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“One thing was certain, that the white kitten had had nothing to do with it:..”This is the opening line in the famous children’s book Through The Looking Glass (more commonly known as Alice In Wonderland) by Lewis Carroll.I just loved Alice when I was a kid. She was so spunky. Oh, what I wouldn’t have done to take a trip […]

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  • Anonymous - Love today’s whimsical post!
    Carol
    http://www.Carolcassara.comReplyCancel

  • A Pleasant House - Thanks Carol! I feel like I’m rambling a bit- either that, or it’s the menoblur. Eeee!ReplyCancel

  • afterthekidsleave.com - LOL…I know exactly what feeling you mean. For me, my mirror image more or less matches my internal image of myself. It’s when I see photos that I wonder who on earth that grim-looking old broad is! πŸ™‚ReplyCancel

    • A Pleasant House - What’s worse is looking at photo’s from ‘before’ and wondering where that went? I still feel 30!ReplyCancel

  • Travels with Tam - Rambling is good. Sort of like free association therapy.ReplyCancel

    • A Pleasant House - Yes, but my poor readers!ReplyCancel

    • bethteliho - I agree with your earlier commenter – my mirror image (usually) speaks true to how I feel, it’s when I see photos of myself that I get all judgy and freaked out!

      BTW – The picture of Dorian Grey is one of my favorite novels.ReplyCancel

    • A Pleasant House - I know. What a novel! Remember the movie? Holy Shit!ReplyCancel

  • littlemisswordy - What a fun post!ReplyCancel

  • Cathy - I guess I don’t have a good sense of humor when it comes to you. Because I think you are beautiful and don’t ever need to make a pact with anyone! Loved this post….ReplyCancel

    • A Pleasant House - Even though we have only met once, we did experience a connection didn’t we? I think you’re beautiful just the way you are also. So- let’s make a pact- we stay friends forever and you keep your sense of humor. At least about me.ReplyCancel

  • Bryan Jones - I enjoyed this quaint, capricious post – shifting between darkness and cherished childhood memories. You have a distinctive style that draws me in.ReplyCancel

  • Manal The Go Go Girl - Nothing good ever comes out from making a deal with the devil. From the pictures I see and your posts, I can tell that you’re a beautiful woman inside and out. You could brighten a full room when you walk in especially if you always have these orange and yellow colors on. Great post! Cheers!ReplyCancel

  • Tarana Khan - I still love to pick up Through The Looking Glass, but I must get my hands on the others book! I’ve had moments where I catch a glimpse of myself in the mirror, but I’m afraid to look. Oh, how I’ve neglected myself since becoming a mom. Or maybe I’m just lazy!ReplyCancel

  • William Kendall - Very funny!

    Have you seen the more recent version of Dorian Gray?ReplyCancel

When I was a little girl, I felt as though everyone loved me. I never questioned it. I didn’t have a ‘word’ for what I felt at the time, but now I remember feeling very open, and confident, and happy to be surrounded by all of the people that interacted with me in a wonderful way. […]

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  • Bryan Jones - A really interesting post. It left me with a few thoughts to take away:
    1. Bullying, harassment and exploitation can take many forms;
    2. Girls can be extraordinarily mean with each other (I’ve seen many examples in relation to my daughter, who is now 19);
    3. You’re an excellent writer;
    4. I must remember to never mess with you – you clearly can handle yourself!

    A really interesting read.ReplyCancel

    • A Pleasant House - I believe you’ve hit on a few of the pertinent ‘take-aways’. There are others, and I hope this post begins a more truthful conversation among some of my brethren. Bryan, you are one of my favorite readers. I always learn something from your comments. Thank you for participating.ReplyCancel

  • Travels with Tam - Hmmm. I’m pondering.
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  • geekbabe - I think it is our job to look out for our own interests, physically, emotionally, fiscally. Only you can decide if accepting a writing gig will be beneficial to your bottom line in enough ways to make doing the work worthwhile. If you’ve published with the site in question before did you receive a significant boost in readership? If you did then perhaps a second post might be worthwhile, if you didn’t then a simple “thank you for asking but I can’t fit this into my editorial calendar” will suffice. The idea that business women are supposed to share the wealth in ways that business men do not or risk being called “bullies” seems unfair imho.ReplyCancel

    • A Pleasant House - I totally agree that ‘business’ women SHOULD operate using the same business model as anyone else. What I’m speaking to here is the disingenuous nature of using ‘we support you’ as a ploy to gather uncompensated material. I appreciate your comment as it hopefully has allowed me to clarify my direction in this post. Thank you.ReplyCancel

  • Teri - Awesome And I Totally Agree……..!ReplyCancel

  • Natalie DeYoung - I love that you don’t take shit from anyone. I’m just now getting to the place where I’m tired of being taken advantage of – no more free work from me, internet! Or at least, mostly… πŸ˜‰ReplyCancel

  • Doreen McGettigan - Hmmm I am pondering as well. I find it hard to say no sometimes to providing free content but one of my goals for 2014 is to write full time so it is time to be compensated.
    As far as bullying, I’ve only come across ones in my writing world.ReplyCancel

    • A Pleasant House - There is all kinds of advantage-taking institutions and people in the world. As women continue to become a true force to be reckoned with, and are recognized, in very important ways in American society, we must be cognizant that unethical behavior is not just male-centric.
      One a lighter note: All the best, and wishing you tremendous success with your goals! Thank you for stopping by Doreen.ReplyCancel

  • The Shitastrophy - Well, I am a contributor to two sites that do not pay and one site that does. And I am ok with that. The one site is new, run by one of my favorite ladies, and gives me an outlet for my political/news addiction (LeftyPop). The other is WTFlicka. I chose to o WTF bc it had a larger reach and I wanted to dip my foot in that pool of readers. Not sure it will be a longterm affair. I also get paid in Google currency, which in SEO world is like gold. So I guess I am saying – sometimes the payment is not in cash but it is still important. Does that make sense?

    I also know damn well to keep you in my rolodex – the locker just solidifies that.ReplyCancel

    • A Pleasant House - All excellent online publishers, and yes, sometimes the payment isn’t in cash, but no matter the compensation, it should be followed through with integrity. Your’e in my ‘speed dail’, as well. πŸ˜‰ReplyCancel

  • House Crazy Sarah - How touching Cheryl – I never had a grandparent like that. Then again, I was never a confident loved little girl πŸ™ So your grampa was a god-send!
    I say fuck the bullies and do your thing. When bloggers become all big and corporatized like that and won’t adequately compensate you for your work – they are just greedy assholes.ReplyCancel

  • Kathy @ SMART Living 365.com - Interesting read. Your blog title caught my eye and drew me in but I’m not sure I agree that what you are calling bullying. I’ve been a writer and a published author for a long time now and I’ve been paid and I’ve been not paid many times over. While receiving income from you work can sometimes be a necessary requirement, the joy and freedom to write my blog without concern of compensation is one of the great joys I experience in my life. Ultimately I think it all depends on what your intentions are about whether you see exposure of your work as a benefit–or if you see it as being taken advantage of. But I think at our age, we really do have a choice. And if it’s a choice…I don’t consider that to be bullying.ReplyCancel

    • A Pleasant House - There are many women attempting to reinvent themselves that are just getting used to being ‘powerful’ in all if it’s forms. Many of these women, even though they may have choices in front of them, are not used to saying ‘No’, or do not have the experience to be able to recognize it when they are being taken advantage of. Those of us that do, I feel, have an obligation to advocate for them. I appreciate your chiming in here. Your comments are always so welcome. Thanks KathyReplyCancel

  • Beverly Diehl - Whether it’s sex, your lunch money, or writing articles for free, women should always feel free to say NO. With a smile, or just closing that bitch in the locker and slamming it shut.ReplyCancel

  • Donna - I loved this!! I think I actually heard the Braveheart music playing in the background! Thank you…remember it is a commandment to be courageous…just sayingReplyCancel

    • A Pleasant House - So funny! (and a little scary?). HA! I like the Commandments- excellent rules to live by. Hey- you just gave me an idea for a post! Thanks for stopping by and taking the time out of your day to leave a comment. I truly appreciate it Donna.ReplyCancel

  • Roshni - Very interesting points! I have written for sites for free in order to grow my readership but have refused for sites that say that they, unfortunately, cannot publish a link to my blog (WTH?!!). I’m pretty content with my readership and I don’t think I would ever write for free (as in not get compensated in one form or the other!)ReplyCancel

  • Sonya Mann - Interesting. I think the compensation-for-content thing is really important, but it does vary from situation to situation. I can envision scenarios where it would be worth it to me to write a free guest post, and other scenarios where I would be insulted by the request.ReplyCancel

    • A Pleasant House - I totally agree. But I’m not just talking money. I’m saying there are other ways to compensate and they are not being followed- thru on. Nice to see a new commentator. Thank you for stopping by. I appreciate it.ReplyCancel

    • Sonya Mann - Oh, okay. I misunderstood slightly. With that clarification, I totally agree with you!ReplyCancel

    • A Pleasant House - You write a post. You hope you’re clear. Usually there is something that you could have explained better. Oh- the life of a writer. Thanks Sonya for giving me the opportunity to clarify.ReplyCancel

  • Terrye Toombs - That is one of the very reasons I got so disgusted with blogging. It was making writing no longer an enjoyable experience.ReplyCancel

    • A Pleasant House - Terrye!!!! So happy to see you! It certainly can make it unenjoyable- not the writing (for me) but the way I have seen some women discarded- or not asked to participate because of a point-of-view that is in actuality NOT aligned with an online magazine that touts ‘all are welcome’. What have you been up too girlfriend?ReplyCancel

  • enchantedseashells - I agree with everything you say and admire your honesty and courage.ReplyCancel

  • bookworm - I haven’t tried (yet) to write content for other sites. But I know a blogger/children’s book author who has told me time and again that people seem to expect her and fellow creatives to “work for free”. As for the bullying, someone I used to work with has a daughter;one of her daughter’s friends committed suicide at the age of 12 due to bullying. I have tweeted your blog post. I enjoyed it more than any of your other posts that I’ve read.ReplyCancel

    • A Pleasant House - Oh, my goodness Dear Bookworm. Of all the comments that I have receive, thus far, yours speaks to me. Bullies come in all shapes and forms, and have all sorts of foundation garments. Will it never end?ReplyCancel

  • Mari Collier - It was my youngest brother that was bullied at our one room country schoolhouse. I learned judo and wrestling (from my father’s books) and beat the, uh, whey out of them. As for blogging, I do it, but not like some of the writers. I don’t have time and as you said, it doesn’t pay.ReplyCancel

    • A Pleasant House - Mari- what I enjoy about you the most- is that you write about a time of life that is so dear- and so far off (though not in calendar years). The time when seemingly ‘little’ things mattered-when just a warm bed and food, fought off the land, was a reason to celebrate. Your memories are a celebration for me. Of course you don’t have the time. You know what’s important.ReplyCancel

  • Barbara Coleman - It’s about time someone had the courage to say the emperor was naked! I find myself retreating because if that…thinking or feeling it’s personal. Glad to hear I’m not alone in those thoughts. Great post!ReplyCancel

    • A Pleasant House - Barbara you are not alone, unheard. So many need an advocate, to be better appreciated. We need to support each other like we are kin. It had better start at personal. That is what I expect from the ‘better sex’. No matter that we are but on of two choices.ReplyCancel

  • Heather Lian - I’m just starting out, so no one is interested in asking me to write for them yet, but I think that for everything there is a season. I see how writing for free could have it’s advantages, but I also see just how easy it would be for some to be taken advantage of. Luckily, I share your ‘take no shit’ attitude, so I’m not easily bullied – in life or the blogosphere. Empowering post!ReplyCancel

  • CARDENAS NAIDA - My name is Mr Cardenas,my wife was having affair with a senior secretary in her office. I love this woman so much that i would not want to share her with any body. i told her to retire from the job and i would take care of all her needs but she would take it because she is been embraced by everybody in her office, this normally leads to quarrel every-time. i tried all i can to please her and she will promise to be good , some days later she will turn back to her normal way.
    i was nearly loosing out, i could not focus in my job, my whole life was full of sorrow and i was thinking i should kill the other man my self and put an end to all this until i saw a testimony from a blog on how DR EDIONWE could cast a love spell to bring lovers back no matter what is behind the disappointment. so i decided to write him via email. edionwesolutiontemple@yahoo.com and now all my wishes are exactly as i wanted. She told me everything that has happened secretly in the past and i forgave her as DR EDIONWE instructed me to and she loves me and care for me as i ever wanted. i know there are many spells that do not work but i want to assure all you out there no matter what you have been trough to have faith and believe that this is the final solution to your problem.
    Even if my job is taking most of my time, the little free time i have , i will share the good news to everyone in the world because i know that with love brings happiness and hope for a long life.ReplyCancel

  • A Pleasant House - you lost me at, ” …but she has been embraced by everybody in her office…” She must be very tired.ReplyCancel

  • pia - Love love love this post.
    I would add–deciding what constitutes a great post and how it should be formatted. Because sometimes I do write for fun–it’s my passion and I’ve always been told I’m good and had a blogging audience almost from the first day.
    But I feel “bullied” by “what makes a great post” and maybe I’m slow but don’t understand why story telling in its pure form isn’t considered good form anymoreReplyCancel

    • A Pleasant House - I forgot that one. It’s all the SEO and KEYWORD and embedded CODE that drives so much these days. It’s actually hard to find a pure ‘story’ these days. I appreciate you bringing this up. Thanks Pia.ReplyCancel

  • Anonymous - Everyone should have at least one person who loves them this much.
    will comment back – http://www.oldfashionmom.comReplyCancel

    • A Pleasant House - I can’t think of any way to respond cleverly, to such a succinct and beautiful comment, so I’ll just say, “Yes”.ReplyCancel

  • Angel The Alien - Your grandfather sounds awesome! I don’t have any experience with the thing you are talking about with posting on other sites, because I haven’t posted on any other sites. But I definitely have experience being bullied as a kid, and I believe it still happens in multiple forms as adults!ReplyCancel

    • A Pleasant House - Yes it does. And for those that have a hard time being able to smell a skunk, or for those to whom saying ‘No’ is difficult, I feel some of us should stand up for them.
      Thanks for stopping by Angel.ReplyCancel

  • William Kendall - Wonderful post, Cheryl.

    We all have a point with some people, where enough’s enough.

    I do some free content for a website, but it’s not really a drain of time at all.ReplyCancel

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