Category Archives: Living

      A funny thing happened on my way to middle age: I reinvented my groove (and I don’t even know Stella).   I think most women (and probably some men- maybe- perhaps- occasionally) can relate to this.   As a woman you are constantly juggling more then one hat: Eternal Girl, Grown Woman, […]

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  • Suzy Turner - Absolutely brilliant! I must say I’m loving your blog, I think I’ll stay around for a while 🙂

    • Cheryl - Well you just made my day Suzy! So wonderful to have a new reader and you should stick around- I throw good parties! Hahaha.ReplyCancel

  • Elaine Ambrose - Excellent! We are warriors, indeed! When do I get to see you again. Think of all the trouble and mayhem we could cause…ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - I’m hoping to attend the Midlife conference in Vegas. I’m bring bail $.ReplyCancel

  • tam Warner Minton - No worries, I’ve been feisty for most of my life. I have lived the “usual” woman life while also living outside of it and never being truly a part of it. Make sense?ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Perfect sense. You know the dance steps but have your own song playing in your head. I GET it.ReplyCancel

  • Lynda@fitnessmomwinecountry - Cheryl, I am not surprised, I love reading you. Great job 🙂ReplyCancel

  • Carol Cassara - I love how in this book, “feisty” is demonstrated in so many different ways. MANY ways. Because feisty is in the eye of the beholder. And in the eye of the fiesty one. Speaking as a Feisty Over 45er. Yeah, in the book. Elaine is like the producers who get that women over a certain age can act and need roles. And content that serves our age group. So glad she’s there for us!ReplyCancel

  • Elizabeth A. Havey - Your writing style will fit right in. Sex kitten I don’t think I ever was. LOL. Wishing you the best.ReplyCancel

  • Estelle Sobel Erasmus - Yay you!! Can’t wait to read this one!ReplyCancel

  • Mari Collier - You go girl! I can so relate, except no one famous called me. I do the the feeling of success though. There is nothing like getting an Amazon Best Seller Badge–unless it would be a call from a movie producer, but I’m not holding my breath. You be feisty! I’ll do it my way!ReplyCancel

  • Mary La Fornara Gutierrez - I like Holy Crap, too! Congratulations! Looking forward to it!ReplyCancel

  • Carolann Iadarola - Wow, best seller cred! I really need to grab a copy and read it soon. Best of continued luck with it sweetie! Oh and yes, Holy Crap!ReplyCancel

  • Rosalind Warren - “Holy crap which is my way of saying Amen.” LOVE it. I’m in this book too and I can’t wait to read it. I’m in excellent company. 🙂ReplyCancel

  • Lois Alter Mark - So great to have so many feisty voices out there. This is not our grandmothers’ midlife!ReplyCancel

What is it about seismic shifts that we never see them coming?   They just sorta happen- willy nilly, when we’re least expecting them. You feel something moving underfoot but you don’t quite lose your balance. Yes, there are objects tipped on their side but maybe there’s a reasonable explanation. You think “I’ll keep an […]

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  • Carla - And simply reading this made my day brighter and me smile.
    <3 <3ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - ANd ‘heart’ you back Carla! You just made mine.ReplyCancel

  • Sheryl - Yay for you! You’ve inspired me to change some bad, deep-seated habits – it CAN be done!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - I’ve got plenty more bad habits but ya gotta start somewhere-non, Sheryl?ReplyCancel

  • Krista Williams - I loved the flow of this post! Congratulations – how incredible and amazing!

    It’s so true, that small habits make your life and who you are – I think this is a great reminder. I love it.

    • Cheryl - Thank you Krista! The coolest thing about this is that I didn’t think I could do it— and I am!!!ReplyCancel

  • Steena Hammer - Good for you! Making the change isn’t always the hard part – sticking it out past the one week mark is. With 16 days in, you’ve got this!! Can’t wait to see you in that dress!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - And I WILL post photo’s! God help me but I will. Thanks for stopping by Steena. Much appreciated.ReplyCancel

  • Carol Cassara - I get it. I do. Similar things are going on in my world, My doc, “mean mommy” gave me a stern lecture. My now dead friend, gave me advice. It all worked. It IS working. Still. Yes, girl, rock on!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Oh, I KNOW you ‘get it’. I think you ‘get’ me as a matter of fact. Loved your post today btw. You’re an interesting woman Carol. Very interesting….ReplyCancel

  • Rebecca Forstadt Olkowski - Sounds wonderful and congratulations on your upcoming event.ReplyCancel

  • Lisa at Grandma's Briefs - Cheers! I’m so happy for you that good and positive avalanches have come your way — and your hard work is paying off. Keep it up, my friend!

    (I was scared at first you were going to write about BAD things that have snowballed, life changes that hurt and harm. Thankful that’s not the case!)ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - I saw that that might be the way people might anticipate the post going but I really wanted to begin with the power of motion, and I tend to be d-r-a-m-a-t-i-c so there you have it! And here you have it again. Dear Lord.ReplyCancel

  • Carolann Iadarola - WOW, how very inspiring! I’m excited to read what diet you are on. So happy for you!ReplyCancel

  • Roxanne Jones - It’s so empowering to take what sometimes are baby steps toward a goal…but then you see RESULTS! Congratulations on making such progress!ReplyCancel

  • Ellen Dolgen - How fabulous! You have inspired me. Bad habits are hard to break. Nothing like an event to help motivate us. You GO GIRL!!!ReplyCancel

  • Joanie Killion Tamburini - This is great- so happy to discover your blog!ReplyCancel

  • Aishwarya S - Sometimes that one habit is the reason where we are going wrong. I’m glad you got it under control. 🙂ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - And now people around me are changing their habits! Amazing!!!ReplyCancel

  • Cathy Steffanci Sikorski - Oh do I feel ya’ sister. My daughter’s wedding is in 3 weeks and I’ve been behaving since last August. What amazes me is that even at our age, change can work. AND, I’ve influenced many people around me who have embraced eating cleaner and exercising. It was not my intent, but isn’t that a nice by-product?! Congrats, I’m sure you will look and better yet, FEEL amazing on the big day!ReplyCancel

  • Andrea Raimondo Warren - Super post! I was LOL throught it. I hear you and once we embrace change we can accomplish so much more:) Thanks for your honesty,ReplyCancel

  • Mari Collier - Good for you. Yes, if you are overweight, diet and exercise work wonders. So do correct meds. The knee is also better because of the weight loss. Enjoy the reconstructed you.ReplyCancel

  • Carollynn - Congrats on your shifts… Can’t wait to see the changes – I’m sure you’ll be as amazing and gorgeous as ever.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - I’m feelin’ pretty good! Look out World! XXOOReplyCancel

  • Daniela Vaughan - Good for you!! It’s amazing the changes that can occur when you alter one habit, change one recurring thought in your head, set one new intention. The world is a wonderful place if we SHOW UP for it!ReplyCancel

  • Marianne Joyce - Awesome, Cheryl! I have no doubt that you will rock that dress!ReplyCancel

  I have recently celebrated my 34th year of wedded bliss- well, maybe not bliss, as bliss is fleeting, but pretty darn happy with the same guy for a a really long time kind of who-ha.   How is this possible?    What happened- or didn’t?   Where did we go right?   As I […]

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  • Carollynn Hammersmith - Happy belated anniversary to 2 of my favorite people! Your friendship,has stood the true test of time.ReplyCancel

  • Candy - We will celebrate 34 years in October. Sad when people ask if we have been married only once. Congratulations!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Boy, that’s saying something isn’t it. I can usually tell if a couple has been together only with each other- there’s a body language that goes along with long-term. A secret code in the way they look (or don’t) at each other- finish each other’s sentences- assist each other. Just lovely. Congratulations to us both.ReplyCancel

  • Linda Petersen Spiker - Happy anniversary! We have been married almost 36 years! Our long marriages are a rarity these days!ReplyCancel

  • Kristen Kavan - Happy Anniversary! I love this. I’ve been married all of 10 months, but I agree with this thought!ReplyCancel

  • Danielle Rouillard - Happy Anniversary! It’s always inspiring to see people still together and in love after so many years. Gives me and my generation some hope!!ReplyCancel

  • Helene Cohen Bludman - What a great story. A classic example of “it was meant to be.”ReplyCancel

  • Adrienne Spragg - Happy anniversary to you! What a wonderful post. My best friend is getting married next year. I will have to share your post with her. Thanks for sharing.ReplyCancel

  • Roshni AaMom - Aargh!! You make it sound so easy! 🙁 This when The Husband and I had a fight over the weekend!
    Happy anniversary, to you, dear friend and your beau!!ReplyCancel

  • Paul D. Brads - Almost 39 here. We stay because we still love each other. It’s not always easy or pretty, it just is.ReplyCancel

  • Alison Coward - Congratulations on 34 years! We’ve been married 4 years but together for 14 and I totally agree with planning. If you’re not both on the same wavelength as to how things will go (or how to ride it out when things don’t go your way) then it won’t last. Very inspiring reading about successful couples!ReplyCancel

  • Leila M Brenner - Lol! I loved this post! We started out kind of similar in that our first night was the day we have never left each others sides. (Honestly, I can count on 2 hands the number of times we have been apart for a night) While we have not hit 35 years yet; we did celebrate 10 years of marriage. It’s work, but working together works!ReplyCancel

  • Michael John Mele - Happy Anniversary my friend! You are freaking amazing.ReplyCancel

  • Carol Cassara - Best wishes! Now, I have to admit that i have had a cocktail, therefore I’m not sure I’m following the gist of this except that you met him at age 11 and it was meant to be. All the in between stuff? Pshaw! Continued happiness. He’s got to be amazing, because you are. And don’t I wish you were here having cocktails with me.ReplyCancel

  • Lola Marguerita - Happy anniversary!ReplyCancel

  • Bridget Howell Martin - This was a great share! Funny, witty, and encouraging to those of us still trying to make those milestones and keep that ability to yet keep them guessing. While we are married only 8 years, we are an old married couple and hopefully have many more to come for these same reasons.ReplyCancel

  • Thrifty Guardian - Love it!! Will definitely keep this in mind as we hit our fourth year and strive for our 50th. Things aren’t always easy, but he is my best friend and we certainly do lots of planning! 🙂ReplyCancel

  • Mari Collier - Congratulations and many more Happy Anniversaries. Lanny and I could look at something and see the weirdness of it all and start laughing without saying a word. Laughter, hugs, mutual interests are all important, but it is the friendship and the romantic (what are you all doing in the bedroom all the time?) that really works. Hugs.ReplyCancel

  • Elizabeth A. Havey - Happy Anniversary. Delighted for you. I’m grateful every day for my marriage. And your post is a wonderful reminder. BethReplyCancel

  • Lois Alter Mark - Happy anniversary! We are on our way to 35 this year. How can that possibly be?!ReplyCancel

  • Estelle Sobel Erasmus - I love this. My husband and I have a way of knowing what each other is going to say before we say it, yet we still keep each other on our toes. Sounds like you can bottle and package the potent power of your love.ReplyCancel

  • Marlynn Jayme Schotland - Happy anniversary! Love this. We’ve been together for 23 years, married for 14.5. It’s a wild ride but a good one! 🙂ReplyCancel

  • Leanne Le Cras - congrats on 34 years – we’re coming up for 33 in a week – time certainly flies! I think it’s amazing that we start off so blithely and find that we are still cruising along after 3+ decades together!ReplyCancel

  • Suzanne Fluhr - Coming up on 34 also. Shared values and respect go a long way. I think we’ve always subconsciously been able to sense who needed more support at any given time and the other would step up without having to be asked. After this many years we’ve shared so much, that whole for better or for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health thing. Our marriage is our port in the storm. All that and that intangible attraction called love. I’m thankful every day for this relationship.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Me too. Of course the Shared Values & Respect thing are paramount even if you get to the same place in different ways- non?ReplyCancel

  Here’s how I started my day: naked, with a cat wrapped around my neck like a mink stole (because that’s how I sleep roll).     I shook the tail end of a dream off (That began with being seduced by Tom Selleck but ended with parking his car-WTF?) and took note of the […]

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  • Roshni - Comfort before style is my personal style too!!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Comfort in the home! ps: LOVE the new pic!ReplyCancel

  • Connie McLeod - Sounds like a typical winter day in south Louisiana!ReplyCancel

  • Connie McLeod - Sounds like a typical winter day in south Louisiana!ReplyCancel

  • Connie McLeod - Sounds like a typical winter day in south Louisiana!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Exactly Connie. Bi-polar weather. I think our winter is over though.ReplyCancel

  • Carol Cassara - That cat. I mean. That cat. Not that I didn’t enjoy this peek into your hole-in-the-ass wardrobe. I did. But that cat.ReplyCancel

  • Tam Warner Minton - I LOVE that cat. Would love to see a photo of you with him around your neck….ReplyCancel

  • Karen D. Austin - I admire your abition. I got dressed at 5:30 am. I’ve been in yoga pants all day. I’m having company for dinner. Hmmm. Will I change?ReplyCancel

  • Alana Mautone - Well, working in an office, I have to get dressed in work type clothes. At 6:30 am I am dressing with my eyes glued shut. Then, some days when I walk after work, I’m exercising in that same outfit. If only. Sigh.ReplyCancel

  • Carolann Iadarola - lol cute and adorable cat too! When I’m home working it’s always sweats and long sleeve tee…how borning but warm and toasty!ReplyCancel

  • Mari Collier - The temperature is half-way decent here, but that wind is so cold that I have complained all day long. I want warm. You would appreciate the tanturm.ReplyCancel

  • Diane Tolley - Now that’s a wardrobe I can understand! 🙂ReplyCancel

  • Estelle Sobel Erasmus - You and that cat are both adorable!ReplyCancel

  • Gary Sidley - Is parking Tom Selleck’s car a euphemism? It got me thinking about how I’d like to leave my car in Jennifer Aniston’s garage!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Maybe we could both change their oil?ReplyCancel

The other week, I came across a notice of a ‘new’ plantation that had recently (December 2014) opened.   How could I have missed this? I’ve been to almost all of them between Natchez, Mississippi and downriver New Orleans.   Hell, I could give tours (And I have, but that’s another story).   What intrigued […]

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  • Bonnie K. Aldinger - Powerful. Sounds like a excellent and thought-provoking place to visit. Thanks for sharing.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - It really was Bonnie. If you’re ever in the neighborhood please try to visit.ReplyCancel

  • Mari Collier - I have read exerpts from one or two the old plantation journals where the names, births, sales, and purchases of human beings were recorded. Like many Midwestern Yankees, there is a certain detachment in my viewing Southern history. My ancesters did not arrive until the 1870’s-1880’s and they settled in the Midwest. They continued to live, speak, and worship the same as they did in Germany. The South was a foreign land to them. I can really upset a True Child of the South when I say Robert E Lee was a traitor. That said, I loved this one! The architect, the sculptures all is terrific! What a fantastic place to visit. Thanks for sharing.ReplyCancel

  • Carol Cassara - This is such a shameful part of our country’s history. I still can’t believe that people enslave other people. And still do in some parts of the world. I lived in Tallahassee for many years. It is less a Fla. city than it is a south Georgia one, and the attitudes were quite old-school South. It was an eye opener.ReplyCancel

  • Cathy Chester - It’s a shameful time to be a white person and the saying “man’s inhumanity to man” always applies. I’m so glad this plantation is finally giving a voice to the people who suffered the most: the slaves. Education is key to enlightenment.ReplyCancel

  • Rosalind Warren - WOW. Heart-rending. Good for Mr. Cummings. Thanks for spreading the word.ReplyCancel

  • Ruth Curran - Reality can be heart wrenching but you are so right that the whole story must be told. How moving that this documentation exists. I know a history teacher who says that history is written by the winners simply because they survived. Not repeating horrible mistakes includes all the facts and seeing, in this case, from both sides of the whip. Adding this to my ever growing list of things I soooo want to do on my next trip to your great city.ReplyCancel

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