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A lot has happened since my sign-off in August of last year.   Part of the reason I choose to exit was the sure knowledge, supplemented by the increasing vitriol I read on social media, that many of my readers and I were not cut from the same cloth, which is fine since I love […]

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  • A concernedcitizen - Wow, this is just a bunch of incoherent rambling. I don’t even know what you are trying to say. Frightening that people actually find this enlightening/inspiring.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Wow, frightening that you find it incoherent.ReplyCancel

  • Roy A Ackerman, PhD, EA - So, as is true for most posts about the left and the right, there are germs of truth. But, to equate the stupidity or lassitude of Zeke Miller (who works by the way for a RIGHT WING leaning organization) with the rest of the media is unfortunate. Oh, sure, I saw your mentioned the mendicant Sean Spicer in the same paragraph. But, it it the fake news that permeates the avenues (Mr. Banion’s previous location) that is more corrosive to our nation’s democracy.
    And, I am of the male gender. So, my comments on feminism are immediately tainted. I agree with you, but your equating a heinous attack on Mr. Trump’s son or what fashions someone wears has NOTHING to do with feminism. (Other than those that said it were female.) It’s stupidity, it’s cattiness, but not feminism.
    And, I have listened. Being Jewish and having lived in the South, I recognize the dog whistles employed. And, understand the dangers they expect to impose upon us citizens.
    The fact that you didn’t protest Obama’s election is fine- but Mr. Trump clearly was among the leaders of that movement, claiming he was not American born, claiming he lied about his matriculation and education- all to negate his presidency. Protesting the policies does not mean one doesn’t know who won the election. (Perhaps it would be very useful if you studied the Bill of Rights.) And, why folks who voted for Mr. Trump to “drain the swamp” don’t protest the alligators he is putting in the cabinet to protect the swamp is beyond me.
    I am a US citizen. I am also a world citizen. Because we can’t pull America off the globe and relocate it to another (otherwise uninhabited) planet. That is not an elitist point of view- it’s a simple fact of where we are and the world around us.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - First, thank you for commenting, and allow me to reply in kind: Time Magazine has not been Right leaning since the Nixon Administration. As for Fake News, in my past experience fake news had always harbored within the pages of sensationalist tabloids. It no longer does. No matter where it comes from it’s a loss for the populace. I think we agree on that point.

      Now for feminism. Your comments are not tainted here because you are male. I grew-up with a feminist male. They exist. I’m glad they do- that you do. My using the recent examples of Barron and Melania being viciously maligned, to scold feminists, was to illustrate that so many self-proclaimed enlightened feminists do, in fact, not possess or practice the basic tenant of the ideology: support the female, and her choices, when others are are especially using stereotypes in an attempt to delegitimize their choices. This has EVERYTHING to do with feminism.

      As for your being Jewish and living in the South and dogwhistles (explosive metaphor btw) being used… you’ve lost me (I think) unless what you’re implying is that closed-minded people tend to stick together, of which I agree, but not just in the South, but that is not an exclusive Jewish experience- it could be any minority finding themselves in unfamiliar territory with the ‘They’. Who are the ‘They’ you refer to?

      The fact that I didn’t protest President Obama’s election was a result of my accepting (and even celebrating) his legitimate triumph. Al Gore provided a much more serious challenge then any bloviating Trump did.

      My problem with the term ‘Citizen of the World’ is that it is in fact not factually possible, or theologically accurate. It is more of an emotional/intellectual statement, one that is often times used to imply superiority by default:”I’ve been there. They do it differently. It’s better. Trust me. If you had been there you’d know.” I also, Mr. Ackerman, am a US citizen and have travelled our globe, visiting many different cultures- not all of them democratic. While I have never found the *common (*term used as a tool of arithmetic not character assassination) people anything but ‘salt of the Earth’, there are many countries governances I would not emulate.

      And postscript: I carry a copy of the Bill Of Rights in my purse.ReplyCancel

  • Deb K. - Thank you SO much for writing this. You sum up what I have been feeling so well! I am so disheartened by what is happening in our country. I, too, respect the right to protest, but it feels like people now think that those who speak loudest or have a celebrity face to their cause are the most important. There is a lot lacking in substance, and is made up with just noise. And I so wanted to support the women’s march, but it got so messy and ugly. And as you say- women don’t seem to support each other, they only support those who are doing and saying what they want. It’s a shame. Again, thank you for the insightful post!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Thank you for taking the time to comment Deb.ReplyCancel

  • Nita B - Thank you Cheryl! Well said. Wish I could say more but the thought police might pull into my driveway.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Well, we don’t want that!*wink*ReplyCancel

  • Bethany - Thank you. So many thoughts I have had, but unable to put to pen (ok, keyboard). May peace reign over our great nation.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - My pleasure. Thank you for commenting.ReplyCancel

  • Darcy Stuckey - Once again, love the post!ReplyCancel

  • Jeannine - I just found this post by way of I don’t know what/how! Wow! And thank you. I found it very coherent and that it certainly needed to be said. Thank you very much. I certainly hope this is not your last post – the joke would be on me as now that I finally have found you, you are gone.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Well aren’t you a sweetheart! But Im sorta ‘gone’. It all depends on how pissed off I get. heheeeeeReplyCancel

  • julie - Wow… Concernedcitizen’s’s comment just proved your point.

    And Mr. Ackerman, PhD…. I think you meant mendacious, not mendicant… mendicants are beggars, and the mendacious are not truthful… better polish up that degree. Your comments are so filled with stereotype and talking points, there really isn’t any substance.

    Just stumbled on this blog, and will follow for a bit, I suspect the author and I will agree on little, but it’s nice to find a woman capable of clear thought….ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Thank you Julie. Yes- my thoughts are clear, though not always understood as is evident by the comments you referenced above. Dear Lord….ReplyCancel

Dear Readers, All four 178,000 of you.   You may (or may not, uhummm) have noticed I’ve been posting less and less. This is not because I don’t have something brilliant to say. Perish the thought. It is because there have been, and still are, sooooo many important and exciting changes going on in my world […]

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  • Ellen Dolgen - Can’t wait to hear what you are up to my dear! Don’t worry about us……..do your thing! We shall wait with bated breath to hear the “deets”!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - I’m reviving up a political campaign- Vote For Common Sense with a deep dose of Standing Tall. *wink* and XXXOOO my darling friend.ReplyCancel

  • Carollynn - My hiatus started in the summer of 2014. I thought I didn’t have anything more to say, when in reality, I was done decorating/renovating/etc. with that particular house. I thought the new house would be the inspiration I needed to kick start the return to blogging. Right now, we’re still slogging through the final stages of the move and deciding what the heck to do with the old house. Perhaps my blogging hiatus will come to an end, perhaps not. You only have 1 life to live, and sometimes living it is more important than documenting it on social media.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Amen sister. Amen. ps: I still follow whatever you post. XXOOReplyCancel

  • Diane - We’ll be here. Missing you!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - And I’ll be somewhere out there watching all of you. XXOOReplyCancel

  • Elaine Ambrose - Please give us a few tidbits of your adventures. You don’t need to complete an entire blog post – just throw a few crumbs so we know you’re still sassy.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Somehow I will figure this all out because I just can’t keep the sass down! Hahaaaaaaa Stay tuned.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - just a tease?…. Can you say ‘Low country’? heheeeeeReplyCancel

  • Cathy Sikorski - Well, okay sister…whatever you need. But we will wait like a beleaguered lover who will never desert you!! Good luck. Enjoy the journey and see you on the flip side!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Well, aren’t you the sweetest thing to ever walk the Earth! I LOVE beleaguered lovers. I’ve left a few in my wake! HA!ReplyCancel

  “But to see her was to love her, love but her, and love forever.”- Robert Burns   “Take these walnuts next door. Tell them we will kill the black pig on the ‘morrow.”- Christine DeLuca     Yes.   I understand.   You where in Edinburgh, Bob, and had dinner at a pub.   […]

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  • Carol Cassara - It’s definitely a cool city. I loved it, as well. And I might go back next summer for the Fringe Festival.ReplyCancel

  • Tam Warner Minton - On my list! Have not been there yet!ReplyCancel

  • Ellen Dolgen - I have never been. After reading this, David and I def need to put this on our list.ReplyCancel

  • Sue Loncaric - Yes I love Edinburgh although it is many years since I visited. This is certainly my kind of place so thanks for taking me from Australia to Edinburgh through your post.ReplyCancel

  • Leanne Le Cras - what an amazing lifestyle the rich lived – a tinkle of the bell and you could have soup wherever and whenever you wanted it! Not quite so fabulous for the Help but that’s what life was all about in those times and lovely to experience a snippet of it.ReplyCancel

  • Lois Alter Mark - We’re hoping to get to Scotland next year. You’ve now bumped it up the list!ReplyCancel

  I have been blessed to visit Britain several times.   I have never gone for the food- until recently.   There is a buzz among those that eat for a living (I read magazines instead) that Britain has turned a culinary corner, that meat pasties washed down with ale are not the only fare […]

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  • Haralee - These sound great. My sister is in UK now so I will grill her when she comes home because she likes to eat too!ReplyCancel

  • Cathy Lawdanski - This post made me hungry! Both places sound fabulous!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - So many places. SO little time…ReplyCancel

  • Lois Alter Mark - Okay, I’m drooling now. We’ve had some fantastic meals in London that have nothing to do with traditional English dishes – although I do love fish and chips. Just not with mushy peas.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - I love the traditional fare but the nouveau dishes are to die for! I LOVE mushy peas! HahahaaaReplyCancel

  • Carol Cassara - I need to travel with you, girl. you know all the hotspots! I love the UK and especially England. Well, ok, all of it.ReplyCancel

  • Tam Warner Minton - I love England, and haven’t been there in ages. Thanks for the reminder!ReplyCancel

  • Rebecca Forstadt Olkowski - I loved London when I was there but the time I spent there was way too short. Can’t wait to go back.ReplyCancel

  • Rena McDaniel - I want to visit london as soon as possible, The food sounds amazing.ReplyCancel

  • Helene Cohen Bludman - I also found the food to be uniformly good in England. A far cry from the way it was years ago!ReplyCancel

  • Shannon Holmes Anderson - I was in London twenty years ago, and even then I thought the food was fantastic! I would love to go back and taste the Renaissance!!!ReplyCancel

  • Ellen Dolgen - I love London. Many moons ago, I would say the food was just average….but we were there a few years ago and it was fantastic. What great memories for you and your daughter.ReplyCancel

  • Sue Loncaric - I love the UK but it is so far from Australia I’ve only been a couple of times. It is only list to visit again so thanks for some ideas of where the great food and ghosts are! Sue from Sizzling Towards Sixty.ReplyCancel

  • Mari Collier - Heavens, when did the Brits learn to eat like that? The brews, however, have been fruit flavored here for decades. I tasted apricot up in Washington (state) in the 1980’s. The ghosts might not appreciate the new fare. I thought they wanted everything the same.ReplyCancel

  • Leanne Le Cras - so NOT what you expect from the Poms Cheryl – nice to see they have more going for them than mushy peas and pies!ReplyCancel

  • Estelle Sobel Erasmus - Love watching you on your travels. I had so much fun when I was last in jolly old England (not so jolly since Britext), but still… Enjoy!ReplyCancel

  • Rosemond Perdue-Cranner - OK, yes so much has changed if London is now a foodie town. And hello, beer flight?! How awesome does that sound!ReplyCancel

  • Myke Todd - Glad you had such a time, exploring culinary delights.

    Ghosts? For reals? Oh, my!ReplyCancel

  • Bright on a Budget - How fun! I’ve never been there, but would love to go! And I’m cracking up about the well-fed ghosts.lolReplyCancel

Remember back in the stone age of social media- like around 2010?     I had heard about this thing called a ‘Blog’ and was led to believe, after looking at a few, that all one had to do was purchase a (dot)com domain, snap a few pic’s and share omnipotence.   Easy… I’m in. […]

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  • Myke Todd - I would trip out if someone in the next county over was to recognize me.ReplyCancel

  • Ellen Dolgen - Your posts are always so fabulous! I adore them! You have always been a celebrity to all of us bloggers…………..nothing new here for us.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - HA! If only that were true but I’m going to choose to stroke that sentiment for all it’s worth because it come from you my dear Guru! XXOOReplyCancel

  • Haralee - Get out of Town! That is really very cool! I take it back, it is very very very Cool!ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - Oh yes, and a dozen more readers that have happened upon New Orleans! I’ve agreed to meet every one of them and it has been such a joy! SO cool is right!ReplyCancel

  • Rebecca Forstadt Olkowski - How fun meeting your readers in exotic parts of the world. It’s amazing to find out who is reading and creating your own celebrity.ReplyCancel

  • sue - I love your take on writing and having a blog. I am still stunned that people actually want to read what I write – little old ordinary me! I have been blogging about 18 months and my favourite part are the readers and the friendships I’ve formed with other bloggers. Sue from Sizzling Towards Sixty.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - It really is a shock even though it’s the result we all hope for- when it happens…wow! I LOVE your blog btw! Your advice always helps keep my sizzle in tact. HA!ReplyCancel

  • Diane Tolley - How much fun is that! And I am not in the least surprised!
    P.S. when you visit Edmonton, Alberta, can I come and meet you? Please? Pleeeease?ReplyCancel

  • Carol Cassara - how lovely! and aren’t you lucky! Of course, you’ll see me at some point, right?ReplyCancel

  • Alana Mautone - It happened to me in Charleston, SC. Not exactly like yours, but she gave me directions to a place we couldn’t find on a previous visit to Charleston, and ended up meeting me at a Civil War reenactment – with her son and her mother, an amazing woman who just turned 91. I’ll treasure that.ReplyCancel

  • Mari Collier - What a wonderful adventure. Of course, you had to meet her and the London fan. Spread the joy around. I cannot believe how many people I’ve connected with over the years. Blog on!ReplyCancel

  • Suzanne Fluhr - I’ve loved meeting up with social media friends and other bloggers during our travels or when they pass through Philly, our hometown. I always thought of myself as reserved, but it turns out that apparently, I’m not. My husband (not a blogger, not on social media) is known as Mr. Excitement on my blog. One day, he came home from an errand after having been quite astonished when someone came up to him on the street and asked if he was Mr. Excitement.ReplyCancel

    • Cheryl - That’s fabulous!!!! My husband has a middle aged male friend that recently told him that he looks forward to my posts in his in-box, that they make his day. My husband had no idea and was amazed. HahhaaaaReplyCancel

  • Kathy Gottberg - Hi Cheryl! What a great tribute and affirmation of your work. Thank you for sharing that bit with us all and reminding us of why we do what we do. I recently had a person I thought pretty well degrade the “blogging life” and while I knew better than argue, it did make me a bit sad. Your words remind me that we usually never know the people we touch but even then, we must remember they are out there. You were just lucky to have met some of them. ~KathyReplyCancel

  • Lois Alter Mark - It always amazes me to run into people who know exactly what I’ve been up to because they read my blog. Yes, those are the people who make all the hard work so rewarding.ReplyCancel

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