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Dear Readers, All four 178,000 of you.   You may (or may not, uhummm) have noticed I’ve been posting less and less. This is not because I don’t have something brilliant to say. Perish the thought. It is because there have been, and still are, sooooo many important and exciting changes going on in my world […]

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  • Ellen Dolgen - Can’t wait to hear what you are up to my dear! Don’t worry about us……..do your thing! We shall wait with bated breath to hear the “deets”!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - I’m reviving up a political campaign- Vote For Common Sense with a deep dose of Standing Tall. *wink* and XXXOOO my darling friend.ReplyCancel

  • Carollynn - My hiatus started in the summer of 2014. I thought I didn’t have anything more to say, when in reality, I was done decorating/renovating/etc. with that particular house. I thought the new house would be the inspiration I needed to kick start the return to blogging. Right now, we’re still slogging through the final stages of the move and deciding what the heck to do with the old house. Perhaps my blogging hiatus will come to an end, perhaps not. You only have 1 life to live, and sometimes living it is more important than documenting it on social media.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Amen sister. Amen. ps: I still follow whatever you post. XXOOReplyCancel

  • Diane - We’ll be here. Missing you!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - And I’ll be somewhere out there watching all of you. XXOOReplyCancel

  • Elaine Ambrose - Please give us a few tidbits of your adventures. You don’t need to complete an entire blog post – just throw a few crumbs so we know you’re still sassy.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Somehow I will figure this all out because I just can’t keep the sass down! Hahaaaaaaa Stay tuned.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - just a tease?…. Can you say ‘Low country’? heheeeeeReplyCancel

  • Cathy Sikorski - Well, okay sister…whatever you need. But we will wait like a beleaguered lover who will never desert you!! Good luck. Enjoy the journey and see you on the flip side!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Well, aren’t you the sweetest thing to ever walk the Earth! I LOVE beleaguered lovers. I’ve left a few in my wake! HA!ReplyCancel

Here’s my wrap-up. I know you’re all on the edge of your seats.     Having BlogHer in NYC was fun because it’s in NYC, but… it’s a pain in the butt because it’s NYC.   But I ‘get’ it… get it… get it….   The Hilton was very accommodating. Bravo Hilton. Nice rooms (and […]

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  • Estelle Erasmus - Cheryl,
    I’m reading your post going uh huh, uh huh and then I see my name. Well, you my lady made my day!! Can’t wait to speak again…soon! xoxoxoReplyCancel

  • Quirky Chrissy - Sigh. You’re not wrong. <3

    Glad you still had fun, though (I did too!).ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Connecting and re-connecting is important, but we’re really all there to build our brands- right? The sponsors need to figure out what to do with us. *sigh*ReplyCancel

  • Linda Roy - Oh Cheryl, how I love you! Spot on sister. It was such a pleasure spending time with you and I wish I could have kept my eyes open long enough to talk to you more (see: well stocked open bar) because there is so much I want to talk to you about. BlogHer was a good time, a big party, but it has become a corporate, activist, commercial Blogging For Dollars extravaganza. If you need me, I’ll be at Erma at a corner table kvetching about joke writing with nary a swag bag in sight. xoReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - I so enjoyed our time together. I can’t say enough about how much I enjoy your writing… and you. And yes- we have so much more to talk about. A trip to NOLA? Our own conference? We could rule the world if we put our two gorgeous heads together! HA!ReplyCancel

  • Chloe - This has been the same problem since I first attended in 2010. Companies throw a bunch of money at BlogHer, walk home with nothing to show for it, and that’s the end. Last year companies out and out acted like they were doing bloggers a big favor by being there so we could but their stuff, and they seemed offended when people didn’t.

    I don’t know where the disconnect is, but it is huge.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - If ‘sponsors’ aren’t understanding what this conference is for, then someone isn’t coaching them. If I was responsible for gathering sponsors for a blogging conference, the first thing I’d do is explain to them what Blogging is, and then show them how bloggers can increase their exposure. THEN I’d suggest they create a new paradigm which was focused on corralling bloggers to assist in the company’s mission (which is either sales or exposure). THEN I’d coach the people representing these products/services to approach the bloggers and ALREADY know how they are willing to work with them: have a sample program, have some kind of reciprocity for exposure, the purchasing of AD space, etc. Maybe even a program for product ambassadors. But so many were selling their product to us. Why was the Animal Protective League there? Yes the puppies were cute and many bloggers are animal activists, but how, exactly, was their presence supposed to assist a blogger’s web presence OR the APL? Any animal rights blogger is already aware of their organization. Fact: they were looking for people to adopt the animals. There. At the conference. Or be so inspired that we would write about animal protection as soon as we got home? I just don’t get it. Though I DO get that they helped foot the bill. Ya know what someone needs to do? A bunch of Bloggers need to have a conference with Companies. Or connect with the marketing people and explain to them how bloggers can make them a fortune. Madison Ave. just doesn’t know how to utilize us yet. Baby steps I guess.ReplyCancel

  • Cathy Chester - Glad you had fun, networked, loved my backyard of NYC and met some new friends, too. Having a great roommate always helps too.

    I’ve redirected my focus so I’m sorry I couldn’t meet up with you this year. I would have loved to repeat our “love affair” from the Bloomers party at BlogHer ’13. You’re a hoot to hang out with!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - That was a GREAT party- and those sponsors knew what they were doing. I know several bloggers that got ambassador deals from that party. My only regret is that we didn’t get to hug each other again! so OOOOO here!ReplyCancel

  • Roshni - I get the same message from other bloggers about how commercial and yet how unprofessional BlogHer is!
    Okay, I did not expect the analysis for the Voices!! What went on there?ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Just all sad/angry selections. People’s experiences with the worst of Humanity. Not a single humorous note. And some of the winning written pieces weren’t even that well written, but boy were they shocking. I kept asking myself if some of it was actually truthful or amped-up for effect. At one point I said to the lades at my table,”That can’t be true. No one would do that? People can be awful but… really?”

      I started wondering if ‘truth’ isn’t enough anymore, especially if you can’t string a sentence together. Then, maybe, you need to add shock value. It will win you awards. Oh boy….ReplyCancel

      • Roshni - I know what you mean! There are many posts I read about shocking things and I wonder whether it could possibly be true!ReplyCancel

        • Cheryl - Okay- some of it, but the majority??? I think not. Wow.ReplyCancel

      • Cindy | The Reedster Speaks - Are you suggesting some of the authors were lying? That’s pretty bold.ReplyCancel

        • Cheryl - No. Not ‘lying’ but maybe taking dramatic license? For me- there was one written piece in particular that I just thought was wayyyy over the top. Bordering on exaggeration. But very dramatic. So there’s that.ReplyCancel

          • Erica M - This is an awful, incoherent post, and you seem to be an awful, incoherent writer. To call the legitimate experience of the VOTY readers “a shit pancake” was completely out of line. You and the commenters agreeing with you should be ashamed for diminishing the honorees’ accomplishments.

          • Cheryl - Why Thank You. I’m glad you enjoyed it.

  • Rebecca Forstadt Olkowski - I wish I could have gone just for the fun of being in NYC and connecting with other midlifers and beyond. Loved your wrap up. Good to know when considering for next time.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Us MidLifer’s had a party! What fun- hope you can join in next time!ReplyCancel

  • Diane - I’m a ‘glass-half-full’ person. I recognize that there is ugliness and sadness in the world, but why wade through it? I would have loved to meet and connect with everyone but the tone would definitely have bummed me out. Thank you for the summary. It will make next year’s decisions easier! 🙂ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - And mine- unless I ‘Win’ then all bets are off. HahahaaaReplyCancel

  • Estelle Sobel Erasmus - OMG. Cheryl Nicholl I read my name in your fabulous post and literally gasped and put my hand to my heart. XOXOXOReplyCancel

  • Anita Irlen - Thanks for this recap. I wasn’t there and have never been to Blogher But I’ve been to other conferences like this and somehow they mostly manage to disappoint me. I did meet some very nice people, you, at the Midlife dinner though. Those people in those Expos though… Thanks, AnitaReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - It was wonderful to meet you too! That dinner was the best of the conference.ReplyCancel

  • Kitten Holiday - You’re saying the breakout sessions are improving over previous years? That’s depressing. Why do people waste their money?ReplyCancel

  • Doreen McGettigan - I have always wanted to attend Blog her but kept reading it wasn’t mid life friendly. I’m glad we have BAM…ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - And I’m finally attending BAM! YEA!!! see you there!ReplyCancel

  • Julie Christine Stoian - Nice wrap up. I agree about the expo!! I didn’t do the conference so I can’t speak to that, but I have noticed a shift as well.ReplyCancel

  • Sacha Blessed - I hear you I just started blogging and Im starting to feel like a sales person. ..lol but im setting my boundariesReplyCancel

  • Tammy - I have a bad taste in my mouth for BlogHer. Maybe I attend too many real and professional conferences that when they are run with such disregard to their audience I just don’t have time for them. Last years conference was sloppy at best and offered nothing by way of sponsorship contacts. If I hadn’t met some pretty wonderful people there, it would have been a complete waste of time. I love that it offers a place to connect with our virtual friends, BUT it is a place of business and business should be taken seriously. Hard to build a brand and connect with the right people when the highlight of the day is a Kardashian selling hair products. Yeah … no thank you. I vote we send you in before the next BlogHer to whip those sponsors into shape. What a waste of an opportunity for them … and us!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - As always- you said it better then I did. I guess you’re a pro? hahahaaaReplyCancel

    • Stacie - I don’t understand your comment at all. I spent 30+ years attending “real” conferences with my PhD in biology, getting drugs approved to cure cancer (I am also a 3 time cancer survivor). It sounds like BlogHer is all about making money for you (sponsorship contacts). That’s fine but to me, BlogHer is about empowering women and enabling voices that might not be otherwise heard. I think they excelled at that this year. You have plenty of venues to help you make money without trashing this one.ReplyCancel

      • Cheryl - Well hello! Allow me to respond by accusation: 1) having a PhD does not make you better qualified to weigh the merits of any conference, 2) I don’t need more money, 3) not many support the voice of the disenfranchised as personally I do, and, 4) I did not ‘trash’ it. But I did expect a response such as yours. Thank you for stopping by. All opinions are freely welcome- and posted.ReplyCancel

        • Stacie - My comment was directed at Tammy and her comment.ReplyCancel

          • Cheryl - Rereading the thread, I don’t see how, but if you say so.

      • Chloe - I am dead certain that the vast majority of women starting a blog in hopes of earning a living with it aren’t ponying up $599 plus hotel and airfare to “get empowered”.

        In the past, Blogher has been marketed to bloggers as a professional women’s conference and the expectation of the bloggers is that they will meet commercial contacts in the Expo Hall with whom they can develop professional contacts that will bring them income.

        If BlogHer is indeed about empowerment and not professional advancement and making commercial connections then I can only say that for this chickie it’s been extremely successful. After attending for five years I’ve finally become empowered enough to realize that I don’t need an over-priced girls’ weekend that culminates in a party where I wear a decorated McDonald’s bag on my head. And for this lesson alone, I am forever grateful.ReplyCancel

        • Cheryl - Yes- maybe that’s it. It’s become more about empowerment and less about making professional contacts in the Expo Hall. My question is: Can it be both?ReplyCancel

  • Estelle - I want to add in here: I saw a huge difference in the professionalism of the presenters this year, and was glad to be among them. I think SheKnows is really making an impact and the direction is much better. I think the Expo is what the Expo is–lots of brands still figuring out how to work with bloggers.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - I too thought the ‘Presenter’s’ were more prepared. The sessions I attended were worthwhile. The Expo?ReplyCancel

  • The Feminist Feline - This was my first BlogHer and as a 20-something recent college grad who isn’t even thinking about having kids anytime soon, I was afraid my presence was going to be crushed by the mommy bloggers. That was not the case at all. I was pleasantly surprised by BlogHer and SheKnows’ unabashed feminism (maybe that’s a product of the merge?). I agree that the expo hall was a bit of a disappointment. It was fun and all but very few of them were interested in forming real partnerships. I swear to god if one more sponsor asked me to take a stupid picture and tweet it with their hashtag to enter a contest I was never going to win, I was going to knock their fancy display over. (I’m looking at you, Best Buy)ReplyCancel

  • Carol Cassara - Wow, i never had an expo experience like that. Just awful. I don’t know, I might be over BlogHer. I was relieved to cancel this year.ReplyCancel

  • Carolann - I was about to go this year and had to cancel last minute. I had a friend attend and she is in her 50s and felt totally out of place. I’ll have to rethink next year for sure!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - It’s fine for MidLife just not full of MidLife. But that’s what makes the World go round.ReplyCancel

  • Mari Collier - That isn’t something I would spend my money, but then I’m a tightwad. At least you had fun. Nothing like a well stocked bar.ReplyCancel

  • Janie Emaus - I missed meeting up with everyone again. But not sure BlogHer is the place to do it.ReplyCancel

  • Judy Krell Freedman - Good to meet you. Like this post and agree with many of your comments.ReplyCancel

  • Aliza Worthington - I’m not inclined to leave a comment outlining the reasons I disagree with you. It’s clear that no matter how respectfully I do it, my comment (because it would take issue with what you wrote) would be met with sarcasm and dismissiveness. I can only assume you won’t be at BlogHer 2016. I hope you find other conferences that meet your needs more fully.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Well, I don’t know? I might attend BlogHer16.ReplyCancel

  • Aliza Worthington - Interesting. My comment, which was awaiting moderation, seems to have disappeared. In case it got swallowed, here it is again:

    I’m not inclined to leave a comment outlining the reasons I disagree with you. It’s clear that no matter how respectfully I do it, my comment (because it would take issue with what you wrote) would be met with sarcasm and dismissiveness. I can only assume you won’t be at BlogHer 2016. I hope you find other conferences that meet your needs more fully.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - As you can see, it did not get ‘swallowed’.ReplyCancel

  • Alyson Rennick Herzig - I love you, and miss you. I am only reading your wrap up – ok maybe a few more but I want the truth, not the fluff and I know how you roll.ReplyCancel

  • Abby - I wish I was there! Sounds like an intriguing thing to do. Missing out on this conference is pretty much the only downside of living in Europe:) Oh, and I see you made some friends Cheryl (see the comment before mine):)ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Yes- I’m a virtual friend-making machine! *wink* Hope to meet you someday. In the meantime we have technology!ReplyCancel

  • Wardrobe Oxygen - After 10 years blogging and… like 7 years with BlogHer this was my first time to the conference. I’m a 40 year old fashion blogger and while I met some amazing inspirational people I didn’t really feel as though the conference was for me or that I got much out of it. Out of the four sessions I attended, one was really interesting but not helpful for my blog (nor accomplished the description on the agenda), one was completely and utterly amazingly helpful and entertaining, and the other two I “voted with my feet” and walked out. The Expo had very few brands I even stopped to talk to because they just didn’t fit with my blog and like you mentioned, many I did talk to had no idea what to do with me. There were plenty of inspirational speakers and such, but I came to the conference as a blogger and my blog needs weren’t met. The only benefits I gained were from one session, meeting with the SheKnows team, and the Associates session at the Amazon suite. I’m curious to see what happens with BlogHer/SheKnows in the upcoming year and how it will affect future conference.

    As an aside, I must say I love that a brand on Twitter put you and I in their same ??? tweet because it’s how I came across your blog. Already a fan, wish I met you at the conference!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - I think we’re saying much of the same thing: “I came to the conference as a blogger and my blog needs weren’t met”. (I wish I had just said THAT). I also joined a few sessions that I found met the mark, others…. As for the brand on Twitter? What am I missing??? I must go look…. and Thank You for stopping by. I appreciate your perspective- reasonable, adult-like, w/o being overcome from the vapors.ReplyCancel

  • SunbonnetSmart - Whoa, Cheryl! What fun to connect with you on-line after being lucky enough to find you, and sit with you, at BlogHer ’15 where we shared our session with Gwyneth Paltrow. I have to say you are a woman after my own heart. Love your blog, this post and all the pizazz. Keep things lively, I say. 🙂 You are a master at camaraderie and I am so glad to have finally met you. Looking forward to seeing you again. You left me wanting more. Much Love, Fondly, RobinReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Oh Robin! So happy to have met YOU! And Thank God you had my back (purse) when I got ‘sidetracked’.You are a LOVELY woman with a great blog. I’ve been following you for quite sometime. As for this post- you notice I didn’t even mention Gwyneth. I think we covered THAT between us. Hahahaaaa. Again- so happy to have met you!ReplyCancel

  • Arnebya - I’m sorry you don’t feel the conference is midlife friendly (was it ever geared solely to mom bloggers? I never considered it so). For me, it’s always been about what you, individually, seek from it. What do you hope to gain? If you go for that reason, and its met, good. If you go for that reason and it’s not, then don’t go again, give it another shot to see if it was a fluke, or reconcile it however you like. But to suggest that VOTY readers “won” the ability to read or present is just low and dismissive of their talents(suggesting that some were not well written when your post needs editing is curious. Suggesting some took dramatic license just reads as life-acquired cynicism. And, there WAS a humor reader. Just because you didn’t laugh doesn’t mean it wasn’t in that category). I’m pretty sure each of the honorees this year feels as if he/she deserved to be there (as I did when I read in 2012, or when I held the honor another two years after). I also dislike the insinuation that the conference this year was geared toward a trend. Because Black lives mattering certainly is that, right? There’s no way so much emphasis would have been put on diversity at the conference if it wasn’t in the news, yeah? Empowering a younger generation is just what’s hot right now, huh? I’m glad you enjoyed the parts you did. I’m sorry you were dismayed at others. But, surely, you could have presented your dislike in a less accusation-laden, dismissive way (and no, I’m not one of those “play nice on the Internet; you’re such a meanie” women. I’m just genuinely trying to understand the purpose of your post, because it reads more like unhappiness within than with a conference you chose to attend).ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - That’s a mouthful. Do you need more room?ReplyCancel

      • Arnebya - As someone who’s interested in others’ experiences (and the reasons behind them) I was going for discussion. Maybe you needed less room.ReplyCancel

        • Cheryl - You may be ‘interested’ but a little judgy, but okay, here you go- It wasn’t NOT MidLife friendly, just didn’t seem to use our resources, and yes, it was, at one time very Mommy Blogger orientated, because that’s where the numbers were. I agree that any experience has it’s merits and this did as well, but I’m definitely not seeking advice about how to reconcile anything- certainly not a conference that I have experience attending and, at which, I have a professional agenda. And of course the Voty readers ‘won’ (the opportunity to read). What else would you call it? It wasn’t a lottery. As for me being ‘dismissive’ of their talents? You missed my point- entirely. It was the coordinated ‘tone’ of the chosen pieces that sparked my critique. Not a lot of variety- and a few editing mistakes (I guess that’s going around). On other points, I can’t find a single mention (by me) that Black lives don’t matter??? Or that younger (newer) bloggers are only present because they are in the ‘news’?? Stating that the attendees were more ‘diverse’ was a fact, not a judgement (I guess even you can jump to conclusions). Now- as to YOUR ‘tone: combative, preachy, closed off, a bit defensive. Shall I go on? And, ps: I couldn’t care less if you’re sad or happy for me. Who asked?ReplyCancel

  • Rena McDaniel - I didn’t make it either. I went to the BAM conference in March. It’s nice to just get to meet the people that we spend so much time for. Hell, we could rent out a hotel and do that a whole lot cheaper!ReplyCancel

  • Elaine Ambrose - Thank you for this excellent review! I was a VOTY winner for my humorous post but I wasn’t selected to read. I also felt the depression in the air after the few, good but heavy posts were read. I won’t attend another BlogHer. I hope to see you at Erma!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - That’s a good way to describe it- ‘heavy’. Too heavy for me. Anyways, Erma’s is looking better and better. Would LOVE to meet you!!ReplyCancel

What do you get when you take a bunch of fabulous women (with BIG IDEAS for brains and pens in hand- okay, keypads), and put them all together, under one roof, with a single mindedness to conquer the world, in an awesome city without prying eyes?   Wine? Running tabs. Gab? Yes. Melting credit cards? […]

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  • Carla - I’m sooooo sad I can’t go this year.
    I shall live vicariously.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - We shall bring back wisdom… and swag. *wink*ReplyCancel

  • Linda Roy - Oh thank gawd you did this so I don’t have to ask “What are you wearing to…” It’s all so fabulous. Now I’m just going to be asking things like “Where did you get those shoes?” and “Where did you get that amazing green hoodie?” *looking through closet*

    And YES…the ‘meteoric rise to fame…buy the book’. I’m looking at YOU Arianna ‘I don’t intend to pay any of you’ Huffington.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - And you should see what I’m bringing to sleep in! Now THAT”s a post! HahahahaaaaReplyCancel

  • Carolann - I wish I could go! Sounds like a blast. I’ll have to catch next years for sure. Love the outfits! Have a fun time!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - There’s always another BlogHer. You can bet your a@*. See you on the flip flop.ReplyCancel

  • Lana - You will look fabulous! Wish I was going!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - I wish you were too! I’d love to meet you IRL. In the meantime, I’ll have a doubly good time for the both of us. HA!ReplyCancel

  • Carol Cassara - OMG. I just pop some jeans and leggings in a suitcase. I had to pull out of it this year, so now I have to gird my loins and read all the posts about the fun you’re having. i hate that part of summer! See you at BAM 16!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Hahaaaaa ‘Gird your lions’ so funny- and possibly true, though I’m only attending on Friday. The rest of the weekend visiting with my son! Now THAT’S fun!ReplyCancel

  • Helene Cohen Bludman - Oooh I love your fashion choices! Can’t wait to meet you at the dinner!ReplyCancel

  • Karen D. Austin - I like how you displayed your outfits. Clever. Have an absolutely wonderful time. It will be enriching and invigorating for sure.ReplyCancel

  • Estelle Sobel Erasmus - Cheryl. I can’t wait to meet you at dinner!!! Now I know what you’ll be wearing, too!ReplyCancel

  • Lois Alter Mark - Bummed I won’t be there this year. Meeting the midlife tribe was the highlight of the last BlogHer I attended. Enjoy, and can’t wait to read your posts about it!ReplyCancel

  • Kathleen O'Donnell - Not really blogging much anymore…but I am jealous of your upcoming trip and hook up with the tribe! So fun. Do not get me started on those glorious outfits. LOVE all of them. Have drink for me. A great big one with lots of Belvedere and a handful of dirty olives.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Fear not- dirty is my middle name.ReplyCancel

  • Rena McDianiel - I hate that I missed it. Next year, I went to the BAM Conference and I am going to Carol’s Creativity workshop in NM in Oct. I bet you had a blast! Can’t wait for details.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - We MISSED you!!! Fun had by all, and a few cocktails. *burp*ReplyCancel

  It has been my experience in life that most RICH people are odd funny.     Of course there are two kinds of RICH: Old money and New money- and they ARE different.   Let’s explore…   Old $ lives in the same house that generations of their family have lived in, even if it’s […]

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  • Diane - I don’t care if it’s old or new. I’ll take it!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Of course you will. You’re one smart lady.ReplyCancel

  • Cathy Chester - We have a lot of new money on our street because people have told me they have new money. You can’t make this stuff up. One guy would tell me each time I saw him how much he was making that month. Years later he filed for bankruptcy. Hmm.. Oy. Oy. Oy.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - I know. It’s that something. NEW $ has no problem telling you they have $. I just LOVE people that feel the need to tell you how much everything costed. Oy Oy Oy is right!ReplyCancel

  • Dyanne @ I Want Backsies - Love this! I live in an “old money” neighborhood. Snob Hill, to be specific. (We don’t have money, old or new, but people think we do because of our address.) It’s a fairly small town, so I have daily contact with both sectors. The new $ in our town are mostly doctors’ wives. New $ must drive big SUVs, usually Suburbans, Tahoes or Escalades. Old $ drives understated expensive cars, and they have an old, pristine condition convertible tucked away for pretty days. Old $ gives out full sized candy bars on Halloween. New $ drives their kids to another neighborhood to trick or treat and aren’t even home to answer the door on Halloween….ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - YES YES YES! I forgot all about the Halloween candy SHIZZ! Fabulous! HAHAHAAA!ReplyCancel

  • Chris Carter - I totally cracked up reading this, Cheryl!! Oh, you know both the old and new money people so well!! SO funny and spot on!!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Hey Chris darlin’!! Nice to see you!! XXOO. Read Dyanne’s @IWantBacksies comment- so funny! Halloween candy!!!!!! hahahahaaaReplyCancel

  • Toni McCloe - I have to admit, none of this ever occurred to me before. However, I have to admit that I have noticed that some folks wearing their jewelry to the gym!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - For the love of God they wear their jewelry in the shower Toni! -head shaking-ReplyCancel

  • Doreen McGettigan - OMGoodness too funny and oh so accurate. One thing old and new $ have in common is getting to that point of being completely out of touch with reality.It is scary.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - They make their own REALITY. Money buys THAT too. Oy.ReplyCancel

  • Gary Sidley - Cheryl, I believe you’ve excelled even your own high standards with this one. Hilarious! I actually snotted on my shirt at one point – the bit about getting down on all fours – but that’s probably too much information.

    My mumwould often go on about this distinction between ‘new’ and ‘old’ money. She always was very critical about new-money people – ‘all fur and no knickers’ and ‘loud-mouthed arseholes’ were a couple of her more memorable comments!ReplyCancel

  • Nancy Hill (@Nerthus) - I mainly laughed and laughed… until I read the word “illegals.”ReplyCancel

  • Carol Cassara - Hmm. I might like some old money but without the down sides.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - There’s always a ‘down side’ isn’t there? Oy.ReplyCancel

  • Nancy Hill (@Nerthus) - Cheryl, I’m sorry my comment above is so brash. I am just a commie pinko leftist who lives near the Border and who is way too sensitive. But undocumented migrants is an alternative. No human is illegal, we just do illegal things. Hug?ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - I agree with you COMPLETELY. I used the word to advance the rhythm of the piece. I love commie pinko leftists btw. *wink* no problem. I ‘get’ it.ReplyCancel

  • Estelle - I try not to be pejorative with different types of people–everyone is different. This was funny though.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - I ‘try’ too, but sometimes the pejorative just unfolds itself- like a wad of crisp green bills. Thanks Estelle. *wink*ReplyCancel

  • Janie Emaus - I loved this! Especially the line about carrying their dogs in their purses!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - NEW Money. Can’t live with them…. and neither can their dogs. Oy.ReplyCancel

  • Tracy@CrazyAsNormal - I’ll totally be a source for your next go around on this topic if you include what No $ does. 😉ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Hahahahaaa! I’ll take you up on that!ReplyCancel

  • Mari Collier - Since I will never experience either condition, nor have I known either, I’m not competent to comment on the validity of your observations.ReplyCancel

  • Kb Cash - I’ve seen both, personally and in friends, and the observations ring true. Money changes everything.


  • Lisa Carpenter - Ha! I’m with Mari Collier — I’ll never have old OR new money. Well, perhaps NEW will happen (if PCH shows up at my door). I surely won’t have a dog that fits in my purse, though; I’ll stick with my pitbull.ReplyCancel

  • Angela Hall Weight - This is so funny. And so true. (Not that I’d know firsthand about either money option.) But the old money people I do know, are very much like your descriptions, especially the falling down houses.ReplyCancel

  • Sue - Hysterical, fall on the floor laughter. You could write a book. I have an older convertible in good condition tucked in the garage for sunny days, but it has a flat does that count @Dyanne ? Grandma must of thought she was old money because she gave to the church, but not us.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Oh yes, that’s another thing about Old $- they truly believe they can buy their way into heaven. -head shaking-ReplyCancel

  • Starr Bryson - I’m laughing entirely too hard to come up with a witty comment. Spot on.

    I have neither old or new money – but I rather enjoy the comical look at both camps.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - No matter which side of the street one lives in there is ‘irony’ to be found. I should open a bank account nicknamed ‘IRONY’. I’d be even richer! HA!ReplyCancel

  • Teresa Lee - What a joy to spend time with you:)….LMAO!!!..The Master Jedi of Etiquette and everything else Society!..Thanks for the tips!..Love you!..God Bless you lady!..PS…and do we need to learn to Curtsy when we have Tea with the Queen?:)…ReplyCancel

  • 2/28 - 3/6 Did You Read This? | The Insomniacs Dream - […] And last but not least, Cheryl’s hilarious comparison of old money vs new money. […]ReplyCancel

  • Rasma - I’d rather have neither old nor new. Too much to tie me down. Live free, breathe free and enjoy life to the fullest. As they say for puppets like Pinocchio – there are no strings on me.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - I love Revolutionary New Hampshire’s General John Stark’s famous toast, whereby he ended the salutation by stating, “LIve Free or Die”. Words to live by I think.ReplyCancel

It is with tear-stained cheeks that I must announce that I will NOT be able to attend this year’s BlogHer14 in San Jose.   However, because I KNOW how excited all of you are that can attend, I thought I would re-post my re-cap from last year’s BlogHer13 in Chicago- ’cause ya never know what […]

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  • Cathy - You are endlessly funny and I thank you for adding me into your crazy, fun and wonderful mix of friends. Great to meet you IRL!

    P.S. The pic of me is yucky, but I love the expression! I have a better one of you……ReplyCancel

  • Sarah Rudell Beach - So funny! Love the hat… and great advice about not just hanging out with your niche. I was amazed at all the cool things women are writing about. So glad I met you!ReplyCancel

  • Sue - Get a lift before I come, try to be quiet and listen, wear a red hat, and take plenty of pills…Got It. Wonderful photos and I really enjoyed this post.ReplyCancel

  • Grown and Flown - Wonderful recap – would have loved to spend a moment with you and the fab hat!ReplyCancel

    • A Pleasant House - I know- but I think I waved to you a few times. I’ll take whatever piece of you I can get! Hope to actually TALK next time!!ReplyCancel

  • House Crazy Sarah - cool pics! and thanks for the “the list” I would never know what to do at a function like that – I’m so anti-social.ReplyCancel

  • Ruchira Khanna - oh! such precious pix and loved your summary of the event in chicago!

    Hopefully I can make it next year 🙂ReplyCancel

  • Julie DeNeen - It was so much fun to meet you!!!! Thanks for the shout out! oxReplyCancel

  • The Shitastrophy - Ok now I gotta know – who was the chick with the girls in motion? Which speaker – cause I didn’t do the Lean In one since I was busy leaning into my pillow still. Or was it Guy? hmmm and the bitch….um I am hoping that wasn’t me. I took my zoloft everyday for what it counts. Awesome meeting ya!ReplyCancel

    • A Pleasant House - The only girl in motion that I remember was me when I wasn’t knee deep in a glass of wine. As for the BITCH- it wasn’t you. I like your inner bitch! xxxoooReplyCancel

  • Sandy - Hey funny lady. What a delight to meet you in person. Especially the hat. Love your list. Will I remember it next year?ReplyCancel

  • Kim - I’m not sure who I’m most envious of — you for going to BlogHer or all the gals who had the honor to don the orange hat! Maybe next year for me. Thanks for sharing!ReplyCancel

  • The Bearded Iris - You are a wise woman, indeed! And funny too. My favorite line: “No one wants to see your girls getting off the escalator before your shoes.” PREACH! BlogHer – a place where the women are women and the boobs are scared.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Right? For God’s sake foundation garments are a must!!ReplyCancel

  • A Pleasant House - Your pretty sassy yourself- no me- no you- no me- no you- okay both of us- actually it’s the boobs that crack me up. Not mine- yours- mine- yours…..Hahahaaaaa Thanks for stopping by.ReplyCancel

  • HouseTalkN Rossow - The bra comment had me roaring! Good to know! I loved meeting you! Thanks for linking up!ReplyCancel

  • Susan Williams - Nice hat.
    Funny post.ReplyCancel

  • William Kendall - Looks like you had a lot of fun!ReplyCancel

  • Andrea B. - I am quite sure you would be the kind of woman I’d like to meet at a blogging conference. You’ve got me giggling and I’m so tired, it could be that, but I think it’s the list. 🙂 Thanks for sharing. Lists sometimes rock the blogosphere, don’t they?ReplyCancel

    • A Pleasant House - I Hate Lists! But sometimes ya gotta do…. (I’d love to meet you but we’ll be friends anyways). xxxooReplyCancel

  • Lance - I’m so sorry I won’t be meeting you there but thank you for enabling me to be one of the 4 dudes, there, this year.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - 4 dudes. What a shame…..But I’m pretty sure you’ll have a good time, but remember- the ladies can get a bit crazy. Have your vaccinations up to date.ReplyCancel

  • Roshni - You rocked the orange hat!!! I’m sad that I won’t be able to attend!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - We’ll have to have our own linky party! To Those That BogHer Left Behind!ReplyCancel

  • Connie McLeod - Great list. Like you, I’m very sad that I will not be attending this year. ReplyCancel

  • Rena McDaniel - Great post it is nerve racking and I’m not going until 2015!ReplyCancel

  • Aussa Lorens - Bummed you won’t be there :-/ But this is a great list! And I recognized several faces in your photos! ReplyCancel

  • Princess Rosebud - So sorry! I was looking forward to meeting you!!!ReplyCancel

  • Lynda@fitnessmomwinecountry - I wish I had known about the BlogHer in time for this year as San Jose is just about an hour and half south of me. I enjoyed the recap and tips however from your last one Cheryl and the hat … well the hat is its own celebrity 🙂ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - It’s so funny. My sister bought me The Hat years ago so that she could find me in a crowd. My daughter took a photo of me in The Hat which I used as my gravatar and chose to inform my blog colors. I decided to take it with me to BlogHer, just in case, someone might recognize it. Low and behold- it’s become my signature!ReplyCancel

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