I have lived in many domiciles.   Only including the houses my husband and I have owned- I count 9. NINE. Holy shit.   If you had asked me when I was little if this is how I saw my life unfolding I would have said two things: ‘No’ and ‘Interesting’.   I sometimes […]

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  • Myke Todd - I have lived in a secluded rural area for twenty years. Before that, I was in the heart of the suburbs of Memphis. I went back to Memphis last week, for a high school alumni function. While there, I cruised my old neighborhood. Everything was so much smaller. I was lost on what once were familiar streets. The city block I lived on has more people that the unincorporated town I now reside in.

    A hundred miles was a world away…ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - I’ve also visited the road I grew-up on and it looks so dated. Almost like a cloudy film as been applied- not the way I emotionally remember it. Hence- the desire for open spaces. Can I visit you? HeheeeeeeReplyCancel

  • Rebecca Forstadt Olkowski - I lived in so many homes I lost count.I must have Gypsy blood. However, not as good at making moola on the moves except a couple of times until the bottom fell out. Now we live in the country in the middle of LA.It’s pretty cool.ReplyCancel

  • Diane Tolley - The country always calls me. You can breathe there!
    Wow! Nine?! You are amazing! And if your ability to renew and make amazing applies to houses as it did your cutie-cute trailer, I am not surprised that people stand in line for a chance to own something that’s been ‘Cheryl-ized’! I would!ReplyCancel

  • Sue Loncaric - I love the Coast where I live in Queensland. We divide our time between Brisbane and the Gold Coast with its beautiful beaches. We also have moved house quite a bit in our married life but hoping to make the beach our home. I do love the country life though and yes the baking!ReplyCancel

  • Leanne Le Cras - we’re in the “country” well we used to be on a couple of acres and then moved to a more urban setting but still out of the city. It’s a nice place to mellow out but not as “happening” as it is in the big smoke. Maybe you could just park that caravan on an acreage and start homesteading from scratch 🙂ReplyCancel

  • Mari Collier - Brave soul, I hate moving! Lanny and I only owned four homes. Yes, we made money everytime we sold, but it was the economy, nothing I did. Lanny’s carpenter abilities though are another matter. The last one was really a windfall. This one, though, they will have to carry me out of the door. I suggest you not move too far out of the city if you buy a back 40. You’ll be bored out of your skull or you will spend the whole time tearing everything apart and redoing it over, and over.ReplyCancel

  • Carolann Iadarola - How smart of you to flip homes before it was popular! I think moving can be fun and bring lots of new exciting experiences. That cake looks yummy! enjoy the country..it’s beautiful isnt it? We’ve lived in the country for 22 years now and as much as we love the city. This is our home!ReplyCancel

  • Barb(y) - Hey Cher
    I love my open spaces ( although only that of Music street) and still love good ole Clarion Drive! Come on back to Geauga county? I sense it’s more about Montana or the great western views! All the same, enjoy your next plan and the journey!

    • Cheryl - Well, if I could live on your place Geauga would be the pick! Wide open spaces surrounded by GREEN is a clue to my obtuse teaser. I promise to let you know Barb(y). HA! XXOOOReplyCancel

      • Barb - If debate on saving Madroos farm! It’s for sale 52 acres, amazing home and barn. Russell township is trying to save the land. Some ” appointed a- holes want to build seventeen Mimi mansions. Can you even imagine our beautiful gateway destroyed????? Makes e sick. Hopefully the people of Russell will win this one!ReplyCancel

        • Cheryl - I can not imagine it NOT being there. The last of the farms.ReplyCancel

  [ Cheryl’s note: Several months ago the fine people at Trulia reached out to me and asked for my opinion as to where the Best Local Eats in New Orleans were. After explaining that all one needs to do is throw-a-stone to find culinary bliss, they asked me to get serious. Not my best […]

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  • Abby@Midlifecrisisnut.com - I swear, I should have not read this post before lunchtime. Just a look at the delicious treat from Cafe Amelie and my stomach was rumbling. Thank you for introducing us to these amazing places Cheryl! I’ll make sure to pay a visit next time I’m in New Orleans. xx AbbyReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - You are soooo welcome! And next time you’re here you better give me a call!!ReplyCancel

  • Ellen Dolgen - I have never been to New Orleans. It is on my bucket list for sure. David and I are such foodies…….we need to book a trip! When we do, you will be the first person I reach out to!ReplyCancel

  • Rebecca Forstadt Olkowski - I loved New Orleans when I was there. (4 months before Katrina) It’s foodie heaven. Love Brennans.ReplyCancel

  • Carol Cassara - I love, love, love New Orleans food porn!ReplyCancel

  • Helene Cohen Bludman - I am saving your list for when I visit your fair city. My daughter will be there in a few weeks and I’m sharing this with her.ReplyCancel

  • sue - I’ve always wanted to go to New Orleans. We live in Australia and have visited the East and West Coasts several time but alas haven’t made it to New Orleans. Perhaps next time.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - We sure hope you do and I’d love to visit your neck of the woods some day!ReplyCancel

  • Lori Strobel - I will tuck this great food advice away for the next time I’m in New Orleans. Thank you!ReplyCancel

  • Lois Alter Mark - I only visited New Orleans for a short period of time and everything I ate was delicious! Will have to go back one day and try your suggestions!ReplyCancel

  • Carolann Iadarola - I’ve never been to New Orleans but I know we are totally going there some day and soon! My hubby will be in his glory eating at the restaurants that’s for sure! I’ll have to hit you up too when we get there! 🙂ReplyCancel

  • Mari Collier - It is a scene I’ll have to miss. Cracklings are an acuired tasted. I prefer them baken in cornbread. Since I’m no longer on the farm and the huge iron pot Mama used was stolen decades ago, the cornbread with cracklings will remain a memory. Sounds yummy though.ReplyCancel

  • Estelle Sobel Erasmus - I haven’t been to Nola in years, but I remember loving the food when I was there. Thanks for the update on places.ReplyCancel

  • Jessica E Drake - I love New Orleans and the food there!ReplyCancel

  • Cathy Lynch Lawdanski - I have only eaten in the French Quarter and that was YEARS ago. Thanks for broadening my horizons!ReplyCancel

  • Leanne Le Cras - Now I’m even more envious of Americans – you guys certainly know how to do food!ReplyCancel

  • Linda Ogier - I’m in Australia, but we hear so much about New Orleans over here. Would love to visit one day! Your tagline is wonderful! Linda. 🙂ReplyCancel

First off, don’t go getting your knickers in a twist because you’re downward facing dog over the word ‘warrior’ and thinking, ‘That’s what’s wrong with the world! Too much aggression!’   At ease soldier.   Parenting is all guts and very little glory.   If you can’t wrap your head around this simple wisdom you’re […]

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  • Tam Warner Minton - I’m sharing this. EXCELLENT advice! My daughter used to tell me I wasn’t consistent enough. When she was 10. I tried!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Kids. Can’t reason with them. Can’t lock them in a closet.ReplyCancel

  • Tammy - Awesome-sauce! I never left my kids with the impression that had a “right” to privacy until it was in their own house…you know, the one they pay the mortgage or rent to live in. “If it’s in my house…it’s my business.”ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Exactamundo! My kids had to EARN rights- including privacy (which I never gave them full access to actually) and they’ve turned out to better people then most.ReplyCancel

  • Rebecca Forstadt Olkowski - So glad I made it through parenting alive. Luckily, my kids are doing well.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Don’t we all just sort of give it up to higher powers? But here on Earth someone has to do the hard work- right?ReplyCancel

  • Sheri Lein - I love this post so much, I need to come back here and read some more. Tweeting this now 🙂ReplyCancel

  • Doreen Mcgettigan - I love common sense and this post is full of it!ReplyCancel

  • Shari Eberts - Love it!! Great tips to live by. Thank you!ReplyCancel

  • Rena McDaniel - Love, Love, Love this! I was reading this outloud to my daughter and we’re both dying laughing!ReplyCancel

  • Carol Cassara - I do not have children but I absolutely love this advice. And can I tell you how much I love the soldier?ReplyCancel

  • Grammie Time - I love you! As a parent, grandparent and a teacher! Spill these words of wisdom from all rooftops and let this generation listen. At least try and listen. I call this old-fashion parenting! Our past generations would be proud!! Amen lady, amen lady!ReplyCancel

  • Donna Beckman Tagliaferri - perfection….once again a cry for common sense. May this blog go virile…did I spell that correctly? oh whatever you know what I meanReplyCancel

  • Rosemond - Amen, no means no! And yes I spy on her electronics. I told her that I have put software on her cellphone so I can see her activity.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - You see! HONESTY in our smashing of liberties! PERFECTION!ReplyCancel

  • Mari Collier - It is essential to be the Mother, Mom, Mama, whatever term your family uses. Note the capital letters! I do hope the younger ones read your blog. Oh, and welcome back. Missed you!ReplyCancel

  • Rosemond Perdue-Cranner - Stick to your guns! Agree!ReplyCancel

  • Diane Tolley - Cherykl, yuou have written so many amazing posts, but this one stands out to me over all the others. (And that’s saying something!) WELL DONE!!! Sharing . . .ReplyCancel

  • Cathy Lynch Lawdanski - Yes…that is all!ReplyCancel

  • Myke Todd - This is altogether brilliant.

    I approve! Not only that, my Mom would have approved.ReplyCancel

I have a ‘friend’.   He lives next door.   We see each other often.   I drive him crazy and he pisses me off.   I never ask his opinions and… he gives them anyways.   I tell him he looks like he should sit down and… he tells me to go to hell. […]

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  • Abby@Midlifecrisisnut.com - I’m glad for this one too. You two surely hit it off! xx AbbyReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - We are great together. One of my favorite people of all time. Such a smartass. Perfection.ReplyCancel

  • Roshni - I wish I could be there sitting with you two and just silently appreciating the conversation!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - My husband just likes to sit and listen and shake his head. Don and I are like a vaudeville show it seems.ReplyCancel

  • Myke Todd - If, in a month’s time, I am fortunate enough to read one great poem, one great short story, and one great dialogue set, I consider that to be a very good month. I read a lot of blogs, in hopes of achieving this plateau.

    You have more than taken care of the dialogue post, here. This is altogether brilliant and entertaining.

    Great post, Cheryl.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Thanks Myke! I can’t make this stuff up.ReplyCancel

  • Cary Vaughn - Love this!!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - I want to marry him. He won’t have me. I feel incomplete!ReplyCancel

  • Carol Bates Cook - I love the dialogue and I just checked out the book – I might just order it for my iPad.ReplyCancel

  • Megan McWilliams - fabulous!ReplyCancel

  • Ellen Dolgen - Gay husbands are the best! I am going to add the book to my summer reading list. OMG- Summer is almost here!ReplyCancel

  • Carol Cassara - What color is your door? I know, sort of a non-sequitur and absolutely not what you were going for. But, that’s what came up for me. ROTFLReplyCancel

  • Sheryl Kraft - The best dialog I’ve heard in a very long time! Priceless.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - This is the tip of the iceberg. I wish I had a tape recorder.ReplyCancel

  • Tam Warner Minton - Sounds like a fun guy! A little back and forth is good for you.ReplyCancel

  • Carolann - lol he sounds amazing. And what a fine pair you both make. I wish I knew someone like that. He sounds like your soul mate!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - I’m a very lucky person to know him. It’s been a blessing.ReplyCancel

  • Grammie Time - Interesting dialogue! I’ll have to check this book out.ReplyCancel

  • Maggie MacMillan - Love is love. The more we have in our lives the better, whatever form it takes. This is beautiful 🙂ReplyCancel

  • Sue Loncaric - Sounds like a fab relationship and I must check out the book.ReplyCancel

  • Jennifer Rochette Koshak - This is fabulous!ReplyCancel

  • Janine - I starting reading this earlier in the day and it captured me so much that I had to close my browser and come back to it again in the evening to really soak it up. I love how you wrote this. The essence. The simplicity. The relationship. The title. Love it.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Thank you Janine. When I decided to write ‘something’ about Don and me,I thought the best way was to just record a typical conversation between us. I know we both feel the love and admiration and I was hoping readers would too. Thank you again.ReplyCancel

  • Rebecca Forstadt Olkowski - Looks like a fun read. The fact that he is 85 and taking long drags on cigarettes is amazing.ReplyCancel

  • Diane Tolley - You can just hear the affection behind the words…ReplyCancel

  • Gary Sidley - I love it! I can visualise these interactions and I already feel like I know your 80+-year-old neighbour. Long may your banter continue.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - He’s 86. I’m keeping my fingers crossed. HA!ReplyCancel

  There’s this crazy little ‘thing’ that happens on the way to the forum, or in a self-imposed hiatus from the Kingdom blogging  (due to actual real-life events- go figure) …   You may get the vapors.   The conflict, of course, is that writing a blog is hard work. It takes t-i-m-e and patience and […]

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  • MJM - I freaking love this piece! I can totally relate to what you’re saying here, bottom line, it’s not easy being a blogger.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - No. It’s not. And you write 3? How the hell…..ReplyCancel

  • Tam Warner Minton - I am with you, there are things bloggers do not have to worry about!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Trade-offs to everything in Life. Damn it.ReplyCancel

  • Myke Todd - My goodness… I have not laughed so hard in weeks. And, respectfully… You could paraphrase a page in a telephone book and make it entertaining.

    I would never survive in the real blogging world. I knew that at the start. My efforts are miniscule, and off the radar. It is like a front porch with a swing at a rural house, just off a country road, you pass, only because you took a wrong turn off the main highway.

    I really like it here.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Well, it certainly appears you can turn a phrase Myke! The rural front porch has always confused me. Just WHO are they looking at all the way out in the boondocks? Muskrats? Muskrats in Love? (remember that terrible song?)ReplyCancel

  • Judy Freedman - Just the advice I needed to hear today. Blogging is hard work and it’s a labor of love.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - And we’re all on the prison rock pile together. < >ReplyCancel

  • Rosemond - Bravo!! Love your points and yes you WILL insult someone just simply by writing, being, or breathing! The first hateful troll is the hardest!!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Confession: I love the haters. My very reason for ‘being’. They give me full permission to let loose.ReplyCancel

  • Lynda@fitnessmomwinecountry - Cheryl !! Love this piece. I am right at this point with blogging. Oh and how did you know I had a perfectly toned ass? LOL Must be all that Pure Barre
    I have a love hate relationship with my blogging. I love my site, I love writing especially when the words flow from my head to fingers and out from the keyboard. I tend to have so much to say all the time, but find other distractions in my day to take me away from sharing my thoughts with the world.
    Thank you for this 🙂ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - And I love your writing! And I’m certain your ass is Pure Barre toned, but I digress… when the ideas blossom and our brains turn a phrase, and the words rush out (without typos) and it’s all just sooooo much FUN- Life is good. Problem is, it’s not always that easy is it? But then again, you are fit and living in wine country, so maybe it is. HA!ReplyCancel

  • Lisa Carpenter - Oh my goodness! No. 4 has been giving me vapors of late. Makes me nuts. I shall now stop worrying about it, though, because YOU said I shouldn’t worry! Thank you! 😀

    PS: Nice list of truths.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - I’m right- right? No algorithm invented can increase readership- just good writing and checking in with your friends from time to time. Glad I have you Lisa!ReplyCancel

  • Carol Cassara - Tea with the Queen? Gotta do it. One day soon. WHy aren’t there 17 months in a year? Why? There are no good answers to that question, right? Yeah, I’m feeling kind of crazy this morning. Don’t mind me.ReplyCancel

  • Laura Ehlers - It is so true…that not writing vacant feeling! Thanks for the reminder, Your Highness!ReplyCancel

  • Ruth Curran - I have been right there with you. It feels good to let it flow and be in the company of the choir or the royal court or whoever shows up, right? Love this so much Cheryl!ReplyCancel

  • Diane Tolley - Talent oozes from my pores as well. Highly impractical. I wish it would show up someplace useful . . .ReplyCancel

  • Carla Birnberg - Amen to all of this. I’ve been doing this thing called blogging for too long now 🙂 almost 15 years (!)and I still write each post as though no one’s reading because once I imagine someone reading… There goes the post 🙂ReplyCancel

  • Andrea Bates - I LOVE this post. LOVE.

    So true. I follow your suggestions with my whole being! And yet – I still make myself crazy now and then. But great tips, great post. 🙂ReplyCancel

  • Ellen Dolgen - When you are in the vagina business, your audience can be narrow, large, moist and dry. You just gotta go with it.ReplyCancel

  • Rebecca Forstadt Olkowski - I totally relate to the “changing voice” number 3. Constantly. But, there’s nothing bad about evolving. I do it constantly.ReplyCancel

  • Sue Koepnick - I love this! It is ok to just do your own thing and not follow everyone’s “expert” advice. I found you through a Facebook group, and I’m so glad!ReplyCancel

  • Haralee Weintraub - I will make my own tea and I do love a list. My audience is the menopausal woman, know her, love her, wished she would comment more but understand, or at least I think I do ! As long as they don’t do #7 too often I am OK!ReplyCancel

  • Mari Collier - But I don’t like tea and really am not impressed with the idea that birth would make thee better than me. This means I have alienated a whole group of potential readers. By the way, that facial cream you recommended does seem to work. I hadn’t bought it as it was considerably more than the Old Age product I was using. This one, however, smooths on so easily. Thanks!ReplyCancel

  • Charles E. Burnham - Gregorian Calendar? Hmmm. Interesting. Because my dear wife and all of her ancestors are Jewish, I have been asked if I ever considered converting. I mean, neither of us believes in magic, so that stops some people, but sometimes I have to say that I can’t decide between becoming a Jew and becoming a Greek. Easter would be May 1, this year if I did. Talk about wacked out! As long as it’s Spring right now, who cares what month it is?ReplyCancel

  • Lois Alter Mark - I just read Ellen Dolgen’s comment and nothing I can say will possibly beat that. And that’s one of the best parts of blogging for me – other bloggers 🙂ReplyCancel

  • Leanne Le Cras - I loved all of these – we all secretly fret about them at times and then find out that everyone else is just cruising along too – the ones busting the butts to be the biggest and the best are welcome to it. Give me fun and interaction and a good laugh here and there and I’m happy (oh and I’ll have a cucumber sandwich – no crusts – with my cuppa thank you) xReplyCancel

  • Cathy Lawdanski - #1 & #4 – I guess the thing to do is just keep hacking away, practicing, learning and doing the best work you know how to do! That’s what I try to focus on when I’m not obsessing about the rest!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - You’re so right! You remember the old joke ‘How Do You Get To Carnegie Hall?’—Practice! HA!ReplyCancel

  • Paul D. Brads - This is so spot on. And there’s a queen, you mentioned Downton Abbey, and tea…who could ask for more ???ReplyCancel

  • Norma Beishir - All good advice. I follow a few blogs that either don’t include images at all, or they put in something so small, you need a magnifying glass to see it.ReplyCancel

  • Gary Sidley - Humour blogging is the writing that I most enjoy, despite my modest number of followers. I often laugh while I’m writing it (I’m not sure what that indicates – self-indulgence? insanity?). And I think you’re right, you do tend to gravitate to a loyal and supportive group of people with a similar mind set.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - And I’m so pleased we support each other!!ReplyCancel

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