesty and trust in a friend any day of the week. Those women are no longer a part of my over 50 world.ReplyCancel

    • A Pleasant House - Thanks Cathy. I don’t require anyone to agree with me to be my friend, but when someone says they would actually TAKE AWAY my Rights? Oooohhhhh.ReplyCancel

  • Vashti Q-Vega - Hi Cheryl! I agree with on several counts. Women can sometimes be women’s worst enemy. I work in the medical field, and I once saw a case where a 14 year old girl was forced (by her religious parents) to carry to term her neighbor’s baby. He had raped her! She was a virgin when he brutally raped her and her parents insisted that God wanted her to keep this pregnancy. I was against abortions until that day. It opened my eyes. Those parents were punishing a little girl that was innocent with their ignorance, and what kind of future do you think that baby will have with a mother that resents it. It’s an awful decision to have to make, but if anyone has the right to make it, it should be the woman who’s carrying it.ReplyCancel

    • A Pleasant House - Oh dear Lord Vashti! Your retelling of this incident is heartbreaking. I’m simply shaking my head…. thanks for sharing.ReplyCancel

  • Lynne Spreen - I am with you 110%, completely and totally, except for the part where you refer to political hockey pukes 😉ReplyCancel

  • Carolyn Moore - We are each other’s worst enemies because we’re working through different filters of experience, emotion, spirituality. We’re not all out to seek the best for each other – at least sometime’s we can’t see that (like with your friend and her Jesus comments). Well-put, well-though out sharing. It’s kind of hard to separate ethics and morals, however, and everyone isn’t working from the same set of social standards. People will continue to share from their emotions and their sense of self-righteousness regardless of facts. Thanks for sharing!ReplyCancel

    • A Pleasant House - I once heard a saying that might help distinguish Ethics from Morals:
      A man who is having an affair and painstakingly hides it from his wife so as to not hurt her is Ethical (maybe).
      The man who would never HAVE the affair to begin with is Moral.
      Thank YOU for stopping by.ReplyCancel

  • The Desert Rocks - Nothing personal about the fact that God gives us life and only he should take it. Our bodies are on loan to us, as is clearly stated many times in the Bible or in Catholic and Christian teachings. Pro-abortionists should be happy their mother chose life. You, my friend might consider me an idiot, and as far as creating life goes you are definitely correct. I can’t imagine what God thinks of those who want to end his greatest gift.ReplyCancel

  • Mary Anne Payne - Oh boy-this is a good one-and I agree 100%.ReplyCancel

  • Roshni - of course I agree!! Anyone who thinks that women just undergo that ordeal just for the heck of it is just insane!ReplyCancel

  • The Shitastrophy - The love just grew.ReplyCancel

  • Linda Roy - Well said!! I completely agree.ReplyCancel

  • Rich Rumple - Believe it or not, I wrote a term paper on this topic in high school for my senior year. Back then, abortions weren’t legal, in any situation. Tales of coat hangers being used, back alley doctors, and trips to Mexico filled the air. Unwanted children were abused, neglected, and abandoned. It is a personal choice, and not one that anyone has the right to legislate. It’s time that people stopped meddling in the affairs of others, and paid attention to their own lives. I’m with you!ReplyCancel

    • A Pleasant House - We are of the same generation- abortions illegal under any circumstances. In my hometown, there was a doctor that would fudge the paperwork and have girls admitted to a real hospital. He even had to have his own daughter admitted once. Of course, birth control was also difficult to come by- you had to go to a ‘free clinic’ in a dangerous part of the city. Why oh Why?ReplyCancel

  • William Kendall - It’s a personal decision. No one has the right to cast their own moral world view on a woman who has to make that decision. It should be safe and legal.

    Unfortunately too many opportunists and zealots think they have every right to interfere.ReplyCancel

  • A Pleasant House - I thank you for summing it up so eloquently, William. Your comments are always appreciated.ReplyCancel

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