10 Things To NEVER Worry About If You’re A Blogger



There’s this crazy little ‘thing’ that happens on the way to the forum, or in a self-imposed hiatus from the Kingdom blogging  (due to actual real-life events- go figure) …


You may get the vapors.


The conflict, of course, is that writing a blog is hard work. It takes t-i-m-e and patience and inspiration. All things not always readily available, and yet, the not ‘doing it’, which feels liberating at first, is exactly what sneaks around the corner and bites you in your perfectly toned ass.


You start wondering what it is that’s gnawing at you.


The sun is out.


You’re throne is still shiny.


Binging on Downton Abbey in reruns is still as satisfying.


But you feel empty, but… not empty.


More like not full-up, but not really that.


Kinda like what you imagine giving up that second piece of chocolate cake must be like poor serfs.


Something is missing but you’re feeling liberated at the same time.


And there lies the rub.


Writing may be wrought with existential conflicts (much like running a fiefdom) but Blogging is ripe with good old fashioned ‘use it or lose it’ angst- or so it feels.


So what’s Her Majesty to do???????


Why get back up on that royal horse of course (See how that rhymed? Talent just oozes from my pores) and compile a Ten Things To Never Worry About If You’re A Blogger list… because it’s a sure fire way to get traction again.


The iterweb loves a list, much like the house maids.


So if you can’t find the time to blog about the ordinary day-to-day happenstance of your extraordinary life because you actually HAVE a Life, take heart.


It’s like riding a bike.


Without a helmet crown.


Like in the good ole’ days before Home Owner’s Associations and when dogs shit anywhere they wanted and you still never stepped in it. Imagine that… A Life without pre-imposed order based on your neighbors psychosis. 


And today that Kingdom can be found on a myriad of Blogs.


You’re in great company, so don’t worry about:


  1. Your actual or virtual neighbors. No one knows their audience- really. We’re all just guessing, and they move so frequently.

  2. Writing to be the ‘Best’.  Best changes. In fact, it usually depends on who’s trying to increase their readership off of good writers like you.

  3. Your changing ‘voice’. It’s perfectly acceptable to begin a writing adventure with a predetermined bent in content. If you find yourself stuck or bored out of your own mind- change it up. It may be your path to niche content- or at least an authentic You.

  4. Your readership falling off or increasing, or whatever. There is no rhyme nor reason, or any ‘formula’ that works longer then a New York second, that can successfully calibrate and increase your audience. People will find you, or they won’t, but there IS a key- find your Tribe: like minded writers, an age group, with a common interest, or a niche. It’s been my experience that most people/readers/writers/serfs are very generous in their support, both by becoming a reader, or by sharing your work with their readers. They aren’t chopped liver for late night bitch sessions with other Princesses either.

  5. Selling a product. Unless you’re a published author hawking a book, or provide a service, you will be selling t-shirts- which is great (I own a few from my fav’s) but waiting to be discovered by a media outlet and being courted to be a contributing editor pulling down millions is a pipe dream. News/Social outlets, of any kind, do not pay well. Anyone that leads you to believe they do is pulling your proverbial pen- though it is nice to be famous if only for a minute, which brings me to…

  6. Going ‘Viral’. I remember the days when being a good citizen was a standard. Memeing or writing, something that gets shared a million times ALSO brings controversy, so if you have a thin skin this may not be what you want to aspire to. On the other hand, thick skin comes with age. Thank God. And then there’s…

  7. Controversy. Aside from the reality that the world is filled with haters who troll looking for people to vent vomit on, stirring things-up can be empowering. Just mean what you say and say what you mean.

  8. Whether you’ll insult someone. You will- even if you don’t intend to. A lot of grown-ups are babies. Many of them sound like your mother.

  9.  Adding ‘art’. You SHOULD but it doesn’t have to be yours (Just remember to attribute it’s origins) but KNOW that people are visual and a post without an image is like a crown without gem stones- and readers. And finally…

  10. Don’t worry about what everyone else seems to be doing; all of their successes and tea with the Queen.

Being Royal comes with it’s burdens…

But I do serve tea.




  • MJM - I freaking love this piece! I can totally relate to what you’re saying here, bottom line, it’s not easy being a blogger.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - No. It’s not. And you write 3? How the hell…..ReplyCancel

  • Tam Warner Minton - I am with you, there are things bloggers do not have to worry about!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Trade-offs to everything in Life. Damn it.ReplyCancel

  • Myke Todd - My goodness… I have not laughed so hard in weeks. And, respectfully… You could paraphrase a page in a telephone book and make it entertaining.

    I would never survive in the real blogging world. I knew that at the start. My efforts are miniscule, and off the radar. It is like a front porch with a swing at a rural house, just off a country road, you pass, only because you took a wrong turn off the main highway.

    I really like it here.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Well, it certainly appears you can turn a phrase Myke! The rural front porch has always confused me. Just WHO are they looking at all the way out in the boondocks? Muskrats? Muskrats in Love? (remember that terrible song?)ReplyCancel

  • Judy Freedman - Just the advice I needed to hear today. Blogging is hard work and it’s a labor of love.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - And we’re all on the prison rock pile together. < >ReplyCancel

  • Rosemond - Bravo!! Love your points and yes you WILL insult someone just simply by writing, being, or breathing! The first hateful troll is the hardest!!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Confession: I love the haters. My very reason for ‘being’. They give me full permission to let loose.ReplyCancel

  • Lynda@fitnessmomwinecountry - Cheryl !! Love this piece. I am right at this point with blogging. Oh and how did you know I had a perfectly toned ass? LOL Must be all that Pure Barre
    I have a love hate relationship with my blogging. I love my site, I love writing especially when the words flow from my head to fingers and out from the keyboard. I tend to have so much to say all the time, but find other distractions in my day to take me away from sharing my thoughts with the world.
    Thank you for this 🙂ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - And I love your writing! And I’m certain your ass is Pure Barre toned, but I digress… when the ideas blossom and our brains turn a phrase, and the words rush out (without typos) and it’s all just sooooo much FUN- Life is good. Problem is, it’s not always that easy is it? But then again, you are fit and living in wine country, so maybe it is. HA!ReplyCancel

  • Lisa Carpenter - Oh my goodness! No. 4 has been giving me vapors of late. Makes me nuts. I shall now stop worrying about it, though, because YOU said I shouldn’t worry! Thank you! 😀

    PS: Nice list of truths.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - I’m right- right? No algorithm invented can increase readership- just good writing and checking in with your friends from time to time. Glad I have you Lisa!ReplyCancel

  • Carol Cassara - Tea with the Queen? Gotta do it. One day soon. WHy aren’t there 17 months in a year? Why? There are no good answers to that question, right? Yeah, I’m feeling kind of crazy this morning. Don’t mind me.ReplyCancel

  • Laura Ehlers - It is so true…that not writing vacant feeling! Thanks for the reminder, Your Highness!ReplyCancel

  • Ruth Curran - I have been right there with you. It feels good to let it flow and be in the company of the choir or the royal court or whoever shows up, right? Love this so much Cheryl!ReplyCancel

  • Diane Tolley - Talent oozes from my pores as well. Highly impractical. I wish it would show up someplace useful . . .ReplyCancel

  • Carla Birnberg - Amen to all of this. I’ve been doing this thing called blogging for too long now 🙂 almost 15 years (!)and I still write each post as though no one’s reading because once I imagine someone reading… There goes the post 🙂ReplyCancel

  • Andrea Bates - I LOVE this post. LOVE.

    So true. I follow your suggestions with my whole being! And yet – I still make myself crazy now and then. But great tips, great post. 🙂ReplyCancel

  • Ellen Dolgen - When you are in the vagina business, your audience can be narrow, large, moist and dry. You just gotta go with it.ReplyCancel

  • Rebecca Forstadt Olkowski - I totally relate to the “changing voice” number 3. Constantly. But, there’s nothing bad about evolving. I do it constantly.ReplyCancel

  • Sue Koepnick - I love this! It is ok to just do your own thing and not follow everyone’s “expert” advice. I found you through a Facebook group, and I’m so glad!ReplyCancel

  • Haralee Weintraub - I will make my own tea and I do love a list. My audience is the menopausal woman, know her, love her, wished she would comment more but understand, or at least I think I do ! As long as they don’t do #7 too often I am OK!ReplyCancel

  • Mari Collier - But I don’t like tea and really am not impressed with the idea that birth would make thee better than me. This means I have alienated a whole group of potential readers. By the way, that facial cream you recommended does seem to work. I hadn’t bought it as it was considerably more than the Old Age product I was using. This one, however, smooths on so easily. Thanks!ReplyCancel

  • Charles E. Burnham - Gregorian Calendar? Hmmm. Interesting. Because my dear wife and all of her ancestors are Jewish, I have been asked if I ever considered converting. I mean, neither of us believes in magic, so that stops some people, but sometimes I have to say that I can’t decide between becoming a Jew and becoming a Greek. Easter would be May 1, this year if I did. Talk about wacked out! As long as it’s Spring right now, who cares what month it is?ReplyCancel

  • Lois Alter Mark - I just read Ellen Dolgen’s comment and nothing I can say will possibly beat that. And that’s one of the best parts of blogging for me – other bloggers 🙂ReplyCancel

  • Leanne Le Cras - I loved all of these – we all secretly fret about them at times and then find out that everyone else is just cruising along too – the ones busting the butts to be the biggest and the best are welcome to it. Give me fun and interaction and a good laugh here and there and I’m happy (oh and I’ll have a cucumber sandwich – no crusts – with my cuppa thank you) xReplyCancel

  • Cathy Lawdanski - #1 & #4 – I guess the thing to do is just keep hacking away, practicing, learning and doing the best work you know how to do! That’s what I try to focus on when I’m not obsessing about the rest!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - You’re so right! You remember the old joke ‘How Do You Get To Carnegie Hall?’—Practice! HA!ReplyCancel

  • Paul D. Brads - This is so spot on. And there’s a queen, you mentioned Downton Abbey, and tea…who could ask for more ???ReplyCancel

  • Norma Beishir - All good advice. I follow a few blogs that either don’t include images at all, or they put in something so small, you need a magnifying glass to see it.ReplyCancel

  • Gary Sidley - Humour blogging is the writing that I most enjoy, despite my modest number of followers. I often laugh while I’m writing it (I’m not sure what that indicates – self-indulgence? insanity?). And I think you’re right, you do tend to gravitate to a loyal and supportive group of people with a similar mind set.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - And I’m so pleased we support each other!!ReplyCancel

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