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      Husbands. Remember when all it took to get your way was a come-hither look?   Well, it turns out they actually have their own agendas.   Why didn’t someone tell me? I believed all those Clairol commercials….   Fast forward 33 years and you actually have to know something about how marriage survives […]

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  • Mari Collier - That works for you. Mine was a tad different, but you’ll have to read my blogs for that. Why would a smart lady like you believe a commercial. LOL Not buying that one.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - When I was kid, Marie, when I was a KID I believed every commercial on TV! And in magazines! Aahhhhhh youth.ReplyCancel

  • Lisa at Grandma's Briefs - So very true on so many. THIS is the one I love best (and hits it on the head on my 33-year marriage): “Agree with him and then do what you want. He’s not really paying attention.”

    He’s more of a clean freak then I am, though, so that’s no problem. The cooking? Sheesh! I believe I’d have a heart attack if he actually cooked something. Still working on that one all these decades later.

    Great post, as always. 😀ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Thanks Lisa. Is the attention span thing ‘men’ or just OUR men? I’m thinking the chromosomes. My son, who was raised by me, is the same way as his father. God Bless his fiancée.ReplyCancel

  • Carol Cassara - Devious, girl. YOu are devious. and amusing. But maybe not to him. No, not to him.ReplyCancel

  • Rebecca Forstadt Olkowski - OMG! All so true. I just live with a guy but it’s still the same. I have to remember not to mention “We have to talk” or he will lock himself immediately in his office. Luckily, I have my own bathroom so I don’t have to worry about the toilet paper. His bathroom is a toxic waste dump. Love this.ReplyCancel

  • Helene Cohen Bludman - Haha! My husband is OCD and God forbid I leave something out and not put away. He swoops in to remedy that.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - We’d live very well together. HahahaaaReplyCancel

  • Cathy Steffanci Sikorski - Oh these are so wonderful. I guess since I’m only married 30 years, I didn’t get this far. And by the way, I’m going to dump the junk drawer just so he’s so freakin’ busy all day he stays out of my hair. Retirement, ugh! Nobody asked me if he could retire!ReplyCancel

  • Doreen McGettigan - I am so grateful that I have been blessed with a husband that does not need any of these BUT I have a few son-in-laws that might benefit. Definitely sharing with my daughters.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - It’s best to start right right at the beginning. That way your daughters will have plenty of time to add their own ‘hacks’ to the list. HahahaaaReplyCancel

  • Tam Warner Minton - Funny. But I have to admit…I’m glad it does not apply to my husband, or we’d be divorced for sure.ReplyCancel

  • Mary La Fornara Gutierrez - Oh how this made me laugh! I love the “wins”.ReplyCancel

  • Rena McDaniel - I have used quite a few of these tricks especially telling them things during football. I save the worst for home team games. It always works. That and getting out of a horrible party flirt with him for 10 seconds and you’ll be out of there in minutes works every. single. time.! Hilarious Cheryl as usual!ReplyCancel

  • Julie Sullivan Frueh - Absolutely outstanding. Genius. We just hit 25 years so I bow to your wisdom.ReplyCancel

  • 11 Foolproof Husband Hacks | What The Flicka? - […] post was originally featured on Chery’s blog, A Pleasant House. Photo […]ReplyCancel

Spring was in the air. The future seemed limitless. Anything was possible– we were in Love… LoveLoveLove.   Aahhhh Youth.   At the beginning it’s all heat and being bullet proof – together.   Then comes children and it’s about stamina and making time.   Then, it’s about hoping your kids don’t screw-up too badly […]

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  • Tam Warner Minton - Ha! We put everything we have into our families…then poof! It’s over, and all you hear about are the mistakes you made. Ugh.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - I once told my kids that if they needed therapy not to tell me about it. There is NOTHING i can do to change the past. Suck it up. HahaaaReplyCancel

  • Kimba - I’ve actually taken up fishing. And the Hubs even goes to a few estate sales with me. Yeah, it’s weird.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - So weird. I hardly recognize myself anymore. In what universe would we have EVER fished? I guess it’s the JOURNEY even if it takes you down back roads. HA!ReplyCancel

  • David Stillwell - God. I see I am not the only one who misses a rock hard pensis with plenty of girth and ample lengh… backed by the gumption that you are going to take this like a man.ReplyCancel

  • Ellen Dolgen - I love the way to write….you are hilarious and always so accurate!ReplyCancel

  • Eve Gaal - Ha! My husband snored when I met him and I love every minute! 23 years later, I wish he’d snore more but now he is an insomniac walking around and reading books in the middle of the night!ReplyCancel

  • Leanne@crestingthehill - that’s a lovely photo of you fishing in your waders 😉 besides that, congrats on producing children that make decisions without running home to mum (altho’ a little bit of advice giving would be nice!) and my husband snores too (and it’s not romantic!) ~ LeanneReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Yes- that will be me. Naked in the river. As for the kid’s- they’re fabulous and are fully aware of their father’s night time ritual. They won’t even sleep in the room next to us! Hahahaahaaaaaaa Life. Full of surprises……ReplyCancel

  • Roshni AaMom - So much to look forward to! This is why I read your posts!! 😀ReplyCancel

  • Carol Cassara - Lordy, lordy, girl, I hear you. Loud and clear! Sooo loud! LOLReplyCancel

  • Dorothy Salvatori - Oh Yeah!ReplyCancel

  • Rena McDaniel - Can you speak up a little I can’t hear you for the snoring going on beside me! Yeah, I definitely get it!ReplyCancel

  • Renee - I have an 11 year old with medical and learning challenges, a 17 year old choosing colleges based on vacation style reasoning (weather, beach access, cut guys, parties and fun) and a 21 year-old with an Ivy league college education that is graduating in May 2016 with no clue on job or further education plans but know her boyfriends job offer in engineering with major money and exciting future is cool except for the NJ location that she thought would be California with option to move in and join the fun ride). So the husband is committed to a bead/mustache in 3 colors of grey, black, brown (I did not sign up for the college professor look) and is into working a lot, whisky and addicted to video games and his phone (not me). And James Franco pug is the best behaved kid a at teen (age 2). Oh and my mom is 92 and a half with aides who help her and call to complain about her like who is paying who to bring comfort and service to someone with memory and health issues? Oy big time life so I would love to have the fishing trips and chill time but yes snoring zzz husband my life too with a lot of WTF moments from family. Hey it’s all about work in progress and letting go of expectations or attachments to stuff or thinking that is unrealistic or crazy.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Renee- you are my hero. Plates get full at our age. I just wish I didn’t have to do the dishes. I’d rather eat out. ps: I LOVE your blog.ReplyCancel

  • Abby - Hi Cheryl,
    I want to sip Champagne with a carriage boy too and at caviar from the Red Sea. I mean we’re THAT old? I’m sure our husbands wouldn’t notice:) You nailed it as usual!
    xx AbbyReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - They probably wouldn’t notice- until they needed something, like ‘We’re out of chips again, Cheryl!’ Oiy vey.ReplyCancel

  • Tammy - There’s a carriage boy? Damn. I missed that part. Caviar too? Cleary I got short changed. It was a tough transition for me, I won’t lie. There were tears and lots of confused anxiety. Once I got the swing of the empty nest, I never looked back. I love seeing my kidlet and her amazing husband. Visits are never often enough and always too short. But…here’s the good part…life turned out to be pretty damn awesome. Still…wouldn’t have minded a carriage boy…just saying!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Yes. A woman needs her ‘boys’. Carriage- or otherwise. I keep mine on retainer- and they style my hair. You’ve gotta take it where you can find it!ReplyCancel

  • Chloe Jeffreys - I’ve heard of pool boys but not carriage boys. I’ll start keeping my eye out.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Oh yes- and produce boys, and inventory stock boys, and the boy that delivers the paper. They’re all around. I flirt with all of them. It’s a gift- though probably not for them. Ha!ReplyCancel

  • Gary Sidley - I love your style of writing. And as a 56-year-old man, partnered by my wife for 34 years, and having fathered two children now aged 21 & 24, I can identify with your lament. However, in our case our interests are becoming more similar e.g. 10 years ago, she even developed a love for football (a sport she used to loathe).ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - She’s pulling your leg. No woman actually likes football. *wink*ReplyCancel

    When we’re young we have no fewer questions then when do we eat and what’s happening down there?   This morphs into who do we let touch it and why won’t they leave me alone?   Eventually, we start to question the wisdom behind jumping off a cliff.   The primordial urge to […]

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  • Abby - Some serious stuff here again! Loved it! But hey Cheryl, what would you do if you had Trump’s hair? I mean there are only that many choices for people with half-head-hair!ReplyCancel

  • Carol Cassara - I’m dyin’ here! LOL Not literally, of course. Well, you know, everytime I see “life ends” I always want to say, “No! It doesn’t!” But I can wish for the end to the wait for the last season of Downton.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Why do they do this? Make us ‘wait’ an entire year? Couldn’t they have just filmed it all, at once, and released it into my television??? For my personal pleasure? I would have shared it, of course, but charged admission. I’m a ‘giver’.ReplyCancel

  • Sharon Greenthal - …What will I watch when I’m done bingeing on “Game of Thrones?” That’s serious stuff.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - I have to start all over again with Game Of Thrones. Last year it interfered with something else and now I’m lost. Story of my Life.ReplyCancel

  • 1010ParkPlace - “Game of Thrones”… What do I watch now that MadMen’s over? Great post, Cheryl. BrendaReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Hey Brenda! I loved Mad Men too. I’m currently hooked to Scandal, House Of Cards, VEEP, Call The Midwife, The Last Ship, Grace & Frankie… So much good television. So little time.ReplyCancel

  • Toni McCloe - We’ll they may not be the top questions on my list but I do wonder sometimes why I have to wait so long to watch Downtown Abbey and how long it will be before I get to watch Donald Trump again with my mouth wide open. I read The Notebook for the first time this year and I loved it. Why did I wait so long?ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Loved the book, and even though I usually think the movie version sucks I think they hit it out of the ballpark with this one. I heard McAdams & Gosling didn’t like each other. I wouldn’t have guessed that. The chemistry was electric. I want some of that chemistry…. *wink*ReplyCancel

  • Judy Krell Freedman - I’d run to “The Notebook” too!ReplyCancel

  • Kathy Gottberg - hahahaha! How did you know that I ask myself some of those very same questions? Especially the one about Thom’s shoes! Thanks for helping me laugh about them…. KathyReplyCancel

  • Haralee Weintraub - Funny questions and some to ponder. Yes to #7, it has to be or a small well trained animal?ReplyCancel

  • William Kendall - The Donald lives in an alternate fantasy world in his mind where he truly believes he’ll be the greatest president in the history of forever and that no one notices his hair issues.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - He certainly is confident. ANd so is the small woodland creature on his head. Hahahaaaa.ReplyCancel

  • Joan Harrington - LOL now that was a very well written and funny post Cheryl!! Really enjoyed reading it 🙂 Yes, the Notebook is one of my favorites as well!!ReplyCancel

  • Cathy Chester - I want to put a computer chip inside your brain to learn more about your thought processes, my dear. As to #7. Whatever is growing up there it fits The Donald’s personality to a tee. Unmanageable, unreasonable and ill-mannered,ReplyCancel

  • Mari Collier - LOL Calm down. Those questions really don’t have an answer. Just go with the flow. Oh, Lanny once told me never to put his boots or anything else away. I said, “You got it, Cowboy.” He was the neat freak. Years later he admitted it was one of the dumbest things he ever said.ReplyCancel

  • Ruth Curran - Seriously funny questions Cheryl! Comb over / stray squirrel / spun dryer lint…. One in the same. You crack me up. Every. Single. Time!ReplyCancel

  • Leanne@crestingthehill - I love how our questions escalate with age – I’m already wondering what I’ll leave behind. Why am I wasting my time wondering that when I could be wondering whether another piece of chocolate would make me happy? I do love your posts 🙂ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - One must prioritize the wondering. I think having an additional piece of chocolate would be right up there, because, really, why not. Unless they can bury me with a box and a few pieces hanging out of my mouth? Hahaaa Thanks for the support! I love seeing you here!ReplyCancel

  • Rena McDianiel - So many questions so little time. I bet he uses a Dyson on his head every morning.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Can you imagine? It’s a good thing He’s omnipotent! And has unlimited electric.ReplyCancel

I’m not the kind of gal that wallows in Debby Downer sweatpants with unwashed hair, while searching on cable for the secret pleasure of a Golden Girls rerun… … only rolling her ass off the couch long enough to add more ice to her drink and hi-5 the cat, while moving past his empty bowl, […]

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  • William Kendall - Obviously the Girl Scouts have branched away from cookies!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Not your mother’s scouts anymore.ReplyCancel

  • Linda Roy - Yup. I’ve still got the Girl Scout in me too. I don’t have a thin mint skin, I’m Do-Se-Do-ing my way through life with a Savannah Smile on my face, having a Toffee-tastic time. No more samoas-samoas, making lemonades outta lemons. Wanna Taga-along? 😉ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Now, how do I reply to that? Ding-A-Ling.ReplyCancel

  • Connie McLeod - I was my daughter’s GS leader. In middle school I took them to NYC and taught them how to buy designer rip-off purses and how to hail a cab. Important stuff.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - All very important stuff. I knew I liked you.ReplyCancel

  • K. Lee Banks - That’s quite the entertaining list! Thanks for sharing your sense of humor.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - I wonder if the GS have a badge for smartass?ReplyCancel

  • Joan Harrington - Hi Cheryl.

    Really enjoyed your post today thank you! I suppose there is a girl scout in all of us 😉ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Truth: I just liked the uniforms.ReplyCancel

  • Cathy Chester - Which Girl Scout are you?Seems to me you are their jeweled crown: thin mints. Yup. Delish, unbeatable and to-die-for. Are they funny like you too?ReplyCancel

  • Abby - Sorry for being slow (I’m low on hormones again so my brain doesn’t work as fast) but I didn’t get the Montreal part?ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Nothing to ‘get’- just that she’s from France, was in school in Montreal, decided to see NOLA, stayed with our foster son ( on advise of a mutual friend), and then they took off together. True love don’t ya think?ReplyCancel

      • Abby - Now I “get” it:) See, menopause isn’t funny at all, since I thought there was a deeper meaning to that, like a double story, whatever. I think I need a double Martini to wake up my brain:) xx AbbyReplyCancel

        • Cheryl - I brush my teeth in gin- saves time.ReplyCancel

  • Carolann - Good post! When my daughter was little I was a troop leader too and it was a blast. Times I will never forget for sure.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - I was NEVER troop leader. My daughter didn’t even want me to know she was IN GS! HahahaaaaReplyCancel

  • Mari Collier - I was never a Girl Scout. I was in the 4 H Club though. That is why I had to make that apron for a County Fair. Considering all Mama had has a Singer Treadle, third prize wasn’t bad against all the farm women that sewed and sewed. So no cookie sales for me.ReplyCancel

  • Lois Alter Mark - I know it’s shocking but I was a leader for my daughter’s Girl Scout troop. We did things totally our own way so I guess it shouldn’t have come as a surprise when I asked the girls to repeat the Girl Scout motto and they said, “Don’t whine.” Sigh …ReplyCancel

  • Carol Cassara - Ok, seriously? Hubby and I had a middle of the night insomnia discussion about girl scout badges. I only wish I could remember the content of the conversation!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Random. Odd. A little spooky with the ‘timing’. Totally normal if you ask me.ReplyCancel

  • Leanne Le Cras - good grief – you deserve the Queen Scout (or Queen Guide as it is in Oz) badge for navigating all that! Time for an iced tea I think 🙂ReplyCancel

  When I was younger I l-o-n-g-e-d to live in Manhattan. How can I get there? Who do I have to kill? Where will I live? Can I have a penthouse, please?   Well, I got there, for a while, and I didn’t like it: too big, too impersonal, too expensive, blahblahblah, and I returned […]

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  • Enchanted Seashells, Confessions of a Tugboat Captain's Wife - I can honestly say I’ve never wanted to live in NY ever since my mom told me there are lots or rats running everywhere. Except for a Chanel sample sale, then I’d visit, but leave immediately. Open space, no buildings, lots of sky, that’s what this SoCal girl needs!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - I agree Princess. It all seems so exciting until you come to value a ‘quality’ of life, and then NYC seems not such a bargain.ReplyCancel

  • Tam Warner Minton - I live in a large city, and I do love big cities, especially in Europe. NYC is fun to visit, but I wouldn’t want to live there,ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - I LOVE cities- big, small. The intensity, the vibrancy.. its’ the suburbs that drive me crazy! HahaaaaReplyCancel

  • Tam Warner Minton - I can relate…I dreamed of New York while growing up in Dayton, Ohio….not fond of the city after I visited.ReplyCancel

  • Lisa at Grandma's Briefs - I’m STILL dreaming of visiting NYC and all the places surrounding it. Actually, any place out east… or west… or overseas. Eventually. I hope.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Well, if you’re ever in New Orleans you know who to look-up!ReplyCancel

  • Rena McDaniel - Me too! I grew up in Kentucky and always dreamed of NY. I went there, but within a couple of days I was ready to head back home. To busy, to many people and the buildings sent my claustrophobia into overdrive. I love going for short visits, but I wouldn’t want to live there (I wouldn’t want to live in KY either, SC will do for now!)ReplyCancel

  • Mary La Fornara Gutierrez - I love to visit, but I also love to go back home to Southern California. I’ll have to check out that restaurant next time I’m there!ReplyCancel

  • Carol Cassara - My mother was born in B’lyn and we visited each summer, in the heat of the summer, walking 5 flights up to my great aunt’s hot, sticky apt with an El train running outside the window. Oh yeah. Brooklyn. It brings back memories!ReplyCancel

  • Mari Collier - You have way toooo much fun! My one brother tried New York City and hated it. He fled to San Francisco. Any place but Iowa. I really don’t care for huge metropolitan areas; except for Phoenix. I will admit the restaurants are far better. It doesn’t matter what large city.ReplyCancel

  • Estelle Sobel Erasmus - I love visiting NYC-of course I live very close to it. I think one’s experience of the city is very different depending who you share it with.ReplyCancel

  • Linda Roy - I lived in Manhattan in my early 20s and there’s no place I’d rather have come of age in. However, I did return to Ohio, just like you, tired of the rat race. I had plans to return to the city, all refreshed, with more money and ready for action. Instead, I formed a rock band and ended up touring the country. Got a little side tracked. Now I am content to live an hour away, going in from time to time to visit friends, sometimes day tripping it and sometimes staying over. I love the place. It’s my happy place. And I’m so stoked we get to hang out there together in a few short weeks!!! Yahoo, that’s going to be fun!

    Brooklyn is amazing. I love it. The winery, the brewery, the whiskey distillery…oh yeah, and the cafes, the shopping, the Brooklyn Flea…all of it. It’s really become a happening place.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - I got ‘side-tracked too. Stayed in Ohio for the next 20 years (no regrets) but jumped at the chance to move to NOLA. Now I just visit the Big Apple and stay in hotels- with people like you!!! Can’t wait!!!ReplyCancel

  • Lynn Hogue Paige - I love Brooklyn too – great to visit – xxooReplyCancel

  • rosie k - http://www.bravotv.com/odd-mom-out/season-1/ep-5-brooklandia

    Cheryl Babe…

    Amazing new funny show on Bravo…Odd Mom Out…not to worry, it’s NOT a reality show but scripted with by a great comic…
    Jill Kargman…
    a recent episode was all on Brooklyn…connection above…hilarious but be warned…she lets it all out…no filters!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - On Bravo? I’ve heard of it! I’ll tune in. And I miss you! XXOOO Next time I’m up North….ReplyCancel

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