For the past few weeks the whole world, it seems, is abuzz with congratulations for Caitlyn Jenner’s coming out.
I’d like to offer my congratulations as well… and confusion.
I’m not morally outraged- so if your’e already building up a head of steam- blow it off someplace else.
It’s always a happy day when a person takes a step towards their authentic self, even if we don’t entirely understand it, and THAT’S where I am– happy for her– but puzzled.
Class is in session.
I grew-up playing with, among others, two lesbian little girls and three gay little boys.
There wasn’t a ‘word‘ that I knew for their preferences (at the time) just that they weren’t exactly like me. That was fine. Who cared? They still played a great game of Bullrush and Bicycle Tag. They still bought tickets to my one-woman Variety shows that I staged in my parents living room. An audience is an audience people.
One of my friends had a father that cross-dressed, and one of our babysitters, Miss Guest, dressed like a man– suits, ties, bound breasts, and a buzz cut. She played a mean game of poker. We bet my father’s hand rolled cigarettes.
I mention all of this because I don’t think I’ve lived in a bubble.
I ‘get’ that some people are more comfortable in a skin that eluded them at birth.
From what I know about Caitlyn Jenner, she felt this way also, and after a few stalled starts, finally decided to embrace herself fully.
I don’t want to get into the whole ‘She Looks Beautiful!’ thing, and the ‘Look at Her at 65!’ because, really, does that matter? Why are those attributes suddenly trumping the fact the she was also a world class athlete and is an astute business person?
Jesus. Put a pair of tits on it and the world can’t see anything else.
I think what’s important, in this new chapter in her life, is that she’s made a very public transition that will forward the discussion on what it means to be transgendered.
And I’m waiting… to learn.
Here’s what I do ‘understand’.
Some people strongly identify with the opposite gender.
Some people strongly feel they are the wrong gender.
Some people can do something about it.
She did… with cosmetic surgery, and letting her hair grow long, and breast implants, and a waist cinching bustier, but she still has all of the male genitalia.
Boys and Girls,
Please open your text books to page…
I’ve heard that a man can have altering surgery that creates a kind of false vagina, that the penis can be removed and the urethra relocated.
This would seem to complete the transference.
Jesus. I might need to take notes.
It would also make sense to me, in my little heterosexual brain, if the newly transgendered person were sexually attracted to their new opposite gender.
Homework will be acquiring a Phd-level of expertise in Quantum
Sexual-Psychology Physics, by recess tomorrow.
But this doesn’t seem to be the case with Caitlyn.
When asked by Diane Sawyer about this very thing, Caitlyn said, No, she was still attracted to women…
and… I need a tutor.
So, let’s see if I’ve got this straight:
Bruce, as far as I know, who was never sexually attracted to men and still isn’t, is now emotionally (and almost fully physically) a woman, who still prefers the sexual company of women.
Mom. I think I have a headache.
Can I just stay home today?
Does this make Caitlyn a transgendered lesbian, or is there some other subject matter I need to add to my life education…
School’s not Out this summer.
I’ll keep my No2 pencils sharpened…