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How many times have you heard ‘Follow Your Passion’?   And, how many times have you thought, even felt, like somehow, you’re ‘Passion’ must be hiding behind that big stack of unpaid bills?   How many times have you been advised to ‘Find what you’re passionate about and do THAT’?   How many times have […]

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  • Sanrizz - I AGREEEEEEEEE! OMG! It’s like you’ve read my mind. You have no idea how many time I wondered if there was something extremely wrong with me! Thank you!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Oh no. There is NOTHING wrong with you. I don’t know who started this additional ‘guilt-trip’ of advise but I call FOUL.ReplyCancel

  • Michelle - I REALLY needed to read this. Thank you so much for sharing!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - You are so welcome. I feel a lot of us need to consider giving ourselves a break.ReplyCancel

  • Kathleen O'Donnell - Exactly. Writing was more fun before I got published. Now it’s an “I have to” instead of an “I want to.” Be careful what you wish for…ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Be Careful What You Wish For, a cautionary tale.ReplyCancel

  • Lynda@fitnessmomwinecountry - Cheryl, I loved this so much ..I read it twice and will most likely go over again. It is so right on. I know there is nothing wrong with me or my head and thoughts. I am loving living life just as I am and being a mom and wife are my passions that shine through. All the rest is just icing {fat free of course} on the cake. 🙂 BravoReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - I saw some kind of award ceremony where the WINNER ( I hate that word) said to the audience ‘Don’t let anyone stop you from following your Passion’, and I thought ‘ Really? Okay. That’s easy. No problemo. Gee, why didn’t I think of that’. Idiot.ReplyCancel

  • Kim Tackett - Most of the things I love doing, I am not very good at. And some of the stuff I am really good at, I don’t really love doing. And sometimes it’s not even about passion…it’s about joy, satisfaction and discovery. Thought provoking piece, thank you.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - You hit it on the ‘head’ Kim. ON THE HEAD!ReplyCancel

  • MIchelle S. - Beautifully written. Right now I’m thrilled that my occupation and passion align. But, I have also had the experience of turning a passion into profit, and then watching the joy drain out of it. When you let others in by accepting money for your talent, you are also letting them into the process and giving them freedom to critique and comment. You’ll never view the activity in the same way again.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Yes. I’m not suggesting that ‘passions’ can’t be, or shouldn’t be, channeled into some kind of career- it’s just that so many people of influence make so many people without influence question their destiny, even make them feel like they have failed in some way. And that’s not accurate, fair, or even smart. Thanks for stopping by.ReplyCancel

  • Karen D. Austin - Agreed. I am very passionate about yoga, so much so that people ask me over and over again if I’m going to teach it. No. Way! That would make it a job, and then the joy it brings me would die. (And I have been a professional teacher for decades; yoga is a place for me to detach from that kind of bossy pants energy.) Glad you preserved good boundaries on what makes you happy!ReplyCancel

  • Kathleen O'Donnell - When your passion sucks the life out of you. Great post from Cheryl NichollReplyCancel

  • Cathy Chester - There are so many parts of us that we are, in a way, living our passions in our group. Writing, connecting, supporting, encouraging and not judging each other on what we do, how we write, and who we are. At least that’s my take on it. Passion is in the eye of the beholder. ReplyCancel

  • Janie Emaus - I loved this. I am passionate about my family and my writing and walking and laughing and…the list could on. I think passion is one of the greatest qualities a person can possess. Whatever that passion is. ReplyCancel

  • Ellen Dolgen - I never really had a hobby. I always thought maybe I was weird because I never really had a hobby. My friends had hobbies.
    Then I realized I DO have a passion. I am passionate about having fun and joy in my life and creating fun and joy in the lives of my friends and family. Love this blog…. I agree…..living life is the great passion!ReplyCancel

  • Ines Roe - I love what you say. I am one of those people who help women try and create a vision (passion by another name) of what they want in their life. But both words sound so solemn. The idea is to find something that is fun, fills you up and helps you get over the bumps it life. It doesn’t have to be a grandiose endeavor – just something fun!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - I often times think it’s the small passions that are the most rewarding. And I agree with having them to help get over the ‘bumps’ in life! So true. You sound really good at what you do! We all need more of you. Ha!ReplyCancel

  • Tam Warner Minton - We all make choices, and I’m glad yours have made you HAPPY!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Thank you. I hope yours have as well.ReplyCancel

  • Tammy Stafford - You seem passionate about that. 😉 Second blog I’ve ready on following passions this week….and very well said!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Hahaaa. I guess I am! I never thought about this piece that way. Thank you!ReplyCancel

  • Diane Tolley - One of my DILs is a fantastic artist. Fantastic. When I asked her to illustrate my books, she refused for the very reasons you describe. “I enjoy it too much to make it a job.” I didn’t understand her then. I do now. Thank you!ReplyCancel

  • Rena McDaniel - It’s something so simple and yet most of us chase it our whole lives and miss so much.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Passion can be like quicksilver can’t it? I hope for passion in everyones life- at least once. But to make it something you seek, or try to create just defeats it’s incarnation. Thanks Rena. For commenting.ReplyCancel

  • Deborah Batchelor - LOVE this one!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Ohhhh. Myyyyyy. GOD! You are here! You read me!!! There has never been a happier SIL! LOVE AND MISS YOU PASSIONATELY (yes everyone- this is my sister-n-law).ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - And I LOVE YOU!ReplyCancel

  • Mari Collier - Well, it’s nice to know I’m so passionate. I’ll admit I must be. What I need now is my husband back so that he can put his arms around me and say,, “Aw, calm down, Mari,” when I get too passionate about something. Hugs.ReplyCancel

  • Esther Lombardi - I love those: Follow curiosity or follow the sunrise.

    I also was in a discussion today about the “follow your passion” mentality. There are all those moments in our lives that are not particularly inspired. It’s only later (looking back) that we realize the true significance of all those moments…ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - So true. At least we often realize the great moments in reflection. Can you imagine being able to recognize them all when they are occurring? We’d all be stopped in our tracks and never get anything done.ReplyCancel

  • Lois Alter Mark - Elizabeth Gilbert has a great video where she says don’t worry about following your passion — just follow your curiosity. I loved that, and I love this post!ReplyCancel

  • Alyson Shitastrophy Herzig - Cheryl you truly are a candy dish of amazing and awesomeness. I never know what I am gonna pull out but they are all good and sweet. ReplyCancel

  • Bodynsoil - Agreed and wonderfully stated. I don’t find the work the issue at any of my jobs. It tends to be who I work with that makes all the difference.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Oohhhh. Don’t get me started on THAT one.ReplyCancel

  • Linda Roy - I feel like the “follow your passion” concept is a new one. At least for me. My mother did encourage my passions, but always made sure I understood that making a living was numero uno even if you absolutely dreaded getting out of bed in the morning to go and do it. Hence, I always pursued things that were uber not lucrative while siting in cubicles seemingly wasting my life away and hating every moment of it. I think following your passion is important, but I completely agree that if you find something you don’t hate with the fiery passion of 1,000 suns, you’re good at it and you can make a living at it – BINGO!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Sure. I’m not saying following your ‘passion’ is a bad thing. If you can make a living at it great. But there are a lot of people that have no idea what their passion is and feel like there’s something wrong with them. I just wanted those people to know that NOT KNOWING is okay too. PASSION is a BIG word isn’t it? 1,000 suns is what most people think they have to feel. Hey! That’s a good title for a new song girl- get on it!!ReplyCancel

  • KymberlyFunFit - My passion has been trying to find my passion. Ok not really. I have always felt left out of the passion convo as I could not id one burning, driving desire. Thanks for exposing the myth!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - ANother part of the myth is this; My challenge has always been that I have TOO MANY- so which one to focus on and does that mean that I’ll have to leave the others behind if I concentrate on just one? I don’t want to do that, so I rotate them, which means I have become expert at none of them. But I’m okay with that. As for exposing the MYTH in all of it’s complications- it has been a pleasure.ReplyCancel

  • Lillian Connelly - I think what we really need to do is change the way we define success and find happiness in our daily moments. Doing what we love or are passionate about doesn’t have to be tied to monetary gain in order for us to feel successful.ReplyCancel

  • Roshni - I guess you and I have different perspectives on this but I’m intrigued with your take on the topic, Cheryl! How awesome that you sing and play so well!! A vlog perhaps?!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - I USED TO play and sing well. That ship has left the dock.ReplyCancel

  • Dana - This made me think how involved kids are in so many different activities, and at such an intensity that they burn out. The girl who loves lacrosse quits before she’s 16 because she plays it all the time, and has lost her passion for it.

    If you’re happy doing what you are doing, don’t mess with it.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Would that girl happen to have had lunch recently at Coquette?ReplyCancel

  • Jana - I’ve always been the Jill of all trades, master of none. Basically, I like a lot of different things — but I’ll never be world famous for any of them. I also have an incredibly short attention span — so I just enjoy my passions while they last, and then move onto the next one.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - I think that’s great. Passions can burn-out quickly and change often. Moving on is a healthy choice I think. Bravo.ReplyCancel

  • Piper george - I haven’t really found a passion yet – and that does worry me!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - You may not. You may find many. They may change or be short-lived. No problemo! You’re perfect just the way you are! All things about you are in the right place. Now ENJOY!ReplyCancel

What do you get when you combine a guilty pleasure in a huge crowd of other people who have the same guilty pleasure (aside from knowing your not alone and your Mother was wrong all along)?     You get Country Living Magazine’s Fair and a whole lotta happy happy pinch-me-now. Because if you love […]

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  • William Kendall - What a trailer! It has a lot of character.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Aren’t they great! Like a little box of perfect.ReplyCancel

  • Carol Cassara - You could film a movie in that, the setting is so perfect for that era! Fun to see!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Such fun. I want all of those trailers!ReplyCancel

  • Linda Roy - This is all so right up my alley. I have a subscription to Country Living and I’m giddy when it arrives. I love all of it. I want that white table. And the Hills Brothers coffee can sure gave me a flashback. The fair sounds like heaven.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - I can SO see you toolin’ around in an old vintage trailer that reflects your personality. With your guitar and a campfire, and hot coffee and me right behind you in mine. Boy- we’d have a good time, and we could share all of our favorite ideas in the latest edition and maybe go junkin’ along the way! Yes!!!!ReplyCancel

      • Linda Roy - That’s it – pack your bags, we’re goin’ on tour!ReplyCancel

        • Cheryl - Right? I can SO see you in one of these- the guitar, the boots, your kickass’tude! I want to be your sidekick though. Promise.ReplyCancel

  • Phil - I could easily live in that trailer! It looks like a set out of I Love Lucy and American Pickers! Cool.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Yes. Yes. Yes Phil! Exactly! They are so compact but everything you need is right there! You really have to see them in person to get the full effect. My pic’s don’t do them justice. So many details are lost. Thanks for stopping by! ANd I LOVE American Pickers!ReplyCancel

  • Kristi Rieger Campbell - OMG I want to have wine and use the bathrooms in ALL of those!! Awesome. Going to check out your mamapedia now 🙂 and congratulations!ReplyCancel

  We have two, or three, children, depending on when you entered our lives.   I usually say, we have two biological children and an adopted child, though we never legally adopted our third.   Confusing?   Maybe.   Let me explain.   Ben and I birthed (who are we kidding? I BIRTHED our two […]

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  • Lux Ganzon - You’ve got a lovely family. And that looks like a cozy apartment.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - It did turn out great. It was a pain in the ass- but it turned out great. It’s all about them- right? snoozzzzzzzzeeeeeeReplyCancel

  • Chloe Jeffreys - Damn girl! You gots talent! Very nice. So cozy. I wish I lived near you and could spend time learning from you. You have skillz.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - I come from a l-o-n-g line of designers. The apple didn’t fall that far- it never does. -wink-ReplyCancel

  • Shelley Zurek - Wonderful redecoration. I swear I am looking at a magazine. You really understand lighting.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Wow- you really saw that? Wonderful!!! Yes- lighting is an often times greatly overlooked accessory. you’ve got a good eye!!!ReplyCancel

  • Lisha Fink - And now she lives in a pleasant house, as well. Good work, mama.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - How clever! I should have used that line Lisha! Are you a writer or something? -wink-ReplyCancel

  • Sue - I like how you added the small table next to the island and the new chairs for the island with backs, plus the lamps in the bathroom and kitchen make it look so homey.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - The island stopped before the ceramic tile on the floor Sue, leaving this’area’ that was open so it looked like the perfect spot for an extension using her table (I love these chairs- so retro). There was an electrical outlet under the counter at the end of the island so… voila! As for table top lighting in the loo- I always try to do that. Makes using it a pleasure!ReplyCancel

  • Manal The Go Go Girl - Beautiful job! Love what you’ve done with the apartment. And bravo for taking in your third baby 🙂ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Thanks Manal! Sometimes life throws you a curve ball- or a big box of an apartment.ReplyCancel

  • Diane Tolley - Gorgeous! The homemaking fairy endowed you royally!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Yes she did. Her christian name was Mom. At she was a tough task-master. HahaaaaaReplyCancel

  • David Stillwell - I fear you left the reader hanging with the long introduction to Tyler and then you derailed into lamps. So if you can go back and tell us more about Tyler that would be heavenly… BTW awesome job on the apartment and Ned is interestingly handsome while curiously distancing. 🙂ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - So… you want more Tyler story? I hear ya.ReplyCancel

  • Mari Collier - Fancy digs. Just wait. They always move back at least once. Mine did it twice. One couple at church were tired of moving their daughter in and out of different places. They really gave thanks when she married.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - So far- only Tyler. Now, he lives just around the corner. Does that count?ReplyCancel

  • Rena McDaniel - Wow! I’m sure my hubby would sign me over for adoptionReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - You’d have to get in line Hahahaaa!ReplyCancel

  • Johnny Serio - Well since I stumbled across this eloquent essay of yours, I had better comment…
    I remember very well that transition in your lives, and I think no one knew exactly what to make of it at the time…bold, if nothing else. You have led by example for your children and all who witnessed. Very proud of you, good work!
    ooxx, johnny ReplyCancel

  • Gary Sidley - What fabulous room transformations. An expert in interior design; your skills know no bounds.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - I really should have gone into Interior Design but then I’d have to work with people- a deal breaker.ReplyCancel

  • Rhonda - Holy Cow. I’m in my 30’s and my house isn’t as well decorated as that apartment! Nicely done!ReplyCancel

  • Cary - You did a smashing job! Love it (though I think she may have a cat infestation).ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Oh yes. She does- two of them. The apple not falling far (and all that).ReplyCancel

  • Johnny Serio - Yes, I remember Tyler being a REALLY good kid! Love and miss you all too!ReplyCancel

  • MJM - Are you available to decorate a friend’s house, I’d pay you…do you accept foodstamps?ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - A ‘friend’? Do they have wine?ReplyCancel

  The other week, my honey, told me that he had rented out a racetrack, exclusively, for his best customers.    What exactly does this mean, I thought?   “What do you  mean?”   “I’ve rented out a Nascar racetrack, outside of Chicago, to take all of my best customers too”.   “What do you […]

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  • Susan Bonifant - I am some impressed by your knowledge of this. And I love your take on the gritty edges. I had to temper my need for speed after some serious skiing accidents, but I still need a little more of what you’re having.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Hahahaaaaa. You had be giggling. The reason I have any knowledge is that my father toyed with being a racecar driver long ago. This was the first time behind the wheel since I was a teenager. As far as ‘what I’m having’ I’ll mix up a batch. HA!ReplyCancel

  • Darcy Perdu (So Then Stories) - Damn, girl! You “git ‘er done!” Very brave! You little speed demon you! :o)ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - You only live once- but I’m NOT jumping out of a plane! Which my son is trying to get me to do. Damn kids and their dares.ReplyCancel

  • Cary Vaughn - Oh my gosh. That is so cool. Were you not terrified of losing control of the car?ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - No. I was with a professional driver in the co-pilot seat. But he did say I was a quick learn.HahaaReplyCancel

  • Sue - You are so fun. Look at all the scrathes and dings on the helmets!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Not from accidents- unless you consider actually getting INTO the damn thing! Jezz- what a tight space! And HOT!!!!!ReplyCancel

  • Lana - SO cool! My son will be very jealous when I show this to him!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - It’s expensive- so maybe a Xmas gift Lana? HahahaaaaReplyCancel

  • Carollynn Hammersmith - You are too cool for words, Cheryl, too cool by far. I’m impressed and jealous all at the same time.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - I don’t like speed. It feels out-of-control but since both of the kids did it, I couldn’t let them say Mom was a chicken!ReplyCancel

  • Connie McLeod - so friggin’ awesoneReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - It was a blast Connie! I had to leave my fear of high speeds on the track but it was worth it!ReplyCancel

  • Kathleen O'Donnell - Look at you! Go, girl.ReplyCancel

  • Rena McDaniel - I grew up with racing and Nascar its something my husband and I enjoy but only from our living room or local sportsbar!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - I grew-up with it too, but, until the other week, didn’t want to get a mile near it, but it was FUN!ReplyCancel

  • Mari Collier - You live in a far different world than I do. The danger used to be going rattlesnake hunting. I don’t do that anymore. Really cool!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - I don’t mind snakes, though once in Tennessee our dog jumped in a river and the Water Moccasins went after him. They didn’t get to him- thank God.ReplyCancel

  • Jane Pfenning Potee - So inspiring! Did the same thing on my 50th birthday at the Michigan International Speedway. No one can take that away. Life is pretty cool at 150+ mph. ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Yes. Yes it is. ANd Hot. VERY HOT. Those suits about did me in!ReplyCancel

  • Ellen Dolgen - Only you! You Go GIrl!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - The heat in the suits made hot flashes seem like an Alaskan winter. OMG!ReplyCancel

  We here at A Pleasant House, have many visitors.     Some are actual 3-D flesh and blood humans that come for a visit.   Most have an idea about what they want to see and do.   Some need a little inspiration.   Others could make some BIG mistakes if it weren’t for […]

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  • Angel The Alien - Hmm, yeah, I can see how the names Storyville and Storyland can be confused! I wonder if that happens to a lot of people? For instance maybe they’re lost, and they stop and ask, “Can you give us directions to Storyville?” and people look at them like they’re crazy.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - People still think Storyville exists. It doesn’t. It’s not Las Vegas- close, but no cigar.ReplyCancel

  • Carol Cassara - Whoa, now THAT’s confusion worthy of a blog post! I knew about ‘ville but not ‘land.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Confusion to the tenth power and it happens all of the time.ReplyCancel

  • Lana - So funny! Storyland looks like fun. Storyville?…well, depends on the circumstances I guess 🙂ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - But Storyland has a toy boat for any sailor that gets confused. HheheheeeeeeReplyCancel

  • Lisa Carpenter - Good to know! I hope to one day visit New Orleans. And Storyville (w/o grandkids), Storyland (w/grandkids) and YOU… with time for a drink or two or three (w/o kids… w/hubby). Cheers and thanks for the travel tip!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - That would be fabu Lisa! If you’re ever down my way you better give me a call. There are so many things to do/see!ReplyCancel

  • Eve Gaal - Hilarious. I tweeted it. This sounds like great information for a novel set in Nawlins. I’ve been there several times and the highlights for me include the Garden District, Cable Cars, St. Louis Cathedral, The Court of Two Sisters and Cafe du Monde. AND JAZZ! (Pete Fountain, etc.) So old school and predictable. Of course, I also like to walk across the street to the Mississippi and last time I discovered the casino which upset my husband so much I thought he’d have a fit and throw me down the river.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - All of your choices are must-do’s’- including Harrah’s. (ps: I live in the Garden District).ReplyCancel

  • Roshni - ahahahahhah!!! I see how one could get confused!! “The rides”!!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Well, since Storyville doesn’t exist anymore I don’t see how anyone could GET confused and yet people still ask where Storyville is!????ReplyCancel

  • Cary - Oh my gah. I hope they keep those rides sanitized. No telling what diseases are lying dormant in that soil.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Hahahaa. Thankfully the amusement park is not on the former Madame’s hallowed ground. Treme has that pleasure.ReplyCancel

  • Rena McDaniel - I was waiting on that one because of a blog post I did a couple of months ago about things that used to be legal. This is where I found out that it was called Storyville. I visited there last July New Orleans not Storyville much to my hubby’s disappointment. Can’t say it’s a place I would like to visit again, not on my much loved places although parts of it were beautiful.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Next time you visit give me a jingle- I’ll show you all the beauty.ReplyCancel

  • Vashti Q - Ah, ha,ha,ha,ha! ReplyCancel

  • Gary Sidley - I can see how it might be problematic to confuse the two.ReplyCancel

  • Katy Bug - It seems unwise to name an amusement park something so similar to Storyville. Don’t these people know their prostitution related history? Sigh.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - It really does seem stupid. Then again- it’s New Orleans where not much makes sense. Hahaaa Thanks for stopping by Katy.ReplyCancel

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