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A lot has happened since my sign-off in August of last year.   Part of the reason I choose to exit was the sure knowledge, supplemented by the increasing vitriol I read on social media, that many of my readers and I were not cut from the same cloth, which is fine since I love […]

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  • A concernedcitizen - Wow, this is just a bunch of incoherent rambling. I don’t even know what you are trying to say. Frightening that people actually find this enlightening/inspiring.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Wow, frightening that you find it incoherent.ReplyCancel

  • Roy A Ackerman, PhD, EA - So, as is true for most posts about the left and the right, there are germs of truth. But, to equate the stupidity or lassitude of Zeke Miller (who works by the way for a RIGHT WING leaning organization) with the rest of the media is unfortunate. Oh, sure, I saw your mentioned the mendicant Sean Spicer in the same paragraph. But, it it the fake news that permeates the avenues (Mr. Banion’s previous location) that is more corrosive to our nation’s democracy.
    And, I am of the male gender. So, my comments on feminism are immediately tainted. I agree with you, but your equating a heinous attack on Mr. Trump’s son or what fashions someone wears has NOTHING to do with feminism. (Other than those that said it were female.) It’s stupidity, it’s cattiness, but not feminism.
    And, I have listened. Being Jewish and having lived in the South, I recognize the dog whistles employed. And, understand the dangers they expect to impose upon us citizens.
    The fact that you didn’t protest Obama’s election is fine- but Mr. Trump clearly was among the leaders of that movement, claiming he was not American born, claiming he lied about his matriculation and education- all to negate his presidency. Protesting the policies does not mean one doesn’t know who won the election. (Perhaps it would be very useful if you studied the Bill of Rights.) And, why folks who voted for Mr. Trump to “drain the swamp” don’t protest the alligators he is putting in the cabinet to protect the swamp is beyond me.
    I am a US citizen. I am also a world citizen. Because we can’t pull America off the globe and relocate it to another (otherwise uninhabited) planet. That is not an elitist point of view- it’s a simple fact of where we are and the world around us.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - First, thank you for commenting, and allow me to reply in kind: Time Magazine has not been Right leaning since the Nixon Administration. As for Fake News, in my past experience fake news had always harbored within the pages of sensationalist tabloids. It no longer does. No matter where it comes from it’s a loss for the populace. I think we agree on that point.

      Now for feminism. Your comments are not tainted here because you are male. I grew-up with a feminist male. They exist. I’m glad they do- that you do. My using the recent examples of Barron and Melania being viciously maligned, to scold feminists, was to illustrate that so many self-proclaimed enlightened feminists do, in fact, not possess or practice the basic tenant of the ideology: support the female, and her choices, when others are are especially using stereotypes in an attempt to delegitimize their choices. This has EVERYTHING to do with feminism.

      As for your being Jewish and living in the South and dogwhistles (explosive metaphor btw) being used… you’ve lost me (I think) unless what you’re implying is that closed-minded people tend to stick together, of which I agree, but not just in the South, but that is not an exclusive Jewish experience- it could be any minority finding themselves in unfamiliar territory with the ‘They’. Who are the ‘They’ you refer to?

      The fact that I didn’t protest President Obama’s election was a result of my accepting (and even celebrating) his legitimate triumph. Al Gore provided a much more serious challenge then any bloviating Trump did.

      My problem with the term ‘Citizen of the World’ is that it is in fact not factually possible, or theologically accurate. It is more of an emotional/intellectual statement, one that is often times used to imply superiority by default:”I’ve been there. They do it differently. It’s better. Trust me. If you had been there you’d know.” I also, Mr. Ackerman, am a US citizen and have travelled our globe, visiting many different cultures- not all of them democratic. While I have never found the *common (*term used as a tool of arithmetic not character assassination) people anything but ‘salt of the Earth’, there are many countries governances I would not emulate.

      And postscript: I carry a copy of the Bill Of Rights in my purse.ReplyCancel

  • Deb K. - Thank you SO much for writing this. You sum up what I have been feeling so well! I am so disheartened by what is happening in our country. I, too, respect the right to protest, but it feels like people now think that those who speak loudest or have a celebrity face to their cause are the most important. There is a lot lacking in substance, and is made up with just noise. And I so wanted to support the women’s march, but it got so messy and ugly. And as you say- women don’t seem to support each other, they only support those who are doing and saying what they want. It’s a shame. Again, thank you for the insightful post!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Thank you for taking the time to comment Deb.ReplyCancel

  • Nita B - Thank you Cheryl! Well said. Wish I could say more but the thought police might pull into my driveway.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Well, we don’t want that!*wink*ReplyCancel

  • Bethany - Thank you. So many thoughts I have had, but unable to put to pen (ok, keyboard). May peace reign over our great nation.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - My pleasure. Thank you for commenting.ReplyCancel

  • Darcy Stuckey - Once again, love the post!ReplyCancel

  • Jeannine - I just found this post by way of I don’t know what/how! Wow! And thank you. I found it very coherent and that it certainly needed to be said. Thank you very much. I certainly hope this is not your last post – the joke would be on me as now that I finally have found you, you are gone.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Well aren’t you a sweetheart! But Im sorta ‘gone’. It all depends on how pissed off I get. heheeeeeReplyCancel

  • julie - Wow… Concernedcitizen’s’s comment just proved your point.

    And Mr. Ackerman, PhD…. I think you meant mendacious, not mendicant… mendicants are beggars, and the mendacious are not truthful… better polish up that degree. Your comments are so filled with stereotype and talking points, there really isn’t any substance.

    Just stumbled on this blog, and will follow for a bit, I suspect the author and I will agree on little, but it’s nice to find a woman capable of clear thought….ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Thank you Julie. Yes- my thoughts are clear, though not always understood as is evident by the comments you referenced above. Dear Lord….ReplyCancel

  • Jeannine - Dear Cheryl, just want you to know I just finished reading all of your past posts which were full of great information (the L’Oreal creams and gardening advice), thoughts I agree with and some posts which were just a great (and so needed) laugh! I mean I laughed out loud, sometimes. Once again, I’m sorry you’ve signed off. Thanks for all that you’ve shared.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - You’re so sweet. Alas, it is time to move on to new experiences BUT I may reinvent myself? Ya never know! HA! Thanks Jeannine.ReplyCancel

      A funny thing happened on my way to middle age: I reinvented my groove (and I don’t even know Stella).   I think most women (and probably some men- maybe- perhaps- occasionally) can relate to this.   As a woman you are constantly juggling more then one hat: Eternal Girl, Grown Woman, […]

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  • Suzy Turner - Absolutely brilliant! I must say I’m loving your blog, I think I’ll stay around for a while 🙂

    • Cheryl - Well you just made my day Suzy! So wonderful to have a new reader and you should stick around- I throw good parties! Hahaha.ReplyCancel

  • Elaine Ambrose - Excellent! We are warriors, indeed! When do I get to see you again. Think of all the trouble and mayhem we could cause…ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - I’m hoping to attend the Midlife conference in Vegas. I’m bring bail $.ReplyCancel

  • tam Warner Minton - No worries, I’ve been feisty for most of my life. I have lived the “usual” woman life while also living outside of it and never being truly a part of it. Make sense?ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Perfect sense. You know the dance steps but have your own song playing in your head. I GET it.ReplyCancel

  • Lynda@fitnessmomwinecountry - Cheryl, I am not surprised, I love reading you. Great job 🙂ReplyCancel

  • Carol Cassara - I love how in this book, “feisty” is demonstrated in so many different ways. MANY ways. Because feisty is in the eye of the beholder. And in the eye of the fiesty one. Speaking as a Feisty Over 45er. Yeah, in the book. Elaine is like the producers who get that women over a certain age can act and need roles. And content that serves our age group. So glad she’s there for us!ReplyCancel

  • Elizabeth A. Havey - Your writing style will fit right in. Sex kitten I don’t think I ever was. LOL. Wishing you the best.ReplyCancel

  • Estelle Sobel Erasmus - Yay you!! Can’t wait to read this one!ReplyCancel

  • Mari Collier - You go girl! I can so relate, except no one famous called me. I do the the feeling of success though. There is nothing like getting an Amazon Best Seller Badge–unless it would be a call from a movie producer, but I’m not holding my breath. You be feisty! I’ll do it my way!ReplyCancel

  • Mary La Fornara Gutierrez - I like Holy Crap, too! Congratulations! Looking forward to it!ReplyCancel

  • Carolann Iadarola - Wow, best seller cred! I really need to grab a copy and read it soon. Best of continued luck with it sweetie! Oh and yes, Holy Crap!ReplyCancel

  • Rosalind Warren - “Holy crap which is my way of saying Amen.” LOVE it. I’m in this book too and I can’t wait to read it. I’m in excellent company. 🙂ReplyCancel

  • Lois Alter Mark - So great to have so many feisty voices out there. This is not our grandmothers’ midlife!ReplyCancel

    What is it about resolutions that’s so infuriating?   Probably that we believe that making a ‘promise’ to ourselves, and having that ‘promise’ begin on the first day of a new year will somehow s-o-m-e-h-o-w increase our odds at winning the lack of commitment lotto we will all certainly fall prey to.   […]

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  • - And she’s back! Great post Cheryl! I would fortify no 3 by Grand Marnier and the list is complete for me:) Happy New Year to you and your family! xx AbbyReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - This past holiday season was a whopper and we had house guests between the main events, so I’ve been a little lack. Happy New Year to you and yours as well my friend!ReplyCancel

  • Carol Cassara - Today’s post, like so many of yours? Totally refreshing! I hear you, sister. I hear you.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Peace Out baby cakes. I knew you’d ‘get’ it.ReplyCancel

  • Roshni - I totally concur! How does promising something on Dec 31st increase your chances of succeeding if you haven’t been able to keep your promise any time else?!ReplyCancel

  • Tam Warner Minton - Ha! I love your attitude! Like we keep our “serious” resolutions, anyway, right?ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - So self-delusional. I prefer full-on acceptance of all my failures.ReplyCancel

  • Elin Stebbins Waldal - hahaha! This really is great, Cheryl. Refreshing in the midst of the New Year barrage of resolutions that abound on social media. Throw more parties indeed!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Bucking the trends ( which are usually bs anyways) is my THING Elin. I have a saddle hanging in my closet.ReplyCancel

  • Carolann Iadarola - LOL love each and evey one of them. I think these are my resolutions now too.ReplyCancel

  • Rosalind Warren - Fabulous!
    A terrific idea, and beautifully carried out.
    Tweeting and Sharing.ReplyCancel

  • Ellen Dolgen - You are my hero! I LOVE LOVE LOVE your resolutions! Many of these, I am successfully acomplishing already! Love realistic goals like this.ReplyCancel

  • Diane Tolley - Realistic goals I can get behind! I especially love the ‘eat what I want to’ resolution. My house for chocolate later . . .?ReplyCancel

  • Lois Alter Mark - Ooh, I like your resolutions, my friend. I might actually be able to keep all of those.ReplyCancel

  • Mari Collier - LOL Those non-resolutions should be easy enough to follow. I’m not sure I like the read less. How do I convince you to read Earthbound then? Merlot should help the brain cells though.ReplyCancel

  • Kimberly Montgomery - You’ve just made my year so much simplier! Now, can you take care of my closet??
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  • Stephanie - Lol this is awesome. I’m with you with all what you said. I don’t ever make New Years resolutions just because a.) I’ll never commit to it the entire year and b.) like you said any day is the first day of the rest of your life. If I wanna commit to start working out more, I’m not going to wait until January 1st to do so, Imma do it today, right now!

    Thanks for sharing at Manic Monday Linky party!!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - You’re so welcome Stephanie! Your LINK party was fun!!ReplyCancel

  • Marianne Joyce - Your list is perfect!!! I’m happy to help you keep them!ReplyCancel

  On January 2, late in the afternoon, I found myself surfing *surfing through cable channels. I did not exhibit perfect form *hang ten and nail it *carve the wave. I instead, found myself in *chowder a daze and regretfully stopped on *wiped-out in a *bowl on a channel of *clamshell crap otherwise known as […]

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  • Sheryl Kraft - I definitely do not think Oprah’s message is a negatibve one; she is seeking to improve herself, and admits to her past failures with losing weight. That’s honest, if you ask me.ReplyCancel

  • Amy Abbott - I really wanted to write about the whole issue but I was too busy eating ice cream at the time. Honestly, I don’t understand MHP’s take on this. And honestly I don’t find Oprah on the whole weight thing motivating, and, I find myself screaming at the television. Oprah is rich enough to have George Clooney measure and cook all her food. She’s had a personal trainer; she’s had a cook. If she STILL needs to lose weight, then I might as well hang it up for good. Meanwhile, I’m reading about the shortage of vanilla bean in Madagascar, now that may REALLY impact my life because I really like homestyle vanilla.ReplyCancel

  • Carolann - That woman (Melissa Harris-Perry) is freaking nuts! I swear she is. I can see it in her eyes and her body language. I can’t bear to even listen to her for 30 seconds. I totally agree with you on this. What a nightmare for woman…we just can’t win!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - I felt so bad, not just for Oprah, but for us all. I couldn’t believe my ears.ReplyCancel

  • Mari Collier - Why criticize Oprah? She will do what she wants. As far as being perfect, the majority of us are not. So what? Feminist just love to have something to carp about to make the world feel guilty. That last statement from someone who fought to receive the same wage as a man and succeeded.ReplyCancel

  • Mary La Fornara Gutierrez - Why should anyone care??? If Oprah wants to get healthy, good for her! If she wants to encourage others because she knows first hand how difficult it is, good for her! Ms. Harris needs to be her daughter’s role model, it’s not Oprah’s responsibility. As for the people who are judging Oprah for trying again, GET A LIFE!ReplyCancel

  • Diane - I’m not worried about looks. I just care how I feel. Why do we women tear each other down instead of encouraging our sisters to feel their best? It’s a conundrum . . .ReplyCancel

    • Carollynn - Exactly, why do women tear each other down when we need to stick together? Ms. Harris has an opinion, I don’t agree with it, but I support her right to say it.ReplyCancel

      • Cheryl - I support her right, of course, but we can certainly disagree– and I do!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - It’s a conundrum for the ages…… (head shaking)ReplyCancel

  • Carol Cassara - Thanks for weighing in on this. (I couldn’t help it) As a woman with more than a few to lose, it really IS about health at this age. Oprah’s diet failures have been public so I give her credit for trying again.ReplyCancel

  • Lois Alter Mark - Having gone to Australia with Oprah as an Ultimate Viewer, you will never hear me say a negative word about her. She is so inspiring and so genuine, I’m a fan for life.ReplyCancel

  • Laura Ehlers - After seeing the Oprah commercial – in which she speaks to ‘not having a event to get thin for or a special pair of jeans to fit into’ – I think she is doing a good job. No where does she condem her own looks or mention a goal weight. There is negative body image and there is unhealthy body/lifestyle. Two very different things and wanting to improve the later is in no way endorsing the former. (and next time you get ‘stuck in a chowder’ may I suggest a bad sci-fy movie?!!!)ReplyCancel

      When in the Course of human events, it becomes necessary for civil societies to dissolve bands, which until modern times have not connected them with another, and to assume among the powers of the earth, the separate and equal station to which the Laws of Humanity and the Nature of everyone’s God […]

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  • Carol Cassara - Yes, and let us hope the world can do something about it.Because this is no way to live.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - I TRULY believe the World CAN do something about this, but it will mean actions that are unprecedented. But then again, THIS WAY OF LIVING is unprecedented.ReplyCancel

  • Beth Havey - Thanks, Carol I wrote about French culture. We have to fight to preserve what we believe in, and often through communication and showing love of art, music, theatre and writing our pens can be mightier than the sword. Thanks.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - I loved your post. Thank you Beth.ReplyCancel

  • Cathy Chester - I hope something can be done about it. I told my son last night I hoped the world would be a better place for his generation, and apologized that it probably wouldn’t. He’s active in politics and said it has to start small, one act at a time. I don’t know if we have that kind of time. The casualties are too great.ReplyCancel

  • Estelle Sobel Erasmus - Brilliant Cheryl. I think that radical terrorists will continue to grow, until we strengthen the moderates who will keep them in check. I posted a piece from an expert on it on my FB page.ReplyCancel

  • Diane Tolley - Brilliant! I am so disheartened that our humane qualities that make us . . . well . . . human are being used against us. Being beaten with the ‘nice’ stick is still being beaten. It just hurts more.ReplyCancel

  • Mary La Fornara Gutierrez - It’s a sad world we live in and something must be done. No more Mr. nice guys!ReplyCancel

  • Doreen McGettigan - I love our constitution and wish more people would read it, appreciate it and understand it, now more than ever.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - I too wish more people would read it now and again. It really says it ALL doesn’t it.ReplyCancel

  • Kimberly Montgomery - I have no answers at this point. Only sadness. But something does need to change.
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  • Roz Warren - The Pursuit of Happiness, not Sharia Law. I am totally down with that. So is the world listening? Guess we’ll find out.ReplyCancel

  • Helene Cohen Bludman - You are brilliant. I LOVE this. Sharing.ReplyCancel

  • Lois Alter Mark - I’m not sure what the answers are but I hope we find them soon and without the loss of more innocent lives.ReplyCancel

  • Barbara Torris - I was told once that the Middle East is a cruel and ugly place. We visited Dubai this spring and I will say that behond the bounderies of that city, it is a very cruel world. It has taken it’s toll on those people. What a great great tragedy that they feel the need to make us suffer for what they have had to endure.

    Great post…almost poetic I think.ReplyCancel

  • Paul D. Brads - Awesome.TJ and the gang would be proud of your paraphrase.ReplyCancel

  • Carolann Iadarola - I especially like number two on the list. What a great idea! It makes my blood boil! lolReplyCancel

  • Abby - Sorry Cheryl I didn’t comment right away, but even now I’m still speechless, shocked and terrified. Thank you for thinking of us and thank you for your Scary Mommy comment – I really appreciate. xx AbbyReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - It’s so good to hear from you! I’m so happy to hear you’re all alright. We are WITH FRANCE!ReplyCancel

  • Mari Collier - You are in fine form with this one. However, according to our President, we are proceeding with our “strategy.” Of course, no one believes that is a strategy.ReplyCancel

  • Sue Pekarek - Beautiful post CherylReplyCancel

  • RasmaSandra - If only the world could become – hand in hand, heart to heart all as one and loving and respecting one another.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - From your lips to God’s ear “If only”…. And we shouldn’t forget that goal or inspiration or desire but someone has to do the messy stuff in the meantime.ReplyCancel

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