Tag Archives: family and friends

  We have been a bit b-u-s-y lately. (Actually, I should say, ‘I’ have been busy. Ben just pretty much shows up to play Master Of The Universe. Sound familiar gals?).   Over the past FOUR weeks we have hosted TEN people, in THREE groups. In. Our. Home… Sleepovers. With meals.     This, factually, […]

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  • Doreen McGettigan - My husband laughs at me because I do try to anticipate every wish and need of my guests before they arrive.
    I love having company especially the grand kid kind:)
    Great tips!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - I wonder if he’d laugh if you just let it all fall apart? I doubt it. I know my Ben has come to expect such treatment. I’ve spoiled him.ReplyCancel

  • Connie McLeod - I’m ready to check into the Cheryl Hotel!!ReplyCancel

  • Diane - Great advice! Working on being as organized as you. I LOVE being the hotel! We don’t have as many visitors as we used to, but still, at times, we’re BUSY!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - I do too! Ya know- organization is like a ‘Lifestyle’ issue. Think of it like committing to eating healthy but don’t forget the wine! OH YEA!ReplyCancel

  • Tam Warner Minton - Organization is not my middle name. I can relate to the hotel as in chaos….but if I didn’t have help, I’d be up a tree.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Hotels (behind the scenes) are either chaotic or run like the USS Franklin. But on the surface they are ‘peace’. I choose peaceful- it just takes prep. ps: I have ‘help’ when I really need it, like over 18 people.ReplyCancel

  • Sheryl - Whew! I’m tired just reading this. But I admire your organization and ability to anticipate every need. If I need a hotel, er, a place to stay, I know who to call!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - That would require a bottle of vino, which I’m sure you could provide…. HA hahahaaa! Thanks Sheryl!ReplyCancel

  • Sharon Hodor Greenthal - This is all good advice and I have to say, I admire your energy and enthusiasm! I love when my kids come to visit – for a day or a weekend – and fortunately, they know where the Kleenex is – but often forget the phone chargers!ReplyCancel

  • Nancy Hill - I am incapable of such organization. And that is okay. We all have our strengths and weaknesses and while I am a marvelous tour guide, I am incapable of getting things done while there are people around.ReplyCancel

  • Gary Sidley - I guess it’s the price you pay, Cheryl Nicholl, for being the hostess with the mostess!ReplyCancel

  • Roshni - Your guests are very very lucky and I am shamelessly going to beg to stay at your place if I ever visit your city!!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - And I will graciously accept your shame. {{{hugs}}}ReplyCancel

  • Alyson Rennick Herzig - It’s official I’m calling you the next hostess event I have.ReplyCancel

  • Gogogirl Ghandour - I love your planning tips. Such a refreshing post!
    I used to stress with all the details before guests (including my children) arrive and during, now I just let it happen and enjoy them. Everything always works out and everyone is happy. Hugs 🙂ReplyCancel

  • Carol Cassara - I get it.That’s how I run it when I have houseguests. Love it!ReplyCancel

  • Ruth Curran - Oh you are a much better woman than I! My mom used to say that fish and company stink after 3 days….Sometimes on day 4 of our visit! You are a wonder :)!ReplyCancel

  • Carollynn Hammersmith - Hmmm, so that’s how you do it… 😉 here’s hoping you got some rest before the next trip. BTW – So great to see you!ReplyCancel

  • Carollynn Hammersmith - Oh, yeah, and publish the Pimms Cup recipe, please.ReplyCancel

  • Mari Collier - I would need those drinks too with that much company. I only had one and she didn’t make it in on the day she planned. Yes, I loved every minute of it. I had to eliminated two of my planned outings. There wasn’t time.ReplyCancel

  • WendysHat - I love these helpful tips and ideas for guests. Anyone would truly feel welcome staying at your house. I agree that planning ahead is key to success.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - and we could garden together! Wouldn’t that be fun!!!ReplyCancel

  • Rena McDaniel - It does sound like you have been very busy and super organized! I had a lot of company over the Easter holiday and now it is time to rest…or go shopping…same thing!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - HA! Yes- retail therapy always works for me!!!ReplyCancel

  • Sue - So happy you had family visiting. I am exhausted just reading about all the prep though. You are so well organized and I will remember the cool tips like chargers in the bedroom. Growing up in a house of 10 people there were always tons of dishes to wash and pots of food to cook and don’t get me started on the piles of laundry me and Mom did.ReplyCancel

        Recently I was asked to participate in an initiative to spread Compassion, which is roundly defined as: A sympathetic response to the concerns of others that motivates a desire to help.     I can think of a hell of a lot of other things that get spread around on a […]

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  • Kathleen O'Donnell - Yes, it does. Been there with both of my parents. It’s a terrible necessity. One must summon all reserves of compassion to carry out an DNR. Bless your heart.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Life is a bumpy road that’s for sure. Thanks for stopping by Kathleen. I appreciate it.ReplyCancel

  • Roshni - The ability to allow the other to choose what’s best for them and to support them is definitely compassionate!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - It’s what’s on my mind recently. It’s what’s in my life recently. Oh boy.ReplyCancel

  • barb barton dlugosz - Hi Cher,
    I know how hard it is,but to respect one’s wishes is showing the compassion that they need and count on, so they don’t have to worry. I understand completely.
    xo barbyReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - We need to talk.ReplyCancel

      • Barb dlugosz - You know I am here for you, Liss and your mom ANYTIME! Just call! Love yaReplyCancel

  • Enchanted Seashells, Confessions of a Tugboat Captain's Wife - As I get older, I have less and less compassion, and more and more cynicism. There are those who truly deserve our compassion and action to right the wrong, and that’s where I’m at. I don’t tolerate anymore those who merely talk the talk, we need to walk it, live it, change it.
    On another note, hope you’re doing great, I’m kind of lost without my old FB page, don’t know what’s going on!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - What a sweet friend you are. I miss you tooo but I’m back. Stop back here on Monday. Then we’ll PM. Love you gal!ReplyCancel

  • Linda Roy - I do think it’s a form of compassion, absolutely. Helping that person go with dignity without prolonging their suffering. Not at all easy. But then, sometimes showing compassion doesn’t always come easy.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - You said a mouthful sista! But then again- you always do. XXOOOReplyCancel

  • Mari Collier - So glad to see you back. I’ve already had that last one with mine. They know what a horrible patient I am.ReplyCancel

  • Piper George - It’s a very difficult decision. I don’t even know if we have DNR in the UK. I focused on a similar theme – the ability to choose for yourself though, rather than having to make family choose for you. It’s a tough place to be. Great post – very thoughtful.ReplyCancel

  • Charlie - You must answer the question, “If this were you, and you wouldn’t get better, would you want to go through death just once, or many times?”

    We can bring people “back” repeatedly, almost indefinitely. The question is, bring them back to what? You cannot, you cannot change the final result. In the end, it is not what you want, but what must be. Don’t make it worse than it already is. It is very difficult to be a human being. You can not decide what happens, but you can help to decide how it happens. The amount of control you can exert is limited. I know, you and your mom are both control freaks, but this is bigger than both of you. I am crying while I write this, but you will both be ok. It is ok to die. We all do.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Just about the best response I can imagine Charles. Thank you. XXOOReplyCancel

  • Liv BySurprise - Those are the conversations you need to have well before you need to know… #1000SpeakReplyCancel

Who among us didn’t LOVE The Sound of Music? (well, those of you my age)      Scrappy young Maria, so innocent, so beautiful.       What a passive aggressive hottie- the perfect postulant- or is she?       Thankfully she’s guided by the wise Mother Abbess (who I suspect had been around the block […]

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  • Molley Mills - Cute! The sound of Music is my little one’s favourite too!
    Thanks for hooking up to the Hump Day Hook UpReplyCancel

  • Cheryl Nicholl - Did you hear the music? Sometimes I crack MYSELF up! My pleasure Molley.ReplyCancel

  • Lucy Ball - Wow. Now you’ve got me making up my own verses! That was genius. Your pictures are absolutely gorgeous. But you know that. Right? 😉ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl Nicholl - It was sorta genius wasn’t it. I’m like that. And PS: I left a piece of my heart in a recent post where you asked for… (I don’t want to finish this sentence here- but you know what I mean).xxxooo and please Pm me any time you need to scream. Eeegads. I’ve said too much.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - *wink*ReplyCancel

  • Kathleen O'Donnell - Cheryl, you are a clever girl! So funny. I hope you and yours are having a fantastic holiday season. How could you not in that fabulous city?ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - You too Kathleen! Happy Holidays!!ReplyCancel

  • Carol Cassara - Clever! don’t hate me but less than 2 weeks ago I was floating down the Danube on a Viking cruise, passing through Austria & watching the Sound of Music in my cabin. Do, a deer!ReplyCancel

  • Mari Collier - Love the ditty. Merry Christmas!ReplyCancel

  • Sue - Ray, a drop of golden sun – that’s you! Loved the new song and Merry ChristmasReplyCancel

The following story is true. WARNING: Do not try this at home. Disclaimer: No animals were hurt in the process, at least not many…   It all began with a 6am flight to the netherlands of NE Ohio, to join the family for Thanksgiving and to assist in my mother’s move from a hospital to […]

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  • Darcy Perdu (So Then Stories) - Omigod, I need a Xanax just READING that story!!! Holy Cow! That was some trip! Glad you survived! Hope the Mexico trip is less eventful and more relaxing!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Xanax!!!! That’s it! You’re brilliant- i need to get some.ReplyCancel

  • Mary - My brain cannot think of any words to say right now! I am dumbfounded. Have a wonderful time in Mexico.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - I am still recovering. My mind is a blurrrrrrrrrr…..ReplyCancel

  • Elin Stebbins Waldal - Oh man, I’m not sure I’d return from vacation if I was in your shoes, I sure as hell wouldn’t be answering my phone late night! Safe travels and cheers to Mexico!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - The phone is off the hook never to be answered again- except if you call.ReplyCancel

  • Tammy - Tough going there, Missy. Sounds like you had a bitch of a time but looked good doing it. It all comes out in the wash, doesn’t it? FABULOUS story telling, my darling. I couldn’t have done it better. Misery makes such good reading!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - HA! If you don’t laugh you’ll kill yourself. Or maybe that’s just me? Siesta baby. Siesta.ReplyCancel

  • Carol Cassara - Holy crap. I mean. Holy crap. I am so sorry…maybe next Tgiving you’ll go to the islands or something…I would!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Holy Crapola! That’s the phrase! Islands sound good to me right now. Join me?ReplyCancel

  • Christine Fury Long - This is just too funny! Happy car racing my dear!!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Zoom Zoom Christina my love. Zoom Zoom.ReplyCancel

  • Suzanne Gray - You are a trooper! Going through all of that and retaining a sense of humor about it is just amazing. Hope that trip to Mexico is calm. You deserve it!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Mexico will be wonderful but eventful I think. A LOT of personalities meeting on the beach for this one. I’m sure I’ll have a post or 2- and a few martinis.ReplyCancel

  • Travels with Tam - Hilarious. Life is a comedy, you know? At least Mexico shouldn’t be such a snafu?ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - From your mouth the God’s ears. I hope he likes to surf.ReplyCancel

  • Amy Skipper - Wow!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Yes. WOW! Wish you had been there Amy. Missed you much! XXXOOOReplyCancel

  • Ruth Curran - I know you that as you say, “you can’t make this shzzz up” but only you can make it hysterical. Here’s to a better margarita in Mexico!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Aren’t you a love! Seriously- if you don’t find the humor you’ll break in two.ReplyCancel

  • Doreen McGettigan - I feel so bad for laughing but you have a way with words. I am so glad you are home safe and really hope your next trip includes at least one good nights sleep.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - I’m answering this in bed as I type. Nighty night!ReplyCancel

  • Princess Rosebud - You have yourself a well deserved vacay in Mexico. Don’t get Montezuma’s Revenge and watch out for hurricanes!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Child’s play after this trip. XXXOOOReplyCancel

  • Lisa Carpenter - Gee whiz!! I think you’d be wise to not leave your home ever again. But then again, you must, for your real-life stories are so incredibly entertaining! I look forward to the next installment of The Crazy Life and Times of Cheryl. Enjoy Mexico!ReplyCancel

  • Mari Collier - Ye Gods, you have makings of a perfect story. Incredible. Why do you even leave home? I pray Mexico is better. Oh wait, that is the country where they run around shooting people or making them disappear. Prayers.ReplyCancel

  • Lois Alter Mark - OMG! I can’t wait to see what happens when you go to Mexico!!ReplyCancel

  • Katie Knapp Hill - Brilliant… I’m laughing but only at the appropriate moments. Where will you be in Mexico? I fly early Friday am…early HS reunion would be fun. Its,a big country, if you are near the Yucatan hit me up.ReplyCancel

  • Sue - I am speechless that ALL of this even happened within just one trip. When does the made for TV movie come out? I wish you the nicest trip to Mexico with many relaxing days.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - One trip. Just ONE TRIP. This stuff just follows me.ReplyCancel

  • William Kendall - That is a disaster of a trip.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Jesus H Christ William. I’m exhausted, and here I go again- though this time it’s to a beach, so there’s that.ReplyCancel

  • Wendy Walker Cushing - This is hilarious! I loved it! I love your voice and how you wrote this. I can TOTALLY agree because this is my life. Strange things like this happen to me all the time, like ALL the time!ReplyCancel

  • Charles E. Burnham - This makes my Thanksgiving sound almost pleasant. I think Uncle Fester might have run a twin-trailered FedEx truck off the road, but I was too afraid to look. Not that I was frightened, but my attorney told me I could avoid testifying if I didn’t see anything.ReplyCancel

  • Roshni - Whew!! Have I told you before that you’re amazing!!ReplyCancel

  • Carolann - omg I was on the edge of my seat reading this! Poor kitty, poor you, poor mom…geez…but you were strong and made it all better! Love your writing skills!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Thanks Carolann! So happy you enjoyed!ReplyCancel

We all have people.  You know, like the people next door, the people we meet, the people we work with, but I think when most of us use the term ‘people’ they are imagining family.     My birth family was pretty small– just my parents, my sister and I, one set of  grandparents in […]

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  • Aussa Lorens - How fascinating! I love the person who killed someone with her teeth– and the premature full sized babies.

    Sad for the unvisited psych ward gal though… we have had a lot of people like that as well.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - And this facility has a graveyard with a bunch of unmarked graves (sound familiar) however, this Aunt of mine was buried in the family plot off site- thank God. So sad.ReplyCancel

  • Cary Vaughn - I think mine on my father’s side were just a bunch of Southern slave drivers (my middle name – Sherman – was passed down from my father who got it from his father and so on). And My grandmother informs me that I am of South African decent and that James Michener wrote about our family in one of his novels or something (she told me when I was very young so do not remember the name). My great grandfather also founded the very first Church of Christ in Mississppi (again, this from what I learn from my grandmother). I guess I need to brush up on my family history.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - All of this sounds so fascinating Cary! You SHOULD do your research! My grandmother always said we were related to Jesse James,, but I’ve been able to debunk that. His mother was the sister of a step-mother. Oh, how family rumors start…..ReplyCancel

  • Carol Cassara - This is a timely post for me, since I’m just back from doing some initial research in Sicily. I came back with a clue to something I’m following up on that could be juicy, but not as juicy as yours!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Genealogy is sooooo fascinating. I’ve yet to visit so many of the places my ‘people’ have actually lived. Wouldn’t THAT be a great trip? Why yes it would- you just proved it!!ReplyCancel

  • Kathleen O'Donnell - I’m adopted, from Taiwan, so I don’t know much about my blood relatives. I have quite a few dysfunctional relatives so I’m not too excited to seek out more! But, I can see how fascinating it could be to know some of these things. Too bad you don’t have any people in the Bonaventure cemetery! You’d have an excuse to hang out there…the coolest place in all the world.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Two questions: 1) from Taiwan???? and 2) What’s this Bonaventure Cemetery???? I need to go there.ReplyCancel

      • Kathleen O'Donnell - Yes, I’m half Asian. I was adopted at birth in Taiwan by American, military parents who were stationed in Taiwan.

        Cheryl…the Bonaventure is THE place to hang (if you’re into that sort of thing, which I am) and it’s in your hood! It was made famous by the book Midnight in the Garden of Good and Evil.ReplyCancel

  • Elaine Ambrose - Fascinating! You could write a separate blog about every relative. Start with the one who ran off with the priest…ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - I really could. What stories I could tell….ReplyCancel

  • Kim Tackett - Oh my goodness, you have a lifetime of stories there…to learn and to write. Love that you did the research and love the stories (and I agree, 18 babies…yikes).ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Holy Shit!!! 18!!! She lost her virginity and then died. Between the two events she had babies. What a life.ReplyCancel

  • Shy'ro Channing - Amazing what a history & your sense of humour kills me lol. I have to admit I have been curious but haven’t really found out that much thus far.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Making fun of myself is cheaper then therapy.ReplyCancel

  • Diane Tolley - Absolutely fascinating! There’s nothing more exciting and unbelievable than true life!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - That’s for sure. And this is only a ‘selection’ from my files. Oh boy….ReplyCancel

  • William Kendall - One of my forefathers was a landscape architect for the Dutch royal family. One of my sisters-in-law counts General James Longstreet among the members of her extended family, so somewhere along the line one of his kin ended up a Canadian.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Oh! I forgot! My ggggrandfather was Joseph Gouguen. One of the fathers of Acadia. He negotiated with the American Founders over Acadian support for the ‘Rebels’ in America. Have you ever heard about him?ReplyCancel

  • Lisa Carpenter - This is fascinating, Cheryl! I love hearing about such finds. I know a lot on my dad’s side but very little (nearly nothing) on my mom’s. She refuses to share… as does her sister… which makes me wonder all the more. ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - As it should. I’m REALLY good at this. If you want me to dig- give me a call.ReplyCancel

  • Cathy Chester - Terribly fascinating, Cheryl and of course your funny spin helps too. But you are so blessed to know your heritage. You should be on that show on PBS about learning your roots. I’d LOVE to be on that show.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Me too! I wish someone would contact me and do all the work, send me to all the right places with pro’s helping, and then wrap it all up in a neat little bow.ReplyCancel

  • Femme-de-Finesse - I’ve walked a similar path. It’s such a roller coaster of emotions as I become proud of those I “meet” then disappointed with the next person. Fun way to explore history, though!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Yes it is! I can’t imagine (now) not knowing no matter what. And I haven’t unearthed everything. There are still people (situations) living people won’t talk about- which makes me want to know more! Wishing you safe travels on your own exploration!ReplyCancel

  • Ruth Curran - I think that having all those children might have also contributed to all that drinking…and liver failure….and marrying family members :)!!! I love your perspective and how you weave a tale – you crack me up and I love it! ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Thanks Ruth! Maybe? I know it would have me! HAHahahaaaaReplyCancel

  • Mari Collier - All my ancestors came from Germany. The maternal line had carpenters, bakers, and my Great-grandfather was a sailor. The last time he came home from the sea, he hung himself because my Great-grandmother put my Grandmother out of the house (you can guess the reason), and my Grandfather (her first cousin) paid her way to America. She wouldn’t have been let into the country with a two-year-old child and no husband, but people were clever then. She wore widows weeds and a golden band with a black mark on it (that denoted the death of a husband). The other side has an interesting story too.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - My husband’s side has a similar story. His grandfather is the son of a ‘French Soldier’ and his mother immigrated unmarried with the child, from Sweden, where she was placed on the outskirts of town. Wow.ReplyCancel

  • Angela Weight - You are so funny. Your family sounds a lot like mine without the French cursing.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - There was a lot of cursing- in several languages. Hahaaaaa.ReplyCancel

  • Wendy Walker Cushing - That is so fascinating! My mother has paid a geneologist to do this for her and we were all given a book. My husband’s grandmother spent her whole life doing this research and they go back past the Viking times. He is a direct descendant of King Frosty of Finland! There are some other interesting characters like that. haha ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - King Frosty? Any relation to Kris Kringle? hahaaaaaReplyCancel

  • Rosalind Warren - Well of COURSE you’re descended from royalty? Aren’t we all? 🙂ReplyCancel

  • Linda - A couple of years before she died a great aunt, told us of ancestors known as the Harp Brothers, who have been dubbed Kentucky’s first serial killers. They made their living by killing and taking what they wanted. There is a marker (Harp’s Head) in Kentucky at the site where one had had his head cut off and displayed on a stake. After their deaths surviving family members changed the name to Erp. We do know we have Erp ancestors but have not made an official connection. Their story is available on the internet.
    That same aunt told us that she had never seen her birth certificate so we got a copy for her. It had her name listed as one she had never known. She said her parents were very superstitious and thought they probably believed if they didn’t use her true name that death could not find her.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - WOW!!! I LOVE these stories. I’ve never heard of the Harp Brothers, or using a different name on a certificate to thwart death. Fascinating. I hope you do the research and share it with all of us. I would LOVE to know more!!!!ReplyCancel

  • Rasma Raisters - I was born and raised in New York City. I am an American-Latvian. My parents and all other relatives were born and raised in Latvia. My parents had to leave their homeland during WWII. My dad Eriks Raisters was a popular Latvian poet and writer. ReplyCancel

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